3rd base a sin?

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Me and my girlfriend both believe that premarital sex is wrong. I think it is a sin to God and it should not be done.

However, I am curious about the steps before sexual intercourse.
As popular today, people refer to the baseball theory. 1st base, 2nd base, 3rd base, and home run (sexual intercourse).

I have hit 3rd base pretty lots of times and that means oral, french kissing, licking necks, etc we have done all, but not sex.

I just can’t do sex because it’s too much for me and my girlfriend but until that, it is hard to resist.

Is it a sin or is it in the gray area? I have read very different articles that even premarital sex is not a sin to where french kissing is a sin.

Can anyone help me? I am lost
 
french kissing isn’t a sin, but oral sex is definitely sinful. keep in mind that if you struggle with “going too far” you may wanna refrain from french kissing too if you can’t control your impulses.

or just learn to control your impulses
 
“Licking necks”? 🤔

But yes, you’re going too far.
 
If Jesus was standing right there while you were hitting 3rd base do you really think he would say “Thats okay, nothing wrong with oral sex before marriage”???

Admittedly, Me and my girlfriend kiss and makeout for probably a bit too long sometimes, which my spiritual director told me is a venial sin (Im a certain it can become a mortal sin under certain circumstances so that is not a free pass to do what we want) I do not think french kissing is appropriate so we do not do that.One priest told me making out is not even a sin but I still try to keep myself in check. Its hard every single week but for good reason.

FIrst base, not grave matter unless you are trying to arouse yourself. Second and above, I would not do it as what other purpose than arousing oneself can be the reason for touching a woman’s private parts? And purposely trying to arouse oneself is grave matter. My senior pastor told me a good rule of thumb when it comes to kissing is this… are you doing it out of love for the other person or are you objectifying them? Do you even love your girlfriend? Things you need to think about.
 
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Once it goes beyond being affectionate into any form of sexual activity or anything which involves touching, stimulating or even exposing the private areas of the body - sin
 
Despite the fact that oral sex is completely immoral
 
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Prior to a valid marriage, anything that you would not do in front of her parents, your parents, your priest and all of the grandparents is a sin. Sexual activity is for marriage.
 
Not to completion, even if married is my understanding of the teaching and it must end with intercourse.
 
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Just be careful not to draw a “walk” while the bases are loaded. That can get you into real trouble.
 
My take is that one shouldn’t even be talking about “1st base . . . 2nd base . . . etc.” unless one is actually on a team (read: married).

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