Why denied sacrament of annointing when ill?

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I go to school in PA. About a month and an half ago, at the suggestion of a priest I know from online and who lives in New Jersey, I went to a local priest near my college. I didn’t really know this priest as well as I did the one on campus (a different priest from the one in NJ), but because I did not feel comfortable making my college priest think I was ill or a hypocondriac, I decided to go to another local priest. To avoid confusion, there were three priests: 1) The one from New Jersey who advised me to get annointed, 2) The one who pastors for the college students 3) The one who pastors near where I go to college, but who is not involved with college students at my school.

So, I went to this church and went to the priest (priest #3). I told him that I was having really bad depression problems among other things. He just looked at me with a weird smile and said, “No, I cannot give you the sacrament. Please get out of this church.” I thought he was being facetious, so I asked him, “Are you serious?” And he was like, “Yes, I am serious. You are not sick. Again, I must ask you to leave this church.” He then explicitly mentioned that he does not annoint those with depression. So, I left the church disheartened and prayed that I would get cancer and die. I also was very angry at the priest and began to understand why the Reformers may have reacted as they did to heartless and malicious clergy. Anyhow, when I told the priest from NJ this, he was infuriated. He thought that he should have given me the sacrament. Later on, another priest (priest #4) from NJ whom I know also told me the same thing–that the priest should have given me the sacrament, since I was honestly in dire need of Christ’s help.

In any case, I ended up contacting another priest who pastors in my home parish (priest #5)–about 40 minutes away from where I go to college. He pretty much said, “No problem!” And then he annointed me. When I asked him why the other priest refused me the sacrament, he said something to the effect that annointing was originally thought of as extreme unction–for people who were in the process of dying. I later read the Catechism on the sacrament of Annointing of the Sick, and it seems to suggest that one should receive it whenever there is the slightest possibility of death, which seems to suggest this. However, the priest mentioned that in the early Church annnointing was done for those other than the dying; but that it become a sacrament for the dying alone during the time of Charlamagne–and had remained so until the 1960’s.

Many websites online (in addition to my priests) say that it can be applied to people who are seriously ill (though not mortally ill). In fact, many websites seemed to suggest that anyone who is undergoing some difficulty is eligible for annointing.

Could some people clear me up on what is official Church teaching? Does severe depression merit annointing? How about non-fatal but harrowing diseases, such as post traumatic stress syndrome, shell shock, frequent panic attacks, etc. ??? (I don’t have any of these other diseases. I’m just curious.)

When the one priest did anoint me, he mentioned that there was another set of prayers that he was not going to do for me, since I was not dying. Am I to understand that the Sacrament of Annointing is now split into two different sets of prayers and procedures???

Ok, that’s enough questions for now. Hope someone can help me. Thanks! 👍
 
The reason the Church changed the name of the sacrament from Extreme Unction (translation: final anointing) to Anointing of the Sick was to point out that it is to deal with sickness. The sacrament is not reserved to those who are dying, but to those who have a serious illness. Depression is, according to medical practice, a serious illness and, therefore, you are eligible to receive the sacrament.

The rite of Anointing has a number of prayers that can be used depending on the circumstances. One set is used when the death of the recipient is imminent. As with most of the sacraments, the prayers reflect the situation in which the sacrament is administered. Baptism is the only one that doesn’t really reflect the situation.

I hope this helps.

Deacon Ed
 
Ah, ok. So I suppose two things may have been possible with the priest who denied me the sacrament: 1) He didn’t really know me and thought I was faking my illness, 2) He was following Old-School procedures (the guy was in his 80’s it appeared).

Thanks for your help!
 
I don’t know why Priest #3 refused to give you the anointing but he should not have asked you to leave the church. Have you considered having priest #2 talk to priest #3?
 
Have you considered having priest #2 talk to priest #3?
I did, but only for a short while. I came to the conclusion that it would only get things more complicated, and I didn’t want to end up in the spotlight. I figure that priest #3 is so old that he won’t be around much longer, and so has little time left to cause people the same problem he caused me.
 
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Madaglan:
Many websites online (in addition to my priests) say that it can be applied to people who are seriously ill (though not mortally ill). In fact, many websites seemed to suggest that anyone who is undergoing some difficulty is eligible for annointing.

Could some people clear me up on what is official Church teaching? Does severe depression merit annointing? How about non-fatal but harrowing diseases, such as post traumatic stress syndrome, shell shock, frequent panic attacks, etc. ??? (I don’t have any of these other diseases. I’m just curious.)

When the one priest did anoint me, he mentioned that there was another set of prayers that he was not going to do for me, since I was not dying. Am I to understand that the Sacrament of Annointing is now split into two different sets of prayers and procedures???

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Yes to the first paragraph, however the Sacrament of Reconciliation is also helpful to those with “life difficulities” sometimes the Sacrament can help us understand that we are not so “bad” as we think.

The Church says that the Pastor/priest is the one who judges this. To one priest it might to another it might not. Your pastor should be the one who knows you the best and can determine if the Sacrament would be of benefit to you.

It is recient that illness other than physical illness is included.

This again has different opinions from different priests. The Sacrament of Anointing should be received by the SICK when they become sick and as necessary throughout the illness. It is also part of the “Last Rites” ( which many priests will no longer administer???) In a sense “Last Rites” is made up of The Sacrament of Reconcillation, The Sacrament of Anointing of the Sick, Viaticum (Holy Communion), and an Apostolic Blessing with a Plenary Indulgence.
 
Several months ago I was in a severe depression and was suicidal. I asked a retired priest to anoint me and told him why. He said it was a good reason for anointing and did it.

Alan
 
Br. Rich SFO:
This again has different opinions from different priests. The Sacrament of Anointing should be received by the SICK when they become sick and as necessary throughout the illness. It is also part of the “Last Rites” ( which many priests will no longer administer???) In a sense “Last Rites” is made up of The Sacrament of Reconcillation, The Sacrament of Anointing of the Sick, Viaticum (Holy Communion), and an Apostolic Blessing with a Plenary Indulgence.
Great answer! Thank you. That answered a question that we just had come up last night with friends.
 
Did I miss something here?

Did two priests advise you to go to anothe priest to receive the Sacrament for the Sick?

Why didn’t either of these two offer you the Sacrament?
 
You have to be in danger of death due to injuries or illness to receive this sacrament.

That’s right from the catechism.
 
Then sending you to a third priest doesn’t make sense either :confused:
 
Kielbasi, please read the many other comments on this thread. The Sacrament is not limited to the deathbed. I refer you to the Deacon’s post:
Deacon Ed:
The reason the Church changed the name of the sacrament from Extreme Unction (translation: final anointing) to Anointing of the Sick was to point out that it is to deal with sickness. The sacrament is not reserved to those who are dying, but to those who have a serious illness. Depression is, according to medical practice, a serious illness and, therefore, you are eligible to receive the sacrament.
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Deacon Ed
 
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