1st Communion dress

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I was wondering, why do the girls who are taking their 1st Communion dress in white veils as if they’re getting “married”? THey look so cute!😃

Was I suppose to dress like that when I got Confirmed?
 
Good question. They dress in white because this is one of the 3 sacraments of initiation - the others being Baptism and Confirmation.

White garments symbolize purity and are appropriate for these sacraments.
 
As far as the veils go…

It wasn’t so long ago that all women and girls wore head coverings. Veils as headcoverings are not so common, particularly for little girls, but they are still often worn for first communions.
 
That is a good point that all women used to wear a head covering.

Nowadays though most do not and I have to share that last March and April at my nephew and son’s First Communions the girls were dressed like they were going to prom on the way to their wedding. Our parish has everyone wear a graduation robe that is white to try and tone down all the “glamour”. It did not work and that Mass was a spectacle.

I have two younger daughters who willnot wear a slick gown or headpiece under their robe or on their heads.
 
If I ever have a little girl, for her First Communion I think a nice white dress and a chapel cap would suffice. The whole “mini-bride” thing is slightly scary.
 
They are like brides for Christ. Their hearts and souls are pure and they are ready to receive him. It is very beautiful but I wish I would have known all that when I was in second grade.
 
I have a question along these lines. My whole family is entering the Church this Easter and my daughter (11) is going to be baptized and receive the First Holy Communion at that time. However, she is a total tomboy and would rather die a slow, painful death than wear any dress (let alone a first communion dress).

Suggestions?
 
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arieh0310:
I have a question along these lines. My whole family is entering the Church this Easter and my daughter (11) is going to be baptized and receive the First Holy Communion at that time. However, she is a total tomboy and would rather die a slow, painful death than wear any dress (let alone a first communion dress).

Suggestions?
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I haven’t heard of girls being asked to wear a ‘First Communion Dress’ when they enter the Church at the Easter Vigil (regardless of age). Are you sure this is what your parish requests? I would check with your pastor if you haven’t yet.
 
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Elzee:
I haven’t heard of girls being asked to wear a ‘First Communion Dress’ when they enter the Church at the Easter Vigil (regardless of age). Are you sure this is what your parish requests? I would check with your pastor if you haven’t yet.
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I don’t think the parish requires it, but I have never asked, thought it was the norm. My daughter will be relieved.
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Toni:
What about a plain white dress?
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Nope, no dress will do. She closes her eyes and looks the other direction while we walk by the “Barbie Isle” in toy stores.
 
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arieh0310:
I have a question along these lines. My whole family is entering the Church this Easter and my daughter (11) is going to be baptized and receive the First Holy Communion at that time. However, she is a total tomboy and would rather die a slow, painful death than wear any dress (let alone a first communion dress).

Suggestions?
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Gosh! That sounds so familiar. My daughter has hated wearing dresses since she turned 7 years old. (She’s almost 14 now.) The only reason we got her to wear a dress (plain/no frills to the point of almost ugly) for first communion was because it wasn’t our rule. The parish said she had to wear it and we told her she had to work out any exceptions with the parish staff.

At age 11 your daughter probably doesn’t need to wear a typical second grader’s dress in a larger size. She can dress more like the adults. Would she wear a nice dressy white pantsuit?

(I take it your parish doesn’t wear albs.)
 
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arieh0310:
I don’t think the parish requires it, but I have never asked, thought it was the norm. My daughter will be relieved.
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I’d be surprised if a parish requires it for an 11 year old. Talk to your priest and find out and if it is required, explain the situation to him. It doesn’t sound like your daughter is being ‘difficult or obstinent’ - just that she feels very out of place in a dress.
You want her to dress appropriately, but not to where she is so uncomfortable and miserable that her mind can’t focus on the beauty of the evening. Would she wear a nice pantsuit? Even a nice pair of pants and a pretty blouse or sweater would be nice. I’d forget the dress if it’s going to make her feel out of place - you don’t want that to be the lasting memory she has of the night she enters the Church.
 
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Elzee:
IWould she wear a nice pantsuit?.
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I called the parish and got the scoop, a dress isn’t required. She dresses in slacks and a blouse every Sunday, but a dress would cause much weeping and gnashing of teeth :rolleyes:

My wife and I are gonna have another girl in March, I am keeping this one girly…I hope. :o
 
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arieh0310:
I called the parish and got the scoop, a dress isn’t required. She dresses in slacks and a blouse every Sunday, but a dress would cause much weeping and gnashing of teeth :rolleyes:

My wife and I are gonna have another girl in March, I am keeping this one girly…I hope. :o
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I’m so glad that she will be able to wear what she’s comfortable wearing! I would hate for her irritation to take away from the significance of the day… I know how 11 year old girls can be! (Mine is 10… and VERY opinioned about clothing… it must “feel” ok… UGG!)

(P.S. Congrats for the upcoming baby! I hope Mom is feeling good !!)
 
My youngest daughter received her first communion at age 8, and she wore a beautiful white dress with a veil and white gloves. She received Communion on the tounge, so I guess the gloves were OK.

Anyway, the priest had them take their communion candles to their seats in the pews, and one girl caught my daughter’s veil on fire when she leaned too close to her with the lit candle! :eek: Good thing the veil was fire proof! It only melted, but now there is a big hole in it!
 
In our parish children and adults(male and female) who are baptized at the Easter Vigil wear a very simple ankle length brown robe which they have on when baptized by immersion. After they come up out of the water they go off to private areas where they dry off and put on a similar white robe which is worn for the rest of the liturgy including confirmation and first eucharest. I personally find it quite impressive.
 
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