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John337
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Why would people pre judge someone before getting to know them this happens to me a lot people see me and they automatically think oh he is nothing?
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pianistclare
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How would we know?
How do you present yourself?
How do you present yourself?
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John337
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I was born with Cerebral Palsy and every judges me because of it and this is everywhere I go.
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Xanthippe_Voorhees
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I think when it comes to severe disabilities people often don’t know how to act.
I worked with young adults ages 18-25 as a part of job-training. Even though I was briefly trained there were many things that were explained, their individual natures often presented issues in trying to understand them. I’m sure they felt “judged” at times
Trying to figure out what they were and were not capable of on a moment-to-moment basis was extremely hard. They were all very different. I made mistakes. Others made mistakes. They made mistakes. The ones who I enjoyed working with the most were the ones who didn’t get bent out of shape about it.
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John337
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I am able to walk thank God but its just the fact that people pre judge and down me before they even know me.
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Xanthippe_Voorhees
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I didn’t say any of the students I worked with weren’t able to walk.
I am saying that you may want to consider that the pre-judgement you are feeling is people trying to approach you in the “right” way. They may think that you are mentally impaired and want to help. They may think that you prefer to be left alone and don’t need help–even when you ask.
People are flawed. If you hold resentments because people “judge” how to treat you it’s only going to eat at you.
I’m a mom. At one point I had my 10yo niece full time and young children. People judged me thinking that she was a child I had as a teen and then I remarried and had more kids. Or they will see me with young kids (now) and tell me that I must have my hands full. Honestly, 2 kids is EASY. I used to take my friend’s five and my nice out regularly by myself.
I could sit and stew and be angry…but I choose not to be. You may need to find a way to deal with that yourself and find meaningful relationships that give you what you need past the judgment of others.
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John337
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How can a person find any type of friends or relationship when they are bullied constantly?
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Xanthippe_Voorhees
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Use Meetup.com or facebook events to find things you like. Get to know people. Work past their judgments. They may not be malicious at all…but simply mistaken.
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0Scarlett_nidiyilii
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How old are you, and are you in the public school system.
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adamhovey1988
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I’m sorry about that. I remember people flat-out calling me retarded and slow when I was growing up, which is obviously not true. I was quiet, they didn’t like people that were quiet.
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John337
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People always made fun of me especially those who were in athletics and others who were friends with them.
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adamhovey1988
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I’m sorry about that, and I know from experience that it hurts.
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oldgraymare2
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Yes, it does really hurt.
I was born with something on my face that was like a large growth that I was bullied and teased and tormented about constantly, all through grade school, from the time that I was 5 years old, until I was 13 years old.
I was finally able to have it removed at the age of 13.
When I was bullied, back at that time, the other kids would just stand around and watch, instead of getting a teacher’s help. They didn’t want to get involved, for fear of being bullied themselves, so you were basically all alone.
By that time, I had few friends in school that I felt that I could tolerate being around, to be honest, and I was looking forward to high school, where I could start over again and meet new people.
So @John337 , some of us do understand. Maybe not in the exact same way, but we do understand the loneliness and the isolation of what it’s like to be constantly teased and bothered by others, who really should know better.
What you can do, is bring that emotional distress to the Lord, and lay it at the Cross.
He knows what you’re going through, and know that others of us do too, in our own ways.
We also have had family members with disabilities, with Cerebral Palsy, and may have physical disabilities ourselves, or may have friends who do, too.
So, you are not alone in your struggles or your frustrations, either.
God bless you!
I was born with something on my face that was like a large growth that I was bullied and teased and tormented about constantly, all through grade school, from the time that I was 5 years old, until I was 13 years old.
I was finally able to have it removed at the age of 13.
When I was bullied, back at that time, the other kids would just stand around and watch, instead of getting a teacher’s help. They didn’t want to get involved, for fear of being bullied themselves, so you were basically all alone.
By that time, I had few friends in school that I felt that I could tolerate being around, to be honest, and I was looking forward to high school, where I could start over again and meet new people.
So @John337 , some of us do understand. Maybe not in the exact same way, but we do understand the loneliness and the isolation of what it’s like to be constantly teased and bothered by others, who really should know better.
What you can do, is bring that emotional distress to the Lord, and lay it at the Cross.
He knows what you’re going through, and know that others of us do too, in our own ways.
We also have had family members with disabilities, with Cerebral Palsy, and may have physical disabilities ourselves, or may have friends who do, too.
So, you are not alone in your struggles or your frustrations, either.
God bless you!
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Reuben_J
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All I can say is that many people are mean, they do not have charity in their hearts. Sometimes they are just basically cruel but more so, it may reflect on their own insecurity as well. They need to look down on other poeple with less ability to feel secure with their own.
Sadly, however, that seem to be the trend in secular world without God in their lives.
Have confident that you are a child loved by God. I know that this can be unrealistice, but it is the truth. If God is with you and loves you, who then can be against you. You will overcome and rise above your sense of rejection and helplessness in the face of ridicule and being rejected by other people.
God bless you.
Sadly, however, that seem to be the trend in secular world without God in their lives.
Have confident that you are a child loved by God. I know that this can be unrealistice, but it is the truth. If God is with you and loves you, who then can be against you. You will overcome and rise above your sense of rejection and helplessness in the face of ridicule and being rejected by other people.
God bless you.
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