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Faith is not on the top of my families priority list and having now got into several debates about having my son Christened, I don’t know what to do. My son is nearly 15 but he ridicules faith and God (although I think he does this mainly not to be ridiculed), his father is an aetheist theology teacher (who feels that he can argue every point I make about wanting to bring my son up having Faith, I am a believer in limbo between protestantism and Catholicism and have a Catholic Partner, I have promised to help raise his children into Catholicism and my sons school are so fearful of appearing to promote or teach any faith that they are pro non christianity teachings…what hope do I have to steer him in the right direction when the western, modern society ridicules it all?? Please help me guide him properly…leah
 
Faith is not on the top of my families priority list and having now got into several debates about having my son Christened, I don’t know what to do. My son is nearly 15 but he ridicules faith and God (although I think he does this mainly not to be ridiculed), his father is an aetheist theology teacher (who feels that he can argue every point I make about wanting to bring my son up having Faith, I am a believer in limbo between protestantism and Catholicism and have a Catholic Partner, I have promised to help raise his children into Catholicism and my sons school are so fearful of appearing to promote or teach any faith that they are pro non christianity teachings…what hope do I have to steer him in the right direction when the western, modern society ridicules it all?? Please help me guide him properly…leah
Blessings! First of all, are you a practicing Catholic or Protestant? No offense, but you seem confused yourself. My advice, find your home as well, thus it will be more beneficial for you and your son. Now your son is 15 and at that age is not going to be easy. My advice, go talk to a priest first. I always tell parents of teenagers at times as parents one needs to pray a lot and let God do His job with your teenagers. People convert to God at different point in time and age. Again, go speak to a priest or nun or someone at the Faith Formation office for spiritual guidance.

Gid Bless
 
Faith is not on the top of my families priority list and having now got into several debates about having my son Christened, I don’t know what to do. My son is nearly 15 but he ridicules faith and God (although I think he does this mainly not to be ridiculed), his father is an aetheist theology teacher (who feels that he can argue every point I make about wanting to bring my son up having Faith, I am a believer in limbo between protestantism and Catholicism and have a Catholic Partner, I have promised to help raise his children into Catholicism and my sons school are so fearful of appearing to promote or teach any faith that they are pro non christianity teachings…what hope do I have to steer him in the right direction when the western, modern society ridicules it all?? Please help me guide him properly…leah
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I think perhaps you have left it a bit late in the day to guide him towards faith....
15 y.o have a mind of there own... like an out of control battleship... guns blazing..
looks to me your on your own.... Jesus is something you can only discover for yourself.
you can advise,try to guide but ultimately it’s up to him…
don’t lose your own faith because your surrounded by people that shoot you down…
God Bless
 
Thank you…I am very confused myself and have posted many various threads during my own journey…I have been christened Protestant but kind of feel empty and have not really had anyrhing but just ‘faith’ and my prayers to God…now I have been opened to so much more in the way of the ‘truth’, I feel like a fraud really but also don’t fit in any box…surely its best that my son is christened and can reject it if he wishes when older than to not be christened and decide when perhaps its too late that he did want it!, isn’t that my responsibility as his mother?
 
QUOTE=Loobyloo0209;10838854]Thank you…I am very confused myself and have posted many various threads during my own journey…I have been christened Protestant but kind of feel empty and have not really had anyrhing but just ‘faith’ and my prayers to God…now I have been opened to so much more in the way of the ‘truth’, I feel like a fraud really but also don’t fit in any box…surely its best that my son is christened and can reject it if he wishes when older than to not be christened and decide when perhaps its too late that he did want it!, **isn’t that my responsibility as his mother?/**QUOTE]
Yes it is your responsibility,but no offense, but at 15 it is not going to be easy. Remember, God respects our free-will/choices in life. Bottomline: Ultimately it is your son’s choice or decision. As for you? You are in the right place to learn about the Catholic faith. Go for it…ask all you want here.
 
I think perhaps you have left it a bit late in the day to guide him towards faith…
15 y.o have a mind of there own… like an out of control battleship… guns blazing…
looks to me your on your own… Jesus is something you can only discover for yourself.
you can advise,try to guide but ultimately it’s up to him…
don’t lose your own faith because your surrounded by people that shoot you down…
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          God Bless
When he was younger and taught moral, religious concepts it didn seem to be a problem…its just as he’s got older I’ve noticed peoples problem with it. His father wouldn’t allow me to have him blessed or chrisrtened as he was and still is aetheist…he undermines and makes a joke of me and my now partner for our faith
 
Thats my point… it’s to late… should have done things when he was little… now the horse is gone and left the cart… all you can do is try to talk to him but don’t push it because they will only call you a nut… then you will be hurt… just keep your own faith and let them be… easier said than done I know…
 
Yes it is your responsibility,but no offense, but at 15 it is not going to be easy. Remember, God respects our free-will/choices in life. Bottomline: Ultimately it is your son’s choice or decision. As for you? You are in the right place to learn about the Catholic faith. Go for it…ask all you want here.
I already know what you say is true and believe me this has been a 15 year battle with his father (his family ironically were Catholic and first introduced me lightly to Catholicism…again tradition rather than practise but I felt something when visiting their church)…I feel like the Holy spirit has been perhaps blowing my way for a lonnng time…I just didn’t realise…I just hope my jacob doesn’t have to endure some of the sufferring that I have before he feels it too.
 
I already know what you say is true and believe me this has been a 15 year battle with his father (his family ironically were Catholic and first introduced me lightly to Catholicism…again tradition rather than practise but I felt something when visiting their church)…I feel like the Holy spirit has been perhaps blowing my way for a lonnng time…I just didn’t realise…I just hope my jacob doesn’t have to endure some of the sufferring that I have before he feels it too.
Forget what your son’s father says…he is a self-proclaimed non-believer. Focus…on YOU! Your son may be lost and one day come home as Jesus teaches in prodigal son. Again, focus on you and let your son be and you work on your spirituality. You are evidently here for a reason…hhhmmm…do you think God is calling you here? 😉
 
yes… there are no shortcuts in life… he will need to learn the hard way like most others…
but only through true hard life experiences do we really grow in our own faith…
unless you live in a convent…lol.
 
yes… there are no shortcuts in life… he will need to learn the hard way like most others…
but only through true hard life experiences do we really grow in our own faith…
unless you live in a convent…lol.
Exactly! Suffering is part of being a Christian. Jesus suffered a lot too. That is the problem today, suffering is viewed as a horrible thing or a troublesome burden. And sad thing is many non-Catholic communities teach one should not suffer, the notorious “prosperity” gospel.
 
Thank you both…I understand he has to find his own way…just want to avoid him hurting along the way. Again you’re both right…its my own lowest points that have made me look upward…that’s the way I know…just a huge life change and eventually I think I may need to book a week in confession!! 😉

I must say goodnight now as it is nearly 2am in the uk…I have work in the morning so I truly will be suffering!,

God bless you
 
Thank you both…I understand he has to find his own way…just want to avoid him hurting along the way. Again you’re both right…its my own lowest points that have made me look upward…that’s the way I know…just a huge life change and eventually I think I may need to book a week in confession!! 😉

I must say goodnight now as it is nearly 2am in the uk…I have work in the morning so I truly will be suffering!,

God bless you
When my swivel chair broke I said “Who can I TURN to?”:rolleyes:
 
Thank you both…I understand he has to find his own way…just want to avoid him hurting along the way. Again you’re both right…its my own lowest points that have made me look upward…that’s the way I know…just a huge life change and eventually I think I may need to book a week in confession!! 😉

I must say goodnight now as it is nearly 2am in the uk…I have work in the morning so I truly will be suffering!,

God bless you
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This is just a thought, and it may not be right for your son. But I’ll throw it out there and let you decide. Perhaps if you aren’t interested, others will be.

Summit Ministries: summit.org/conferences/student/colorado/

There’s only one conference date still open, and it’s at the end of August, so act quick if this sounds interesting.

We learned about this from one of our circuit judges (no, my daughter wasn’t in trouble! :))

This is a Protestant-run organization, but after reading their newsletter for several years now, I have never seen anything anti-Catholic, and I have seen many pro-Catholic articles, including articles quoting the Pope, various Catholic bishops and priests, and ancient Catholic saints and teachers. They use a lot of stuff by C.S. Lewis, who most Catholics don’t have any problems with.

Summit teaches students (and in recent years adults) a Christian world-view, and how to defend it against challenges. It’s an apologetics conference, but it’s more than that–it teaches Christian WORLDVIEW. No particular denomination–just Christian.

They do this during weeklong conferences held in Colorado, in Manitou Springs. I see there is now a Tennessee location, but my daughter and her boyfriend attended the Colorado conference, so that’s the one I can vouch for.

The Conference is intense–classes run from early in the morning (around 8 am), and go until evening. But don’t get the wrong idea–this isn’t a “cult”. The kids are given plenty of free time and opportunities to hike up Pike’s Peak, or hike in the Garden of the Gods, and they all take trips down to the quaint little town of Manitou Springs to shop and snack.

The students really seem to love the intense nature of the Conference. This isn’t some feel-good emotional pep rally for Our Good Buddy Jesus. No, this is a college-level seminar, with excellent classes taught by Ph.Ds, not just pastors and youth leaders. The kids have textbooks, big ones!

My husband and I sent our daughter and her then-boyfriend (now husband) to Summit at the recommendation of that judge. We paid for it–we thought it would be good investment.

They absolutely LOVED the conference, and her boyfriend seriously considered becoming one of the counselors (he decided to stay in college instead). They loved the teachers, they loved the classes, and they loved Colorado. They brought back a library of huge books (that’s part of what the fee includes). It’s been over ten years now, and they still speak about that conference as one of the best weeks of their lives.

Perhaps this isn’t right for your son. But perhaps–if you approach him and tell him that you would like to try to make up for a lack of religious background in the family, and that you think he might enjoy this trip to beautiful Colorado and the opportunity to really immerse himself for just one week in Christian classes–perhaps it’s something that he would go for, especially if he’s into the outdoors, nature, hiking, etc. One possibility is to send him and one of his friends (boy or girl). Yes, it’s a financial investment, but you will not be sorry. It could be a way that might make up for years of not teaching him much about God. It kind of crams it all into one week!

Good luck to you, and good for you for looking into opportunities for training up your son. 🙂
 
I would like to add that it may be helpful to consider the life of St. Monica; her example of persistant prayer is a huge comfort to those of us in similar situations concerning a loved one.
 
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