Natural Law has been formed mostly (if not completely) by men. Look, for example, at St. Thomas Aquinas, one of the major players in the direction of thought on this subject. In
Summa Theologica, the question is asked whether woman should have even been made in the first generation of things, since it is assumed she is so inferior. In Part I, Question 92, Article 1, Aquinas replies:
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newadvent.org/summa/1092.htm .
In other words, Aquinas said women are good for reproduction and nothing else. Whereas I, despite being a woman, find myself thinking that God gave me a brain for the very reason of thinking.
This deviation of perspective on women is one of the reasons we are so at odds about contraception. We all need to learn more discernment.
If the Catholic leaders would talk more with women who take contraceptives instead of hurling the words “intrinsically evil” due to Natural Law, they may make progress in understanding. The Church leaders seem to want couples to have as many children as possible, while the women may be hearing a different calling from God. And we might all come to an understanding that barrier contraception is a lot more acceptable, like NFP, than abortifacient contraception. Perhaps the Church leadership could come to more of a resolution with Catholic laypersons so that instead of women using abortifacient pills they would be willing to use barrier contraceptives instead.
Let us remember that Mary, mother of Jesus, was called directly (through an angel) by God. He did not consult with her religious leaders or her parents or even her husband to be. And she answered God directly (through an angel). She did not, in that calling, consult with her religious leaders or her parents or her husband to be. And though the Church insists she was the perfect mother, it also insists she never had sex with her husband nor produced more than one child. Of course, Jesus was quite a child. And He is the one we need to seek for wisdom about the family.
Should not couples be taught to discern God’s will according to their circumstance? Should not the Church hear the voices of women (besides the ones who already agree with them)? All of us need work in discernment.
It has been declared the Year of Mercy by Pope Francis. I pray for God’s mercy to show all of us His will.