Which blessings from the Book of Blessings may lay people give?

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What do you do with the leftovers when your priest friend blesses the food. As from what I have gathered in reading the replies, when a priest/deacon blesses the food, it becomes blessed food and is spiritually different.

Please do not mistake this for a consecration because it is not. The food is blessed for our use and our consumption.
 
As you mentioned in your first post here, the family “blessings” are actually prayers–they aren’t blessings like a priest/deacon blesses. The problem is with the vocabulary. We don’t have a single word to refer to a proper-blessing given by a cleric as distinct from a prayer said for someone by a layperson, and sometimes the word “blessing” is used to refer to both examples.
So let me understand this. If a blessing from a cleric is a “proper-blessing,” then a blessing said by a layperson is an “improper-blessing,” or not a blessing at all? Isn’t it the case that any “proper-blessing,” which begins with the word “may” (e.g., May the blessing of Almighty God…"), is actually a request for a blessing, a request for God to do something, as the word “may” indicates?

What if God’s blessing is given to all who ask? What if God’s blessing is given to all who bless in His name and use the same words? As a child of God, as an heir of heaven, as a baptized “priest, prophet and king,” how would God respond to the recipient of my “improper-blessing,” if the recipient thought s/he were receiving God’s blessing? Who advises God in this, and who makes sure that God’s blessings go where, and when, and to whom, they are supposed to go? (And what if, what if God actually blesses us all everyday, in every circumstance, which God must do, otherwise none of us would be alive?)

It is very hard to hear about God’s blessings being parsed out, where one person even asks what laypeople are doing with the Book of Blessings anyway, like there is something going on that is clandestine, illegal, or putting-light-on-what-is-supposed-to-be-hidden. If blessings make people different than they were before, I know many of people who experience God in blessings that come from the “improper.”

Could the difference that a blessing makes ( “a proper-blessing given by a cleric”) be detailed with more specificity, so that we can all understand how priesthood of the faithful is some kind of reality? How is the effect of God’s presence different to the recipient in a “proper-blessing” than in an “improper blessing”? Does God know, and if not, who tells God? I say that because sounds as if the recipient, who experiences the presence of God through an improper blessing, is in virtual reality. Somehow it sounds like some pharisees getting excited because Jesus broke rules and healed on the Sabbath. Yikes.
Thank you in advance.
 
Hi All,

I understand that lay people may give certain blessings.

Sacramentals derive from the baptismal priesthood: every baptized person is called to be a “blessing,” and to bless.172 Hence lay people may preside at certain blessings; the more a blessing concerns ecclesial and sacramental life, the more is its administration reserved to the ordained ministry (bishops, priests, or deacons). [CCC 1669]

However, I would like to have a clear list of which blessings lay people may give and the formulas for such blessings. I have read that “[t[he Church’s Book of Blessings lists the blessings that may be given by lay people (p.xxviii)” (http://aquietmoment.wordpress.com/2009/04/16/can-lay-people-give-blessings/
), but I have been unable to find such a list.

Can anyone help me out?

I haven’t seen anyone else mention this yet but there is a 502 page book called “Catholic Household Blessings & Prayers” which is published by the USCCB which is specifically targeted for lay people. I purchased mine at Amazon.com and got it for a cheaper price.

It is an indispensible book that every Catholic lay person should have. It has blessings for every important moment in life…For everything from birth, death, study, blessing your car, home, family, the seasons, ones travels, the deceased…etc

The Book of blessings is more geared towards the clergy as has already been mentioned.

Here is the Amazon link to where you can purchase the Catholic Household Blessings and Prayers:

amazon.com/Catholic-Household-Blessings-Prayers-Committee/dp/1574556452/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1282353925&sr=1-2

OR if you prefer to buy it directly from the USCCB here’s the link as well:

usccbpublishing.org/productdetails.cfm?PC=764

God bless
 
So a priest does not have to invoke any part of the Trinity’s names when conferring a blessing?
A priest does not bless in his own name correct?
I ask because it seems this thread ended with laypeople saying “May God bless you” and priest’s saying “I bless you,” if I’m wrong call me out but should priest’s say "May God bless you since the source of the blessing is God and not the priest?
 
I believe the 3 of us are all saying the same thing. It comes down to what I keep saying, that in English, the word “blessing” can have many different levels of meaning. As you mentioned in your first post here, the family “blessings” are actually prayers–they aren’t blessings like a priest/deacon blesses. The problem is with the vocabulary. We don’t have a single word to refer to a proper-blessing given by a cleric as distinct from a prayer said for someone by a layperson, and sometimes the word “blessing” is used to refer to both examples.
 
The problem, as I see it, is neither with the English language nor with the person pronouncing the blessing. There is a problem, though, as I see it. How does anyone say that when we ask God’s blessing, the person or thing for whom we are asking the blessing, is not blessed, i.e., different than they were before? What I hear is that the Spirit of God, who is holy, may do no such thing as bless that person or thing, unless the Blessing is said by a male bishop, priest or deacon. This seems to be a problem of some who want to speak of God as boxed in, wanting to present a God-in-a-box.

A blessing cannot be more or less than the presence of God. How can anything be more than that? Does any blessing impart something less than the holiness of the presence of God, the essence of God?

Of course, with any blessing, we are different than we were before. God is not bound by those who want to make the decisions themselves, about what God can and cannot do. The Spirit of God is holy, and the Spirit blows where She wills, a reference to the Hebrew Scripture and the book of Wisdom, since God is Spirit, neither and both male and female. The God we are all talking about is the God of Love, who is not a respecter of persons. Thank God for goodness that is spectacular in all of our lives. We are so grateful. Lord, forgive us when we are unable to recognize you. We know not what we do.
 
As an aside, here in the South it is common for a lady to remark “bless her/his heart”. Usually there is no implied connection to God, but rather it is said with a condescending tone.
 
OK. What’s missing here is an understanding of the word “blessing.” If we mean blessing in the sense that something is spiritually different after the blessing than it was before, then this can only be done by a priest or deacon. Let us take an obvious example. Let’s say that someone takes a piece of land and wants to make it a cemetery. If a priest blesses the land and dedicates it as such, that becomes “hallowed ground” It is blessed land. It is different than it was before. It would be inappropriate to then allow that land to be used for a purely secular purpose.
Sorry for not reading the entire post but I just could help posting my thoughts… So in a few words the difference in a laity blessing versus a priestly blessing is that the blessed object or person is spiritually different after the blessing? Witht he laity blessing on spiritual change takes effect. I think that either case it is God blessing not priest nor laity.

God forbid but lets take the senario that my new born baby is in danger of death and there is no priest available. In my humble opinion Babtism is the grates blessing I as a father would have for my baby. By what you are saying…that babtism will not be valid because I as laity can’t cause spiritall change in my child?
 
One more example or rather a question. I heard it say that it is a couple who performs the sacrament of matrimony. The priest or decon act as a witness for the Church. Thru this sacrament if properly dispose the couple Receive santifying Grace same as in Babtism? Now when the married couple join in the marriage act I heard it say that they are exchanging or renewing their marriage promisses and if properly dispose God fills the marriage with more Santifying Grace. Is that true? Now what is a blessing? Is it to make Holy, Santo, Blessed? Is Santifying Grace a grace that santifies, makes Holy, Santo, bless? So by that sense can the laity invoke the santification of the marriage both at time of wedding and everytime they come together or the father who thru Babtism receives the santification of a child in danger of death…My final opinion is that we laity by our pristly gift received at Babtism, we can invoke the santification of person or things in special cases. Rather we invoke a gift in the form of Santifying Grace, actual Grace or just other spiritual maby temporal gifts. It is God that thru his gift He makes people and things Holy. Priest and Decons is thru their gift as ministers that God makes Holy or sets appart people or things to a grater level.

But that is just my opinion whitch it could be wrong…
 
Originally Posted by FrDavid96
The vocabulary here can cause some confusion. We use the word “blessing” to mean so many different things. It can range anywhere from a bishop solemnly dedicating a new church, to a completely secular use of the word (like saying “the manager gave his blessing to the new policy”).
If you mean blessing in the sense that a person or thing is actually “blessed” meaning that it is somehow different than it was before, then only a cleric can bless. For example, look at the prayer before meals. We can all say “Grace” before a meal, but the food isn’t actually blessed (some Catholics have taken to using Protestant vocabulary here and say “give the blessing” and that causes further confusion).
In the new Book of Blessings, this distinction is not made very clear (perhaps the English translators intended it that way?) because the introduction and the index pages don’t make much of a distinction. But as DCNBILL noted, when we look at the actual text of the rituals, the blessing properly speaking, is done only by a cleric. When a layperson presides, the gesture of blessing (making the sign of the cross over the person/object) is removed and the layperson makes the cross over himself.
So despite how things might appear at first-glance, the new Book of Blessings doesn’t have any proper blessings that can be done by the laity. Instead what we see are prayers said over the person or object which have value in themselves, but do not make them “blessed.”
Only a bishop, priest, or deacon can impart a blessing.
Father David, I don’t totally agree with your initial post. I think your response further confuses the matter. I’m not an expert and I respect your service to God and his Church and your years of study. Having said that, from what I’ve been reading I don’t think we can fairly say that the Catechism, Book of Blessings and the book “Catholic Household Blessings….” sold at the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops’ web site; they are not using the correct sense of the word “blessing” when referring to lay ministry.

*Sacramentals derive from the baptismal priesthood: every baptized person is called to be a “blessing,” and to bless.172 Hence lay people may preside at certain blessings; the more a blessing concerns ecclesial and sacramental life, the more is its administration reserved to the ordained ministry (bishops, priests, or deacons). *[CCC 1669]

What does this section of the Catechism mean? How can one be a blessing or to bless? I see where we can preside at certain blessings as long as they are not within the content of liturgy or consecration.

From the book “Catholic Household Blessings….”
*Families will use Catholic Household Blessings and Prayers to
• Learn essential prayers that Catholics need to know by memory
• Practice the simple form of the Liturgy of the Hours
• Celebrate the feasts and seasons of the Church year in ritual and prayer
• Bless the advent wreath, Christmas crèche, and Easter foods
• Lead grace before and after meals
• Pray for family members
• Bless the home before a move and in times of trouble *

I agree with you that when it comes to the strict sense of “liturgical blessing” only Clergy can give such blessing. Again any blessing in the content of the Mass, consecrating a person or things (e.g. rosary beads, crosses, Altar). Too, in a gathering of faithful like bible studies, if a member of the Clergy is present it is He who gives the blessing. I also agree that a Clergy’s blessing carries more power, grace or spiritual change. But what I disagree is in that what may appear as a lay asking for God’s blessing on something or some one is just “a nice gesture”, “does not become bless”, it has no change or spiritual effect on our children or things". On those I disagree with you and go with what “I believe the Church is saying”. That is… not to hold the word “blessing” to just strictly to a liturgical sense but as the Catechism says “Every blessing praises God and prays for his gifts”.

*Among sacramentals, blessings (of persons, meals, objects, and places) come first. Every blessing praises God and prays for his gifts. In Christ, Christians are blessed by God the Father “with every spiritual blessing.” This is why the Church imparts blessings by invoking the name of Jesus, usually while making the holy sign of the cross of Christ. *(CCC 1671)

So if the Church uses the more broader sense of the word blessing and we are a blessing (gift) or can bless (ask for gifts), why can we say that “we bless”. If all blessing are a praise to God then we must be getting at least Actual Grace for the person blessing and the person being bless (e.g. our family). In my opinion, other gifts or blessings we get thru lay blessings are deliverance (e.g. The Our Father), spiritual protection and why not gifts of the Holy Spirit.

To get back to the original question posted by " Crown of Thorns". In my opinion we lay persons can “give a blessing” as long as we keep in mind that by blessing we mean praying for God’s gifts on some one, or praising and thanking God for that which we are blessing (e.g. our food).

When you “bless” also keep in mind that you are not consecrating, do not make the sign of the cross over a group of people or things when the faithful are gathered. You can make the sing of the cross on you family or personal things. Again you can still say that you are “blessing” and in some sense you are because, in my opinion, the person or thing becomes blessed (spiritual different) with the gifts that God instill in them.
 
Hi All,

I understand that lay people may give certain blessings.

Sacramentals derive from the baptismal priesthood: every baptized person is called to be a “blessing,” and to bless.172 Hence lay people may preside at certain blessings; the more a blessing concerns ecclesial and sacramental life, the more is its administration reserved to the ordained ministry (bishops, priests, or deacons). [CCC 1669]

However, I would like to have a clear list of which blessings lay people may give and the formulas for such blessings. I have read that “[t[he Church’s Book of Blessings lists the blessings that may be given by lay people (p.xxviii)” (http://aquietmoment.wordpress.com/2009/04/16/can-lay-people-give-blessings/
), but I have been unable to find such a list.

Can anyone help me out?

When, therefore, laymen and women are represented as blessing others it is to be understood that this is an act of will on their part, a wish or desire for another’s spiritual or temporal prosperity, an appeal to God which has nothing to recommend it but the merits of personal sanctity. The ordinary greetings and salutations that take places between Christians and Catholics, leavened by mutual wishes for a share of heavenly grace, must not be confounded with liturgical blessings.

Morrisroe, P. (1907). Blessing. In The Catholic Encyclopedia. New York: Robert Appleton Company. newadvent.org/cathen/02599b.htm
 
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