Wife Wants Divorce - Seattle assistance?

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My wife just informed me she wants a divorce. I am devastated, of course. I have not been perfect in the marriage; I’ve done my share of stupid, immature, and shameful things (no cheating or anything like that, though).

Things have not been good for quite a while and she finally said she wanted a divorce. She has done plenty of things wrong too. We’ve gone to counseling before without much result. If any of you knows of a good conservative, Christian counselor (preferrably lay Catholic) in the Seattle area, could you please send me the recommendation via Private Message? My wife is Protestant and mildly anti-Catholic, so there’s no way she’d agree to see a priest. Please…I need all of the help I can get here.
 
Things have not been good for quite a while and she finally said she wanted a divorce. She has done plenty of things wrong too. We’ve gone to counseling before without much result. If any of you knows of a good conservative, Christian counselor (preferrably lay Catholic) in the Seattle area, could you please post their name here. My wife is Protestant and mildly anti-Catholic, so there’s no way she’d agree to see a priest. Please…I need all of the help I can get here.
 
I’m sorry I don’t know anyone in that area, but I will pray that you do find someone who can help you. You’re in my prayers.
 
mommyof4…thank you so much. It put a lump in my throat to see your response so quickly. I have to leave soon for 3 days so I won’t be able to check this thread. Please don’t think that I’m ignoring any replies that come in between now and then.
 
If you go to www.masstimes.org and check out Seattle area churches, someone there may be able to put you in touch with a good counselor. Just a thought.
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SiriusX said:
All,

My wife just informed me she wants a divorce. I am devastated, of course. I have not been perfect in the marriage; I’ve done my share of stupid, immature, and shameful things (no cheating or anything like that, though). I’m simply asking all of you to pray for my wife and I that she will change her mind and that we can save our marriage.
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Most merciful Father, I ask you with all humility to pour forth your blessings upon my brother in Christ. Help him and help his wife find a way to work through the difficulties they face. I ask for the intercession of St. Joseph and the Blessed Virgin Mary that they pray for the healing of this marriage. All of this I ask in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. Amen
 
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Also, please ask as many people as you can to pray for us as well. Things have not been good for quite a while and she finally said she wanted a divorce. She has done plenty of things wrong too. We’ve gone to counseling before without much result. If any of you knows of a good conservative, Christian counselor (preferrably lay Catholic) in the Seattle area, could you please post their name here. My wife is Protestant and mildly anti-Catholic, so there’s no way she’d agree to see a priest. Please…I need all of the help I can get here.
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Seattle checking in here! Going to my sources and will get back to you in a day or two! Praying for you in the meantime.
 
Have someone in mind - Christian (not Catholic). Getting info and will PM.
 
SiriusX said:
My wife is Protestant and mildly anti-Catholic, so there’s no way she’d agree to see a priest. Please…I need all of the help I can get here.
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Is she devout in her faith? Is she on fire in her faith? I don’t know what her church says about marriages but the Catholic Church says that a Marriage is a Sacrament and it has its crosses. Marriage is a sacrifice of self for love of our spouse, just like we have to sacrifice ourselves for love of Christ.

I know you want a Christian counselor (hopefully you can find a Catholic one,… better) but in the meantime you could go see a Priest yourself and ask him for spiritual direction. Just let him know that you will be seeking counseling in the matter along with your wife. The Priest will understand and hopefully still give you some enlightening and encouragine words.

Making a Good Confession is a great start for yourself. Remember, we ought to start “work” on ourselves first before we want to “fix” something or someone else. That could be a good confession. … okay, I hope you didn’t take that the wrong way. 😦 I’m not saying that you are a bad person and are in need of confession… but aren’t we all in need of a good confession?

I can already see that you are NOT a bad person. I can see that you love your wife. I can see all that just from your posts here and asking that we pray so that your marriage can be saved. How bad a person can that be? NOT in the least.

You are in my prayers. :gopray:
 
My dear brother I am so sorry. I more than sympathize with you. I also suffered from this devastating experience. I’m well over a year and a half into my ordeal. My Wife refused to even entertain reconciliation. There was and is another man. Other than my prayers I offer this advice…

Pray a lot (it helps a lot)

Go to confession – Remember to forgive yourself.

Remember that Marriage is a Sacrament. As such it involves 3 people, Wife Husband and God. God will always be faithful, and when one person decides not to be, the third must still remain faithful.

Don’t give up! Love your Wife! Try all you can to reconcile. But don’t cave-in to anything that is unjust in the eye’s of God.

If there are children then BE THEIR FATHER and beware those that will try to detract you from this.

Know that God doesn’t give us crosses that we can’t bear. Be faithful.

Sorry I can’t give any counseling sources. Like I said my Wife wanted no part in it.

God Bless
 
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