Will God be mad if I date a non-believer?

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I met this guy and he says he doesn’t believe in God. I stongly do obviously. I think I really like him and would like to see where things go. Do you think this is ok? Doesn’t everybody deserve to be loved by somebody?
 
A good guideline is to only date people that you are willing to marry.

That gives you a lot of freedom to date all kinds of guys, as long as you are willing to marry them if the situation should arise.

And this approach stops you from “playing” with the hearts of guys that you know in your heart of hearts that you would never really be interested in marrying ever.

Are you willing to marry a non-believer?

Have you seriously studied the marriages of those who are married to non-believers? Have you talked to other women, not girls, but women, who have lived many years with a non-believer? You should based your decision on serious research done by interviewing real women.
 
windowsXP said:
I met this guy and he says he doesn’t believe in God. I stongly do obviously. I think I really like him and would like to see where things go. Do you think this is ok? Doesn’t everybody deserve to be loved by somebody?
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If it is God’s will, it is okay. He could be working through you to bring the non-believer closer to Him.
 
One of the letters of St. Paul flat out forbids being married to non-believers (“unequally yoked” in the Pauline phrase).

Think about it.

Will dating this man bring you closer to God? Or draw you away from Him?

You ask something like this: Doesn’t everyone have a right to be loved by somebody?

Ask yourself: Don’t YOU have a right to be loved by someone with whom you share faith?
 
windowsXP said:
I met this guy and he says he doesn’t believe in God. I stongly do obviously. I think I really like him and would like to see where things go.
[Assuming you are in the Catholic Tradition …]
What do you mean by " I would like to see where things go? "
Do you truely believe you can have a lasting realationship with him? One that would lead to marriage?

Do you think this is ok?
[short answer is it is probably not the best relatioship for you]
long answer is if you really want to pursue it there are issues to be taken into consideration
*As already stated there are many reasons to not marry someone outside of the faith.(See St Pauls admonitions)
If you did some difficult issues would need to be addressed… such as:
  1. Would you feel comfortable attending Mass every Sunday and Holy Day?
  2. He would have to agree to raising your children if any in the Church… would he be willing to do so???
Among others but those are the issues that spring to mind right off …*

Doesn’t everybody deserve to be loved by somebody?
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God has a plan for everyone… pray and ask His help. You might also get involved in some volunteer work or groups in the Church where people your age are also involved. Again if you think this may progress into a serious relationship you may wish to speak to your parish priest about issues which may arise from a non catholic partner marriage… Blessings and Good Luck
 
I’ll answer this question with my own experience:
I married an unbeliever. We are divorced now (after almost ten years of heartbreaking marriage and many many rosaries begging for his conversion). See, I found out that there are two major problems with family life with an unbeliever. 1.) The children you raise: It necessarily causes difficulty in view of how to raise them that are sometimes subtle and don’t come up in those pre-wedding discussions about “how to raise the kids”. Also, assuming you try to follow the Church’s teaching against the use of birth control the stress of having many little ones can quickly result in the unbelieving husband gettting very angry about you sticking to this practice. Then too, there are often many promises made concerning supporting you in raising the children Catholic. Unbelievers tend to tire of that easily, especially because they naturally don’t hold that as a priority. Without God’s grace (through the sacraments and prayer, etc.) he simply won’t have the sufficient love to sacrifice for you. Try raising several children to be good Catholics with your example and prayers alone. Wait to you hear, “but Daddy doesn’t believe in God”, or “Is Daddy going to go to Hell?”, etc…Fun.
2.) Unbelievers tend not to have as much a problem with sins like pornography, masturbation, and adultery. And why should they? What would cause them to see that as a sin or evil? If God is truly the center of your life, what the heck are you going to talk about and intimately discuss for the next few decades of your married life?
I had mistakingly assumed that if I prayed enough and by my example of living the Christian life he would eventually be converted. :banghead: I found out that there is no guarantee.

So, from my experience, save yourself the heartbreak and stop even considering unbelievers.

Hope that helps. I wish I’d been more concerned with doing God’s will and not following my own desires (which turned out to be nothing more than good old temptation from Satan). I would have saved myself ten years of excruciating pain and heartbreak, only to end up single…and, as it turns out, better off than being married to an unbeliever.:sad_yes:

Hope my experience helps…

God Bless and help you,:hug1:
Sandra
 
windowsXP said:
I met this guy and he says he doesn’t believe in God. I stongly do obviously. I think I really like him and would like to see where things go. Do you think this is ok? Doesn’t everybody deserve to be loved by somebody?
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My recommendation is not to do it. My wife had dated a non-believer, and it took her away from the Church, more than toward Christ and the Church’s teachings. She thought she could convert him, but it was she whose faith and practices ended up being damaged. It’s not possible to have the proper relationship with people who do not believe in Christ. She had become disillusioned and heartbroken; and after prayer with a priest asking for her to meet a real Catholic, we started going out two weeks later and were engaged in three months…
 
windowsXP said:
I met this guy and he says he doesn’t believe in God. I stongly do obviously. I think I really like him and would like to see where things go. Do you think this is ok? Doesn’t everybody deserve to be loved by somebody?
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😉 :rolleyes: Yes, God will sweep out of Heaven and plague you daily until you give this man up. He will be POd, and revoke your Visa card while on a big shopping spree, send a plague of IRS agents to your doorstep, and put green thingies in your swimming pool that the strongest shoking agent will not remove.
You met a guy, a guy you barely know, except that he does not believe in God. You are in like with him, meaning he is probably very handsome and a good talker.

God is not going to stop you from dating this guy. But you know to be happy in the long run, it’s probably not a good idea to date him, because you could then be married to an unbeliever who thinks he’ll come before God in your life, and the lives of your future children. But God does not do stop when you ignore Him, and He does not do I-Told-You-So when you realize what really boneheaded thing you did. He expects you to use the brains He gave you, and exercise that free will He supplied to make a good choice.

And no, everybody does not deserved to be loved by just somebody. You deserve the best, and that is the person God plans for you.
 
windowsXP said:
I met this guy and he says he doesn’t believe in God. I stongly do obviously. I think I really like him and would like to see where things go. Do you think this is ok?
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Quite honestly, I think it’s a disaster in the making.
Doesn’t everybody deserve to be loved by somebody?
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Jesus already loves you, and so does your mother. :love: :love:
 
Geremia said:
If it is God’s will, it is okay. He could be working through you to bring the non-believer closer to Him.
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One should either evangelize, or date, but it is a really bad idea to attempt a combination of the two, since evangelism hopes for change, and dating is about accepting the whole person “as is” without judgement or qualification. These are contradictory goals.
 
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