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It has been 6 months since my ex broke up with me. I know people tell me in time it will get better but its honestly not. Things are just getting worse.
I am falling behind with school work, I am getting ill and I am so depressed.

I am trying my best to be positive and to do things to take my mind off it etc but I can’t.
This time last year we went on holiday to Iceland and we were so happy. I don’t understand how he fell out of love with me or why it happend. I don’t understand why he doesnt even seem to miss me at all because we’re not even friends. I wish we could at least be friends.

I don’t understand how or why this is God’s plan for me because believe me we were perfect for each other and made each other really happy. My ex got depression and I was living 300 miles away so he gave up on us. Married couples fall in and out of love all the time but because they are married they (usually) don’t give up on each other. I know we weren’t married but I honestly believed and still do believe that one day he would be my husband.

I would actually do anything to either get him back or get over him but I’m scared because nothing is working. I can’t get him back and I can’t get over him and I really don’t want to feel this way anymore. I don’t understand why it won’t get better. I feel like it will never end.

Please pray for God to help me find the right path. Only God knows if I am meant to end up with my ex or with someone else, but I wish He would reveal at least part of the plan to me. I can’t cope much longer. 😦
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A broken heart is a very very heavy burden indeed. Please turn to Mary during this time. Her heart understands and she will give you grace if you ask. This is a purifying grace.
Let’s pray:

O Mother of Perpetual Help
To thee we come imploring help.
Behold us here, from far and near,
To ask of thee our help to be;
Behold us here, from far and near,
To ask of thee our help to be.

Perpetual help we beg of thee;
Our souls from sin and sorrow free;
Direct our wandering feet aright,
And be thyself out own true light;
Direct our wandering feet aright,
And be thyself out own true light.

And when this life is o’er for me,
This last request I ask of thee:
Obtain for me in heaven this grace,
To see my God there face to face;
Obtain for me in heaven this grace,
To see my God there face to face.

May the Blessed Mother come
into your life today with
a special blessing for you.
May you always be grateful for
the Blessed Mother.
Without her we would not have
Jesus. Our Savior.

Amen.
 
Thank you.
Please keep praying. I honestly just want to stay in bed all day and cry but I can’t. I’m so behind with my uni work 😦
 
Lord I find this very difficult as if I do not have the self -respect and and practicality not to go pining after someone who after so long has made it plain they don’t want me as an integral part of their lives, it seems like self-destructive self-indulgence for me to wreck my health and studies over them, betraying the gift of my self and the gift of my abilities. If it is, please heal me Lord. Help me to move on and to concentrate on the realities in my my life. Help me to live in practical kindness to others as You command, for that is my mission as I do the best I can to flourish. Please help me to live my life to the full as the person You created me to be.
For You love me, Lord, and I wish to love You in return.
God bless you, dear girl
 
Trishie said:
Lord I find this very difficult as if I do not have the self -respect and and practicality not to go pining after someone who after so long has made it plain they don’t want me as an integral part of their lives, it seems like self-destructive self-indulgence for me to wreck my health and studies over them, betraying the gift of my self and the gift of my abilities. If it is, please heal me Lord. Help me to move on and to concentrate on the realities in my my life. Help me to live in practical kindness to others as You command, for that is my mission as I do the best I can to flourish. Please help me to live my life to the full as the person You created me to be.
For You love me, Lord, and I wish to love You in return.
God bless you, dear girl
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Thank you for your prayer, but you do not have to be judgemental as I am not “pining” after him and I am not being self-indulgent. I am in love with him. I was convinced we would marry, if we had married I would still be in love with him. If we were to seperate from marriage I would still be in love with him and would not be told I was “pining” after him.
Yes I know we did not marry, but you do not know what the future holds. And even if we never get back together it does not take the hurt away now.

I came to a Catholic forum because I thought people here would be less judgemental than my friends who aren’t religious. Some people aren’t but some are.
If I wanted to be made to feel guilty or feel worse about feeling sad then I would have just spoke to one of my not so compassionate friends.

God bless
 
Hi milletsmo my friend
Im sorry i haven’t gotten back to you again yet but i’ve had a few things happening in my life that were urgent.Not had much time for sleep let alone friends but i iwll PM you soon.
You are in my thoughts and prayers and have been for some time.You are doing so well and have been pro-active for so long now…welldone.What you are suffering is tantamount to the grieving process.You are grieving for your relationship and how you dreamt it would be how you wanted him to be.
You have been doing all the right things praying, keeping busy,socialising with friends etc.
Time moves so slowly when you are suffering and i am so sorry my friend.
BUT look at the positives here you have gotten through 6mths without him incredible!!It can only get better.

Lord i ask You to heal milletsmo of the emotional pain she is suffering and grant her the strength to overcome her doubts and fears.She is an incredible person ,intelligent,beautiful inside and out i ask You would grant she meet that special person in her life who will treasure her for who she is and all her fine qualities.

Prayer to St. Anthony for Emotional Healing

St. Anthony, dear friend and heavenly guide, be present to milletsmo now, and let her know your compassion. Pray to our dear Lord for her, that she may experience calmness and peace in her emotions.

Help her to grow in faith and hope. Protect her from all that displeases God, and obtain for her serenity of mind and spirit.

I place all my confidence in you, St. Anthony, and I pray for mercy, grace and God’s gentle goodness for milletsmo. Amen.
 
There are different kinds of death. You’re mourning the death of your relationship. It’s as hard as mourning the loss of a spouse, maybe even harder because that person is still “here”. What you’re feeling is normal. I hope the information below helps you. I wish I would have know this when my husband died. I still would have mourned, but at least I wouldn’t have felt like I was loosing my mind.

God speed your healing. I’ll pray for you.

Grief and the Mourning Process

The Phases of grief:

Many people refer to the “stages” or “phases” of grief. It may be helpful to be aware of these identified phases or common aspects of grief. It is also important to know there is no right or wrong way to grieve. You may go back and forth between phases, experience more than one at a time, or even skip one all together. All feelings are normal, even if they seem “crazy”.

• Shock is the first stage of numbness, disbelief and unreality.

• Denial in thoughts or words such as, “I don’t believe it – It can’t be!”

• Bargaining involves making promises such as, “I’ll be so good if only I can awaken to find this hasn’t happened” or “I’ll do all the right things if only…”

• Guilt is a hard stage and difficult to deal with alone. This is a normal feeling characterized by statements such as, “If only I had … If only I had not…” done or said or thought something. Guilt may ultimately be resolved by understanding that all of us are human beings who give the best and worst of ourselves to others. What they do with what we give is their responsibility.

• Anger is another very difficult phase, but it may seem necessary in order to face reality and get beyond the loss. We all must heal in our own way and anger is a normal stage along the way. However, you may feel guilty because you are angry at the person who died or because your life is continuing while his or hers is not. If you don’t feel anger, don’t manufacture it!

• Depression may come and go and be different each time in length and/or intensity. Give yourself time to heal.

• Resignation means you finally believe the reality of the death.

• Acceptance and Hope come when you finally understand that you will never be the same, but you can go on to have meaning and purpose in your life.

Four “TASKS” of grief: Here are four steps toward surviving tragedy and loss:

• Tell the story: Talk about what has happened until it becomes real. Talk to caring family and friends, attend a support group, begin individual work with a mental health professional, but find a way to speak about the person who died and how the death has impacted your life and family. Tell the story until you don’t need to tell it anymore. Chances are, you will be close to acceptance at that point.

• Express the Emotions: Grief is filled with conflicting tidal waves of emotion. Just when you think you’ve accepted the death, disbelief may sweep over you again. You may feel intense anger along with equally intense feelings of love and loss. Or, in the midst of crying about the person’s death, a sense of unreality may surface again. No matter what the range of emotions, all are to be expected during grief. It is crucial to get the emotions outside of yourself. “Stuffed” feelings can build and build and become overwhelming. Scream, cry, write, draw, punch a punching bag, tell an empathetic someone, take a walk, do SOMETHING to express what you feel.

• Make Meaning, from the Loss: Nothing can make what has happened “okay”. Life is turned upside down and changed forever. However, you can determine that something good and reasonable will come out of the unreasonable tragedy that you are experiencing. At some point, you may be able to accept the reality that your loved one’s entire life was not defined by his or her last decision - to die. Nothing can take away the good things the person accomplished. When you are ready, you may reach out to others with similar experiences… or set up a scholarship or other appropriate memorial in the person’s name … or work in some capacity to better the lives of others. There are many, many ways to make meaning from tragedy.

• Transition from the Physical Presence of the Person to the New Relationship: while missing the physical presence of a loved one in our lives may continue well into the future, it is possible to transition into acceptance of the person’s nonphysical presence. What can that relationship be? For some, it is memories and love carried in our hearts. No one can take away our memories and, as long as we treasure love for the person who has died, they are not forgotten. The new relationship may be spiritual or in some other way in keeping with religious beliefs.
 
Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen
:signofcross:
 
Thank you all. I just wish I knew when things would be better…
 
Hang in there. Things are getting better. You just don’t know it yet! 😉

A PRAYER FOR PEACE OF MIND (By Saint Francis Xavier Cabrini)
FORTIFY me with the grace of Your Holy Spirit and give Your peace to my soul that I may be free from all needless anxiety, solicitude and worry. Help me to desire always that which is pleasing and acceptable to You so that Your will may be my will.

Amen!
 
Dear friend im keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.Keep praying yourself.God loves you and has His plan for you.It’s so exciting i wonder what it is?Trust in the Lord for He loves you and has His Divine plan for you.God bless

Lord i ask You to heal milletsmo of the emotional pain she is suffering and grant her the strength to overcome her doubts and fears.She is an incredible person ,intelligent,beautiful inside and out i ask You would grant she meet that special person in her life who will treasure her for who she is and all her fine qualities.

Prayer to St. Anthony for Emotional Healing

St. Anthony, dear friend and heavenly guide, be present to milletsmo now, and let her know your compassion. Pray to our dear Lord for her, that she may experience calmness and peace in her emotions.

Help her to grow in faith and hope. Protect her from all that displeases God, and obtain for her serenity of mind and spirit.

I place all my confidence in you, St. Anthony, and I pray for mercy, grace and God’s gentle goodness for milletsmo. Amen.
 
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