While I wouldn’t use heavey corporal pubishment, I would have no problem spanking. I got a few whacks when I was younger and I’m not traumatised.No, not corporal punishment in regards to sex, but the idea of bodily autonomy has been very good for society as a whole. Today, most parents would not use heavy corporal punishment (belts, etc) even if they choose to use the occasional spank. Parents also recognize that it’s a bad idea to force a young child to kiss, hug or cuddle a relative when they don’t want to…especally one they don’t know well…so long as they are otherwise respectful. This idea of bodily autonomy was non-existant in the 50’s. If creepy Uncle Melvin wanted a hug, you bet your red rear end you were going to give him a hug.
I wouldn’t punish a child for not kissing/hugging their granny, but I certainly would “strongly encourage” them to do so out of good manners.
This thing that kids should not be forced to show affection to relatives is nonsense. There are plenty of siturations in adult life where you simply have to do things you might not like out of good manners. If granny wants a kiss and a hug after a visit, I don’t see a problem with that. Kids need to also learn to show deference to elders.