1What should I have done in this situation?

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This evening I was watching TV with my friends and a show came on that was really disgustingly blasphemous its unreal. I didn’t want to make a show of how holy I obviously am so I just sat there and didn’t say anything. Talking amongst themselves, my non practicing friends said the show was extremely offensive and left the room.

I don’t like leaving things unfinished. Its just a personality trait. So I carried on watching the show to the end.

Apart from anything else I felt personally insulted.

What should I have done? Left immediately? Turned off when my friends left? Something else?

And what should I do now or in the future if it happens again?
 
I would have stood up and said, “Hey, guys, I’m not really into this show. Does anyone want to watch something else?”

If people say, “Yeah, I don’t care for this show either, let’s watch ___ (whatever).”

And then everything’s cool

If everyone says, “No, I want to watch THIS show,” then I would have said, “OK, well, I guess I’ll take off now. Enjoy. See y’all!”

And then I would have left. Not in snotty huff, or with my nose up in the air, or making the Sign of the Cross all the way out. I would have just thanked whoever was hosting the gathering, and then left in a friendly way.

I would NOT have made a big deal out of it.
 
No one forced you to stay and watch it. Next time, get up and leave and go pray the Rosary.
 
MockSock said:
a show came on that was really disgustingly blasphemous its unreal.
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MockSock said:
my non practicing friends said the show was extremely offensive and left the room.

I don’t like leaving things unfinished. Its just a personality trait. So I carried on watching the show to the end.
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Read the parts I quoted.

You didn’t want to make a show of how holy you are, but even your non-practicing friends stopped watching. I am not sure how you justify watching it even after they stopped. “Just a personality trait?” It sounds as if you are putting you before what is right and moral.
 
MockSock said:
I didn’t want to make a show of how holy I obviously am so I just sat there and didn’t say anything.
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In future, you need to have the courage of your convictions. Work out when is good to take a stand for what you believe in.
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I don’t like leaving things unfinished. Its just a personality trait.
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You may also want to reconsider this. You don’t like leaving things unfinished, but did it really fulfill you to watch this show to the end?

I think in your situation, I would have spoken out when the show first came on. And if I really didn’t feel comfortable publicly showing my beliefs, I would have left with my friends when they said it was not appropriate to watch.

Why are you uncomfortable talking to your friends about what you believe?
 
Are your friends aware that you take your faith seriously?
Perhaps if this happens again take the opportunity to tell them that it is offensive to you and how important your faith is.
Your friends may consider you when deciding what to watch next time.
 
Irishmom2 said:
You didn’t want to make a show of how holy you are
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I feel like the sarcastic tone I intended when I said that I didn’t want to make a show of how holy I was might have been lost in writing.
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I am not sure how you justify watching it even after they stopped. “Just a personality trait?” It sounds as if you are putting you before what is right and moral.
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You make a good point, maybe I am a sinner.
 
I myself don’t sit through media I find to be “disgustingly blasphemous”. I will generally leave/ stop looking at it. Sometimes I will say something if the group of people I’m with are my friends (as opposed to strangers who enjoy the trashing of religion in which case I just pray for them).

I am not sure why you would want to continue looking at that, if it was so bad that your non-practicing friends even commented and left.
 
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And what should I do now or in the future if it happens again?
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Only you can decide that one. I will add, if you need any encouragement, that I have never hesitated to leave in the middle of a show, both in homes and in the theater. It’s very satisfying so you have that to look forward to. 😀
 
Many reasons. Partly health reasons and partly because of who they are. One has learning disabilities and the other is very opinionated and loud.

I am not good at and I dislike confrontation
 
Stand up, say “peace out” and leave.

Someone asks why, respond “it is not cool to mock anyone’s religion, even mine” and leave.
 
CelticWarlord said:
Only you can decide that one. I will add, if you need any encouragement, that I have never hesitated to leave in the middle of a show, both in homes and in the theater. It’s very satisfying so you have that to look forward to
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Thank you for thepositive comment!
 
A great positive trait to develop is to act on your convictions. What do you think Jesus would have done if He was there? Practice the presence of God.
 
Tis_Bearself said:
I am not sure why you would want to continue looking at that, if it was so bad that your non-practicing friends even commented and left.
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I have hinted at it but since so many people want to know I’ll spell it out. I am on the autism spectrum. An “unusual” trait related to this is that I will not leave a job half finished or a movie or show half watched. Whatever the content. It is something I struggle with and am trying to overcome.
 
That’s confusing because I you said you didn’t want to show your friends “how holy you were.” Sure hope you get the help you need.
 
I’m muting this thread now. I wasn’t expecting so much criticism and negativity
 
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I don’t know if you’re still reading OP, but please don’t be so hard on yourself. You’ve recognised areas you have difficulties with, which is really good. Many people just can’t make it to that point.

Next time something like this happens, I’m sure you’ll be happy with the way you handled it. It may be difficult at first, and you might get some pushback from friends, but keep going. It’ll work out in the long run.
 
If your continuing to view it was due to a medical condition like autism, then I understand it may not have been your free will choice to keep looking at it.

Maybe in the future just avoid the particular TV series.
 
Half the shows and movies I start, I don’t finish. There’s a number of reasons that entertainment can be offensive, but just to name one, of the name of our Lord is used in vain by a main character that is not a villain or intentionally flawed character, that show is finished.
 
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