7 Things Teenage boys need most

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Coming from the mom of a soon to be 15 year old son- great article, gave me some insight and realize that I take my son’s tempature far too often…Thanks for sharing. I bookmarked it for dad to read too.
 
I know Fr. Michael. 👍

I remember saying something once about women beating around the bush. His reply was that men just want us to step on the bush!
 
I loved this article…thank you stbruno. I have a 16 yr old son–the only thing I disagree with, is that my son will come to me with some ‘moral dilemmas,’ and we do have long ‘philosophical’ conversations…but he does open up more readily with his dad, than me. I will have to listen with a glass to my bedroom door sometimes to hear everything being said. :eek: Kidding, I’m not that bad. I think that boys can also be moody, like people say teenage girls can be. My son sometimes will be very open, laughing, and conversational…and then other times…quick answers. But, I don’t think that Father is completely accurate in saying that teenage boys are not interested in talking with their moms. I thnk that it’s important for a female-male bond to be there…but totally agree with everything else the article said.

I am going to print this one out. 👍
 
Hey, our sons talk to their mom almost every day and they are away at school. They usually will come to her first when they get in a dilemma, especially if they are feeling ill. And they are very independent too, but hey…the idea is to always keep the door open and respect them. I like this article alot myself.
 
Yeah, me too…! It’s interesting, there is an entirely different relationship that my husband has with our son, than me. But, he needs BOTH. That is the key. I am going to share this link with friends and family too–you provide us with the greatest articles, stbruno! 👍
 
My 21 yr old son (who knew Fr. Michael growing up) is in the Navy. When something exciting happens, he calls me 👍 . He called me a week ago to tell me he’s going on a short deployment on a carrier. He’s in San Diego tonight and gets underway tomorrow.

The things he tells his dad are much different.
 
“Moms are not going to have a loving, intimate, communicative relationship with their high school boys.”

Well…I have 2 high school boys and one 8th grader. I have a “loving, intimate, communicative relationship” with all 3…

Every one of them still gives me a hug and kiss goodnight every night (they initiate). When my oldest (17) returns from nights out (whether dates or just out with friends), I am the one waiting for his safe return. Dad is always in bed, asleep. So when he returns, 9 times out of 10, he will plop down on the couch and recount his night with me, sharing his excitement, his frustrations, his experiences…Most nights, we are up for an hour or so, just “talking”. I have overheard the conversations with dad the next day …
Dad: “So how was your night last night?”
Son: “Fine.”
Dad: “What did you do?”
Son: “Not much. Hung out.”

With me, he’s told me who was there, what movie they watched, how silly they all got when they played some video game, how they played hide and seek out in the dark park late at night, etc. I get faaaar more information…and it’s volunteered by him.

My other 2 are also very open in their communication with me.
They tell their dad very little, except if it has to do with sports.
 
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Well…I have 2 high school boys and one 8th grader. I have a “loving, intimate, communicative relationship” with all 3…
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I think that is wonderful, but the priest provides some valuable
clues to the others who might not have that. Who knew that
a teenage boy could find his masculinity being questioned by
being asked about his feelings? That makes a big difference
in how you deal with some people. And the boy who feels this
way won’t tell you, “mom, I’m feeling degraded by your questions”. Thanks for the article!
👍
 
One of the worst things a mom can do, especially with a teenage son, is ask too many questions. I’m 23 and still living at home while I discern my vocation and my mom has a tendency to make me feel like I’m being nagged. I can’t come in and just go to my room. She has to start a litany of questions, and while they may be from genuine concern they’re still annoying sometimes - not that I’d say that, I just give a quick answer in passing.

Guys want to share themselves sometimes - and often feel more comfortable doing so with females they’re close to - but generally speaking guys want to just get down to business, getting through things as quickly as possible, with conversations generally being a means to an end. I think it’s safe to say most guys don’t want to just sit around and talk for the sake of sitting around and talking.

All generalizations, but hopefully at least somewhat helpful.
Stephen
 
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