These conversations in print are a little akward, middle schoolers in real life don’t talk that way.
Let’s say a table of 4 middle school girls are talking about the “Daddy Daughter” dance coming up. One girl is not joining the conversation, she just enrolled in the school last week so the other girls are just getting to know her.
Sally says “Ashley, what are you wearing to the Daddy Daughter Dance?”
Ashley says “I think it is dumb, I am not going”.
The other girls all start in with “whys” and “It is not dumb” in a chorus as mid-schoolers do.
Finally Ashley says “look, I don’t have a dad, so, I can’t go to the stupid dance even if I wanted to!”
Others keep prying, Ashley tells them how her mom always wanted to be a mom, so, she adopted Ashley from foster care.
Now, one child can give a lecture about how “adoption is not about getting kids because a person wants a kid, it is about providing kids with a mother AND a father. It is very sad that you have been denied having a REAL family.” OR the kids can say “Hey, if you want to go, let’s talk to Mr. Suchnthus and your mom can go because she is your mom AND your dad!” or brainstorm other ways to help Ashley not feel left out. That is human compassion and radical love.