Which third order suits someone with an intense temperament?

[teamjesusnumber31]

I have a bad temper. I go all out if I’m fixed on something I love.

I like the Carmelites most out of them, the Franciscans, and the Dominicans because I love the deep spirituality and prayer of Sts. Teresa and John.

I do like helping people in need. I wonder if I can do that and be a Secular Discalced Carmelite.

(Mods, this isn’t intended as seeking mental health help ) I am not sure third orders accept those with serious mental illnesses.

I want to make my life about Jesus, Mary, and the Church. I thought a way to do that would be a third order.

Any thoughts?

 

[umamibella]

I am in a third order and our founder was said to have had a bad temper by those who knew him. It is a flaw he must have worked on his entire life I think. It got him into a bit of trouble with his superiors but also gave him the courage to speak up.
Apart from that I am not sure which order would suit you. What are you attracted to, prayer, charity work, public service?

 

[Gab123]

Maybe look into the Third order Salesian cooperators. Interesting tidbit, St Francis de Sales is known as the patron of patience, a title he earned after he tamed his wrathful temper.

Here’s a link about the third order:

https://donboscosalesianportal.org/wp-content/uploads/Brief-History-ASC-Aubry-et-al.pdf

 

[LilyM]

I have a bad temper. I go all out if I’m fixed on something I love.

I like the Carmelites most out of them, the Franciscans, and the Dominicans because I love the deep spirituality and prayer of Sts. Teresa and John.

I do like helping people in need. I wonder if I can do that and be a Secular Discalced Carmelite.

(Mods, this isn’t intended as seeking mental health help ) I am not sure third orders accept those with serious mental illnesses.

I want to make my life about Jesus, Mary, and the Church. I thought a way to do that would be a third order.

Any thoughts?

St Jerome was well known for struggling with a bad temper, and St Nicholas (best known as Samta Claus) reputedly got angry at the heretic Arius.during a church council and punched him! That’s a Santa story we never hear round the Chrstmas tree!

 

[puer.dei]

Entering a third order isn’t about suiting your temperament. It’s about being drawn to the spirituality and charism of the order. And the three you listed are very different.