44 and Pregnant Possibly?

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Hi, The chance that I am pregnant is a very slim possibility, since I am 44, But I have only been late 3 times in my life for each of my 3 previous children. I have always been super regular. So now I am anywhere from 1 to 5 days late and have been sitting here today dreaming about being pregnant at my age.I have been looking at all the older mom sites or pregnant over 40 sites just for fun. Ok I am resisting taking a pregnancy test till next Saturday if my period hasn’t come yet. But I had to tell someone cause I am in an extremely good mood right so I am telling you people that I don’t know. Since I think all my friends will say just give it a few more days or wouldn’t believe me at this point. My oldest will be 21 on Wednesday Yikes and my youngest just turned 12. But it is cool to think about. I wouldn’t mind starting over. It has been on my mind all morning.
I figure it can only be three possibilities: one I miscalculated when I would get my period (I don’t think so), two I am becoming peri-menopausal and my periods for the first time in my life are becoming irregular, or three I am pregnant.

See what happens when you convert to Catholicism you become pregnant (sorry for the stereo type just joking!!) but I know that is how my MIL will look at it. LOL 😃

Oh well I think if I do get my P in the next few days I have psyched my self up so much today that I will be a little disappointed.
 
I hope you are!! Do you chart your cycle? I think if you have been doing that you might already have a lot of insight into just how fertile you are.

I know it is pretty exciting to think about, isn’t it?
 
I’m excited for you already, even if it is just a possibility!!! 🙂

You will definitely have to let us know either way when you find out! (please 😛 )
 
We are POAS obsessed women…I even have ticker about it. 😃

I say to test!!!😛 😃
 
TOOOOOO Exciting!!!

Does anyone remember the doctor who used to be such an ardent supporter of LaLecheLeague? (this was pre- Dr. Sears days.)

I can’t remember the beloved fellow’s name, but once I heard him give a lovely talk. The most beautiful thing he said was this, “the best gift parents can give to themselves is to have a child in their forties.”

He went on to explain that the wisdom gained over the years, the sensitivity, the ability to recognise little problems from big etc., all make middle aged parenting a joy.

I have to agree. I’m a very different (read better) mom with my younger kids. I enjoy it more, too. (I’ve had two babies in my forties.)

PLEASE tell us if you’re certain of good news!
 
I am a New Catholic Here and new to NFP. The Past 22 years we have been using a combination of the old Calendar method and condoms. Since becoming Catholics we stopped using condoms not quite a year ago. I have always been so regular I usually run a 28 to 32 day cycle - Never have gone past 32 days- So abstinence from about the 9th to the 18th day has always been sufficient. Since becoming Catholic (I was confirmed last November and Hubby was just confirmed this July) I looked into formal NFP methods but not too seriously because as I said I have always been super regular and the fact it is suppose to be extremely difficult to get pregnant in your 40’s Or so I thought.

Anyway I was always fertile, with all three previous kids I got pregnant when we purposely tried on the first try each time. Anyway financially etc another pregnancy won’t be a hardship or anything and I actually was kinda feeling empty nestish anyway since my daughter is going back to the dorms at college in a few weeks and a lot of my friends have younger kids than me because they waited till their mid to late thirties to have kids.

Not that we planned it, but it certainly wouldn’t be a hardship. The idea has been kinda exciting to me all day. Having a baby again seems really nice. The only concern is age and birth defects. There is great fear since we already have one handicapped child (my oldest) In his case it was just a spontaneous mutation in just him. In other words I am not a carrier and my other kids are fine. The Doctor has always said though if it happened once it could happen again but in their professional opinion they said it appears to be just a fluke. However I have two nephews with different special needs too. So it is scary because I was also a Special Ed teacher and I do Know the Stats and probably have a heightened awareness of all the things that can go wrong. But I am trying not to think about those things. Also my only other fear is that I have put on quite a bit of weight in the past 5 years. I actually just started a diet program and have just lost 6 pounds in the past 3 weeks.

So we will just wait and see. Don’t want to burst my bubble with a negative test quite yet. Also if I went today and got a test and it was negative and I still didn’t get my P I would have to test again later. So I thought I would just give it a few more days. Maybe that is silly.
 
I remember when I was 44: I thought I was going into premature menopause, but every so often I’d experience waves of nausea. It turned out that I was pregnant with a daughter. (We already had two boys.)
Good luck and God bless you.
 
I am so happy and jealous at the same time… I am 45 and trying to get pregnant. I was pregnant at 43 and 44 and miscarried. My suggestion is to test now and get in to see a doc right away if it is + because as I have found out… older moms seem to have a problem with progesterone levels. Please ask them to monitor your progesterone closely.
 
I would go ahead and test now! Honestly. Congrats if you are!!
 
There was an interesting quote – a few posts up; I won’t post it because the poster did not know the name of the person who said it, or if the words were right, but the sentiment was obvious:

“the best gift parents can give to themselves is to have a child in their forties.”

That literally made me laugh. I could not agree more.

I am the Dad to ten children, ranging from 25 to 8 months (yes, same wife; yes, we do have a TV). I have been the parent to an infant in my teens, my twenties, my thirties and now at 44. I am confounded and delighted at the difference.

My last baby was more than ten years ago; I was still in my thirties and we had a houseful of small children. I was constantly stopped in the store, the mall, anywhere in public and asked all sorts of personal questions. I felt like I was under the public magnifying glass 24 hours a day. My children had to be good or it reflected poorly on every large family. My children had to score highest, or achieve the most in home school or the institutional schooling advocates would have propaganda against our “side”. Life was full of pressure.

Now, in my mid-forties, I had a tiny baby placed into my arms months ago. At first, I thought it would be more of the same, but quickly I found that it was totally different. My eldest children, several college graduates – one of those married, are fine upstanding citizens. They have turned out splendidly. I could not be prouder. So, as I hold this tiny child, I know that the techniques that my wife and I employ work. I know that we will raise a strong child who is grounded in her faith, intelligent, competent and a good person.

What I didn’t realize was how much fun I would have. The stress is gone, the expectations are lifted. My pressure to impress outsiders is gone. I found myself walking through the store singing to her the other day. I simply enjoy being with her more than the others, not because of who she is and they were not, but because of who I am now. I am comfortable with myself and that translates to being a more laid-back father. Now, when it comes to child rearing, I will be the same firm believer in discipline, but I’ve lost all need to worry about what anyone else things, says or does. I am free. I can simply revel in the delight that is my baby girl. It is an experience that I was not expecting and one that I thank God for as often as I realize what is going on.

She won’t have the same Dad as many of the others; I don’t have the energy I once did. I’m a much more quiet and relaxed person prone to quiet and solitary activities, but she will have a Dad who is comfortable having tea-parties in the front yard, picking her up and twirling her around and kissing her until she dissolves into giggles, dances around the living room, rolls on the grass as if there is nothing more important in life to do and just understands – to an extent the younger me could not – the miracle that is in front of him.

So, I agree with that quote, whomever it was who originally said it. If you are with child, I pray you will enjoy the new addition as much as I have.
 
deanarrca said:
h well I think if I do get my P in the next few days I have psyched my self up so much today that I will be a little disappointed.
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Of course you will be. The thought of a new little soul is exciting!
 
deanarrca said:
Hi, The chance that I am pregnant is a very slim possibility, since I am 44, But I have only been late 3 times in my life for each of my 3 previous children. I have always been super regular. So now I am anywhere from 1 to 5 days late and have been sitting here today dreaming about being pregnant at my age.I have been looking at all the older mom sites or pregnant over 40 sites just for fun. Ok I am resisting taking a pregnancy test till next Saturday if my period hasn’t come yet. But I had to tell someone cause I am in an extremely good mood right so I am telling you people that I don’t know. Since I think all my friends will say just give it a few more days or wouldn’t believe me at this point. My oldest will be 21 on Wednesday Yikes and my youngest just turned 12. But it is cool to think about. I wouldn’t mind starting over. It has been on my mind all morning.
I figure it can only be three possibilities: one I miscalculated when I would get my period (I don’t think so), two I am becoming peri-menopausal and my periods for the first time in my life are becoming irregular, or three I am pregnant.

See what happens when you convert to Catholicism you become pregnant (sorry for the stereo type just joking!!) but I know that is how my MIL will look at it. LOL 😃

Oh well I think if I do get my P in the next few days I have psyched my self up so much today that I will be a little disappointed.
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I’m excited for you as well.

I was 42 years old with my last child (son).
Three sons. My oldest will be 29, 22 and 7 years old

What a blessing all three of my sons are. 🙂
 
What I didn’t realize was how much fun I would have. The stress is gone, the expectations are lifted. My pressure to impress outsiders is gone. I found myself walking through the store singing to her the other day. I simply enjoy being with her more than the others, not because of who she is and they were not, but because of who I am now. I am comfortable with myself and that translates to being a more laid-back father. Now, when it comes to child rearing, I will be the same firm believer in discipline, but I’ve lost all need to worry about what anyone else things, says or does. I am free. I can simply revel in the delight that is my baby girl. It is an experience that I was not expecting and one that I thank God for as often as I realize what is going on.
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She won’t have the same Dad as many of the others; I don’t have the energy I once did. I’m a much more quiet and relaxed person prone to quiet and solitary activities, but she will have a Dad who is comfortable having tea-parties in the front yard, picking her up and twirling her around and kissing her until she dissolves into giggles, dances around the living room, rolls on the grass as if there is nothing more important in life to do and just understands – to an extent the younger me could not – the miracle that is in front of him.
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GhostMan this brought tears to my eyes to read…what a lucky girl your daughter is to have you as a dad! Beautiful:) 👍
 
GhostMan said:
There was an interesting quote – a few posts up; I won’t post it because the poster did not know the name of the person who said it, or if the words were right, but the sentiment was obvious:

“the best gift parents can give to themselves is to have a child in their forties.”

That literally made me laugh. I could not agree more.

I am the Dad to ten children, ranging from 25 to 8 months (yes, same wife; yes, we do have a TV). I have been the parent to an infant in my teens, my twenties, my thirties and now at 44. I am confounded and delighted at the difference.

My last baby was more than ten years ago; I was still in my thirties and we had a houseful of small children. I was constantly stopped in the store, the mall, anywhere in public and asked all sorts of personal questions. I felt like I was under the public magnifying glass 24 hours a day. My children had to be good or it reflected poorly on every large family. My children had to score highest, or achieve the most in home school or the institutional schooling advocates would have propaganda against our “side”. Life was full of pressure.

Now, in my mid-forties, I had a tiny baby placed into my arms months ago. At first, I thought it would be more of the same, but quickly I found that it was totally different. My eldest children, several college graduates – one of those married, are fine upstanding citizens. They have turned out splendidly. I could not be prouder. So, as I hold this tiny child, I know that the techniques that my wife and I employ work. I know that we will raise a strong child who is grounded in her faith, intelligent, competent and a good person.

What I didn’t realize was how much fun I would have. The stress is gone, the expectations are lifted. My pressure to impress outsiders is gone. I found myself walking through the store singing to her the other day. I simply enjoy being with her more than the others, not because of who she is and they were not, but because of who I am now. I am comfortable with myself and that translates to being a more laid-back father. Now, when it comes to child rearing, I will be the same firm believer in discipline, but I’ve lost all need to worry about what anyone else things, says or does. I am free. I can simply revel in the delight that is my baby girl. It is an experience that I was not expecting and one that I thank God for as often as I realize what is going on.

She won’t have the same Dad as many of the others; I don’t have the energy I once did. I’m a much more quiet and relaxed person prone to quiet and solitary activities, but she will have a Dad who is comfortable having tea-parties in the front yard, picking her up and twirling her around and kissing her until she dissolves into giggles, dances around the living room, rolls on the grass as if there is nothing more important in life to do and just understands – to an extent the younger me could not – the miracle that is in front of him.

So, I agree with that quote, whomever it was who originally said it. If you are with child, I pray you will enjoy the new addition as much as I have.
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beautiful, beautiful post!!
God bless you, and your family!
 
😃

This thread gives me a lot of hope!

Any test results yet from the OP?
 
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