19 y.o. son not interested in girls...

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1sicht said:
OP, no worries, because for one thing, the longer your son waits and observes, the wiser he’ll be (learning from others’ mistakes, etc.). Also, the son of some friends of mine didn’t get married till he was 35 about 3 years ago (mainly because he was shy), and he wasn’t gay, either. **Believe it or not, there’s a personality type that has prudence wired into them from the get-go (I’m one of them **:D), and they just don’t dive in feet first into situations the way most people do. Rejoice that he hasn’t been poisoned—and weakened!—by the degenerative influence of modern society. 👍
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Good for you!!! And you are right, I have one of those and he’s been that way from the start. He used to stand away from the group of kids playing and make up his mind how he wanted to join in. I didn’t understand and thought he was just shy, but over time I’ve seen that he’s above all, rational and his own person. His brother, 180 from that. He’s the independent one, very stubborn, yet also very easily influenced by his need for others’ approval. Neither one is what they seem to be at first glance. The one I thought would succumb to peer pressure is his own person; the one I thought would be a leader has been more of a follower. I wish I’d had 6 or 7 more, just to see the marvelous works of God!!! Having kids is so amazing.
 
That’s not necessarily a bad thing. I am 26 years old and I am not interested in girls nor have I ever had a girlfriend.
 
Samson01 said:
Hello all,
I’m starting to get a little worried about my oldest son. He is not interested in girls and has never had a girlfriend. He goes to school, plays guitar, works around the house, goes to church…and is real family oriented, but has very little social life. Granted, we live in a very rural area with not very many opportuniy’s to be social, but how worried should a parent be? BTW, pretty sure he’s not gay. Thanks, Samson
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I can understand your concern, I lived on dairy farms for my first 26 years,
I had no interest in girls till early 20’s , my mother was a bit concerned,she even tried to talk to me about it, and living in a rural area had a big influence on that, I was very shy and naive, read the Bible etc, but in early 20’s started to find like minded friends,
Then first real girlfriend at 24 married at 26 ,lol should work out, just be patient and just talk to him about what he might like to do in his life,without interrogating him,
 
Attraction didn’t kick in for me until my late twenties – that’s when women became physically distracting. That may be a hormonal thing – I lost a lot of weight around that same time, 120 lbs worth.
 
This thread is pretty old.

I wonder how things have turned out for the young man?
 
I don’t really blame the guy, women before the age of 25 are just a waste of time these days, all they care about is partying and shopping and social networking on their free time and working on their precious careers with the other time.
 
Joie_de_Vivre said:
Did no one ever teach you that necromancy is unholy and sinful?
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Is that a joke? I don’t joke about religion nor do I practice necromancy.

But in all seriousness, you are probably right. I probably shouldn’t have posted on such an old topic. I just didn’t see anything wrong with someone not being interested in dating. A lot of the Saints were single people, though obviously for religious reasons.
 
At 19 I was more focused on beginning my career as a diesel mechanic then I was into women (personal issues prevented me from really opening up to women) and even at 36 I still have problems opening up to women easily. There’s nothing to be concerned about. Sometimes, people follow a different path then the generation before them. My grandfather saw my dad as simply a mind to educate, back to cloth, and mouth to feed. He rarely taught my dad anything. My dad taught me a lot of stuff and loved me as a child. He was the polar opposite of my grandfather.
 
Eagelswings said:
Is that a joke? I don’t joke about religion nor do I practice necromancy.

But in all seriousness, you are probably right. I probably shouldn’t have posted on such an old topic. I just didn’t see anything wrong with someone not being interested in dating. A lot of the Saints were single people, though obviously for religious reasons.
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Necromancy is the term for resurrecting long dead threads.
 
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