When is it morally acceptable to Separate?

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Is it morally acceptable to separate from your husband or wife? Under what conditions?

Is it morally acceptable to separate from your wife (sell the family home, and move apart) when she has comitted adultery, and is not at all repentant?

What about cases where one’s emotional/mental health is collapsing? How should one know such a thing?

Is giving up on a marriage ever okay, or is it always a sin?

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I believe it is morally acceptable if there is a danger of physical, sexual or mental abuse of the spouse or children. Also in the case of repeated adultery. The innocent spouse is not only wrong but also in this day and age being in danger of catching STD’s including Aids from a cheating spouse. You can not remarry even if you are totally innocent of any wrong doing. I could be wrong but this is what I heard.
 
After 32 years of marriage, I had to leave my husband. Many reasons, one of which you say your wife is guilty of. I tried counseling, praying, begging, just about everything. It takes two to make a marriage, he refused to get help of any kind. My health, physical and mental were on the edge, I felt I had no choice and was advised by my Dr. to leave.

Have you tried counseling? Do you think she will continue to be unfaithful? Lots of things to consider. I stuck it out all those years because of the children. The most important part of your life is your children. You should never consider leaving them. They need you in their lives. If you do seperate, you should consider living very close so that the children can have a relationship with both of you. Sometimes this is harder than living together. Morally you can divorce, as long as you do not remarry without having your marriage “nulled”, by the church.

Good luck!!! I shall pray for you!

Love and Peace
 
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Catholic2003:
The canon law on separation describes the acceptable conditions.

In any real-life situation, your priest can advise you better than any Internet forum.
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I didn’t know there *was *a canon law on separation. Thank you!

There is hardly a moral question worthy of even taking to a priest that you cannot find a priest somewhere to sit on either side of it! It is good to know that canon law has these guidelines, too.

Although I see some danger in “parish shopping”, this is a good reason to find a priest-confessor that you trust to lead you right when you don’t feel you can see the right yourself.
 
Hi,

I’ve been reading a lot of the posts on marriage/divorce and came across this one. I’m confused - Bai MacFarlane isn’t divorcing, is she? I clicked on the marysadvocates.org web site and obviously it is not in favor of no-fault divorce, but was this started by Bai because she is getting a divorce???

Thanks,
Sharon
 
whatever anybody else is doing is none of our business. our business is our own salvation. the church has a process in place whereby Catholics get counselling on spiritual problems, it is called confession and speak to your priest. Catholics do not in charity speculate or comment on the behavior of others, and are bound in charity to put the most benign construction on any behavior or living arrangement they observe in their fellow Christians.
 
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momof8:
Bai MacFarlane isn’t divorcing, is she?
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Her husband Bud has abandoned her and is suing for divoce in the U.S. civil courts. Bai is trying to fight this divorce by claiming that Bud, as a Catholic, is contractually bound by the Catholic canon law regarding separation referenced above. I think the big trial is next week.
 
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