A dating couple who lives together

[thomasgjostein]

Greetings, everyone, My name is Tom and I could use some help. I need to find authority on a question, which involves a couple that my wife and I know who probably are living together and not married. It gets complicated, because they may not be sexually active together or with anyone else. I am well aware of what the Church, Catechism, Tradition, TOB and other teachings are on the serious sin caused by conjugal relations outside of marriage. It is more difficult to find anything specific in the CCC on a couple who lives together, and maybe not engaging in conjugal relations, but not married. My wife and I believe it is a scandal and certainly near occasion of sin, as they have no marital engagement nor any plan to do so. We discussed this with one priest who needed know time to point out the wrongfulness of this situation. Neither person is or has been married before. It is further delicate for us, as one person is family and the other a friend and one is a God-parent to one of our children. Thank you.

 

[Anglewannabe]

Not sure what you need advice on. You know it is a sin, you are not the one committing the sin, there is nothing else for you to do

 

[Arizona_Fat_Gir]

Who are this couple? Are they Will and Grace?

 

[Tim_D]

So, what do you propose? To confront them? Do you really think that will have any positive effect? Unless they seek your opinion, the best thing to do is to mind your own business.

 

[Irishmom2]

Hello Thomas. I understand your concern, but I am not sure what your question is. You have spoken to a priest, but I think you should return to him if you need further assistance, because he is the authority that will help you best. May God bless you and guide you.

 

[tawny]

You’ve already received your answer from the Priest.

 

[WilliamE]

Greetings, everyone, My name is Tom and I could use some help. I need to find authority on a question, which involves a couple that my wife and I know who probably are living together and not married. It gets complicated, because they may not be sexually active together or with anyone else. I am well aware of what the Church, Catechism, Tradition, TOB and other teachings are on the serious sin caused by conjugal relations outside of marriage. It is more difficult to find anything specific in the CCC on a couple who lives together, and maybe not engaging in conjugal relations, but not married. My wife and I believe it is a scandal and certainly near occasion of sin, as they have no marital engagement nor any plan to do so. We discussed this with one priest who needed know time to point out the wrongfulness of this situation. Neither person is or has been married before. It is further delicate for us, as one person is family and the other a friend and one is a God-parent to one of our children. Thank you.

You appear to be getting your knickers in a twist about a situation you don’t seem to know much about.

 

[Catholic1954]

Greetings, everyone, My name is Tom and I could use some help. I need to find authority on a question, which involves a couple that my wife and I know who probably are living together and not married. It gets complicated, because they may not be sexually active together or with anyone else. I am well aware of what the Church, Catechism, Tradition, TOB and other teachings are on the serious sin caused by conjugal relations outside of marriage. It is more difficult to find anything specific in the CCC on a couple who lives together, and maybe not engaging in conjugal relations, but not married. My wife and I believe it is a scandal and certainly near occasion of sin, as they have no marital engagement nor any plan to do so. We discussed this with one priest who needed know time to point out the wrongfulness of this situation. Neither person is or has been married before. It is further delicate for us, as one person is family and the other a friend and one is a God-parent to one of our children. Thank you.

You, have the authority of the Church, catechism, tradition and the consultation of a priest what more are you looking for? They are not violating the civil law and hurting no one but themselves, let it be.

 

[Beryllos]

What would you do differently if you knew they were having sexual relations? But you don’t.

My advice is to avoid rash judgement, stay out of it, don’t talk about it except perhaps with the priest, pray for them in a general sort of non-judgmental way, and show them respect and kindness when you see them.

I will pray for them, and also for you and your wife.