The primary reason I believe that Holy Orders in the degree of Deacon can only be available to men stems in part from the earliest revealed truth of our Christian faith. It is very clear from the scriptures what was required to be ordained as a Deacon in the apostolic times.
Brothers, select from among you seven reputable men, filled with the Spirit and wisdom, whom we shall appoint to this task, whereas we shall devote ourselves to prayer and to the ministry of the word." The proposal was acceptable to the whole community, so they choose Stephen, a man filled with faith and the holy Spirit, also Philip, Prochorus, Nicanor, Timon, Parmenas, and Nicholas of Antioch, a convert to Judaism. They presented these men to the apostles who prayed and laid hands on them. Acts 6
The Apostles did not call on the men (brothers) to select women, or men and women, they called on them to select men. This is the most basic of all teachings and perhaps the clearest of all scriptural basis for any of the sacraments
The fact that deacons existed prior to priests creates a logic trap that says if a bishop, priest and deacon all receive Holy Orders how can it be that the second to receive orders is different from the third to receive orders?
Paul also makes it clear that deacons are men in the epistle to Timothy:
“Deacons must be serious not double tongued, not addicted to much wine, not greedy for gain; they must hold the mystery of the faith with a clear conscience. And let them also be tested first; then if they prove themselves blameless let them serve as deacons. The women likewise must be serious, no slanderers, but temperate, faithful in all things. Let deacons be the husband of one wife, and let them manage their children and their households well;….”
Many misinterpret the meaning of women in this passage to mean they were deacons as well and reject the obvious meaning of the women being the deacons wives. If you missed that point then Paul clears it up by stating the marriage prohibitions in strictly male terms. That pastoral guidance about the wives is as important today as it was then.
Finally under full disclosure I must introduce the scriptural passages in Romans 6 where Paul calls Phoebe usuaalyy translated to be deacon/ness. While the context makes it hard to clearly see if we are talking about a deacon of holy orders, a deaconesses or as St Thomas Aquinas calls her a sister. What is very clear about Paul is that at this time within the church titles were extremely fluid and he an apostle would sometimes call himself a deacon. The application of titles that reflect the sacramental reality being established by The Holy Spirit in Christ’s church obviously took time to align themselves.
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