Why -- Sacrament of Holy Matrimony

[Maria3m]

What graces or benefits should I focus on regarding DH &I having our 18+ year marriage convalidated?

I know DH and I cannot receive Holy Communion until our marriage in convalidated. We’re willing to do it for that, however I don’t honestly any other point. Without having a full understanding of why we should at this point in our marriage, other than to receive Communion, it seems more like a hoop to jump through.

Looking back, I know God has had His hand on/in our marriage from the start and after this much time I don’t think a blessing over us will change our path for the better. God has done wonderful things for us…if He wasn’t happy with how we married (JofP) I doubt we would have lasted this long.

Can anyone explain the why we should besides to receive Communion?

Thank you!

 

[Andreas_Hofer]

What graces or benefits should I focus on regarding DH &I having our 18+ year marriage convalidated?

I know DH and I cannot receive Holy Communion until our marriage in convalidated. We’re willing to do it for that, however I don’t honestly any other point. Without having a full understanding of why we should at this point in our marriage, other than to receive Communion, it seems more like a hoop to jump through.

Looking back, I know God has had His hand on/in our marriage from the start and after this much time I don’t think a blessing over us will change our path for the better. God has done wonderful things for us…if He wasn’t happy with how we married (JofP) I doubt we would have lasted this long.

Can anyone explain the why we should besides to receive Communion?

Thank you!

To put it crassly, if one of you is Catholic (I get the impression both of you are), then, as far as God is concerned, despite any numerous ways in which He may have blessed you you are not actually married yet.

 

[cameron_lansing]

What graces or benefits should I focus on regarding DH &I having our 18+ year marriage convalidated?

I know DH and I cannot receive Holy Communion until our marriage in convalidated. We’re willing to do it for that, however I don’t honestly any other point. Without having a full understanding of why we should at this point in our marriage, other than to receive Communion, it seems more like a hoop to jump through.

Looking back, I know God has had His hand on/in our marriage from the start and after this much time I don’t think a blessing over us will change our path for the better. God has done wonderful things for us…if He wasn’t happy with how we married (JofP) I doubt we would have lasted this long.

Can anyone explain the why we should besides to receive Communion?

Thank you!

Maria,

I think you would benefit from studying the Catechism of the Catholic Church in regard to marriage, paragraphs 1601-1666 (available easily at scborromeo.org/index2.htm ). For Catholics, sacraments are graced encounters with Christ, among other things. It is true of the Eucharist, and for the baptized, true of married life in Christ as well. So I encourage you to read those paragraphs, but more so, to speak with your parish priest.

Remember that God’s happiness with us or his displeasure with us can only be measured from God’s point of view. Our happiness and success are not the measure of things or the standards of truth, nor do we as humans have the power to define the rules for marriage. This is why Christ established a Church and committed things like Eucharist and marriage to its authority.

Look at God’s blessings over the years as an invitation to receive blessings in even greater abundance, and to live our your responsibility and privileged mission as a witness to Christ.

So I do recommend you do some reading, some reflection, and some discussion about this and talk with your priest.

 

[CRW]

What graces or benefits should I focus on regarding DH &I having our 18+ year marriage convalidated?

I know DH and I cannot receive Holy Communion until our marriage in convalidated. We’re willing to do it for that, however I don’t honestly any other point. Without having a full understanding of why we should at this point in our marriage, other than to receive Communion, it seems more like a hoop to jump through.

Looking back, I know God has had His hand on/in our marriage from the start and after this much time I don’t think a blessing over us will change our path for the better. God has done wonderful things for us…if He wasn’t happy with how we married (JofP) I doubt we would have lasted this long.

Can anyone explain the why we should besides to receive Communion?

Thank you!

The Sacraments (7) are defined in Church Dogma - De fide. As Christ instituted the Sacraments and bound them up with the communication of grace they are necessary to us for the achievement of salvation (necessitate medii), even if not necessary for each individual.

Logic flows that this Sacrament is not required for the salvation of singles; however, full acceptance to the Church commonwealth requires it for married people.

Why would one not want his marriage blessed by the Church, receive Holy Communion, especially when Christ is the Body of the Church?