Would this be a mortal sin?

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on and Evening with a close female friend, we were cuddeling when , half awake, i noticed her hand over my genitals. We were both fully clothed, and when i noticed that it was not a mistake her hand was there she started to make a kind of a petting motion, just when i was awake enough to realize and get her to stop, she stoped on her own. I did not know for shure it could be bad and was stunned to make a quick movement to get her to stop. But now that i think of it, i am pretty shure this could be a grave matter.
 
on and Evening with a close female friend, we were cuddeling when , half awake, i noticed her hand over my genitals. We were both fully clothed, and when i noticed that it was not a mistake her hand was there she started to make a kind of a petting motion, just when i was awake enough to realize and get her to stop, she stoped on her own. I did not know for shure it could be bad and was stunned to make a quick movement to get her to stop. I did not ejaculate or anything and i dont think i even got to full arrousal…, is this a grave matter?
 
I agree. You did nothing wrong.

Now, about this girl. If you don’t wish to discuss the incident specifically, I think you need to explain your Catholic faith to her. Explain that she needs to behave herself when she is around you and not tempt you to do something that is wrong.
 
If you stopped, and weren’t aware of her intentions, why is there a sin on your part? On her part- well…
 
Sounds like you guys were intimate to begin with? If she was a close female friend and you were “cuddling”. Not sure if I understand the circumstances.
 
I don’t think this is a mortal sin either. It might not be even a venial sin for you, but I think you might discuss it with your priest the next time you go to confession anyway, just to get his advice on how to steer clear of this kind of thing.

In my experience, cuddling with/falling asleep with someone to whom you are sexually attracted leads to sins against chastity. Maybe not mortal sins, but if you repeatedly put yourself in such situations, the excitement can lead to temptations that are overwhelming. Also, you may be unintentionally leading your girlfriend into such temptations by the cuddling…

Not judging you, just a word of caution. Sins of impurity are very easy to fall into if you don’t make some ground rules BEFORE you find yourself in the tempting situation.
 
One more little comment: Next time you think you have grave matter, instead of letting it out here in the public forum, when you can muster yourself to say the question, ask the priest in confession.
 
What a difficult situation! I agree with the above posters about the level of sin on your part. You need to pray hard and determine the boundaries that you require for remaining chaste. Then explain to her gently, but firmly, in a meeting during the daytime and possibly in a public place, what these boundaries are and what they mean for your future relationship. Explain the demands of your faith. What this girl was doing was nothing short of trying to get you going and fast. She has some designs on you and while her affection and emotions may be good, her way of expressing herself is inappropriate. And this sounds less than repectful of you as a person. Is this someone you would consider marrying at some point or is this a casual dating relationship?
 
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