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DaMaMaXiMuS
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Greetings and Peace unto you All,
Here’s the situation that’s come up this past weekened. A close friend of mine, which is like a brother to me, confided some disturbing things to me. Mind you my friend is not a Catholic, he used to be in the same religion I was in prior to starting on my journey of being a Catholic. After the church we were a part of practically fell apart, he became one of those members who just let himself go back into the world and has had no regard for God and doing righteousness. We don’t see one another as often as we used so I know that the majority of enfluences around him are of the negative nature.
He told me that he met a women the week before and that they went out a few days later. Aparently, this was all based on lust because they ended up sleeping together on that last date. My friend knows it wrong to be sleeping around, and I’ve explained to him the matter of having sex outside of marriage. But, quite honestly his weakeness are much more stronger than his strengths. He told how he keeps doing the same thing over and over.
As I understand it he told me that the women called him recently and tells him that she was diagnosed with climitia. She told to him that he should go get checked out. He went and I think he’s in the clear. Talk about dogging a bullet. But I told him, “what if it would have been AIDS or something else that could kill you or something you wouldn’t be able to get rid off?” Obviously, he didn’t have anything to say. I told him you have to stop committing fornication, if you keep it up your bound to run out of luck.
I started including him in my prayers, I really wish he can find the True Christ and his True teaching. I’ve told him that I’ve been learning and practicing the Catholic faith. It shocked him since in the religion we used to belong to, we held the Catholic Church in utter disdain. And probably before we joined the religion, we had hatred for the Church. But I began to tell him how I’ve been looking at the Catholic chuch with an open mind and with unbiased eyes. And many things I thought I knew about the church were wrong and that whatever it is I began to learn didn’t seem outrageuos or unreasonable.
He basically said that usually me and him are on the same page when it comes to these things, but that on this one he couldn’t say the same and that its something he has to look at closely. To which I said, well that’s what you should do, but do it with an open mind and with no prejudice. I pray the LORD opens the door of faith for him.
Nonetheless, because of this situation involving my friend I began to think on somethings. And what I wanted to know is if a person is in the midst of fonication, as is my friend (sleeping around), as Catholics we know he is in the midst of mortal sin. Would I be wrong in telling him that if he’s not going to repent of these sins, he should use a condom to try and prevent as best as possible from contracting a disease or even impregnating some women he has a one night stand with?
I didn’t tell him nothing of the kind, but it just made me think. I know the use of condoms within marriage is wrong, I know sex outside of marriage is wrong. But should we be telling people who are overcome by sin or have no desire to serve God, not to use condoms when we know that their having sex with multiple parnter?
I don’t know. Neither do I want to encourage illict conduct by telling someone, “well if your going to have sex outside of marriage, then at least use a condom.” I can just see people interpreting that to mean it’s ok to have sex outside of marriage, with multiple partners, etc.
But then again their already in the midst of mortal sin, so would it be sound advice to tell them, “well then you better use a condom.”? Is this instead just adding sin upon sin? Is it a case of two wrongs don’t make a right? Or is it possibly perseving someone’s life by not contracting something with the hopes that there’ll be a conversion down the road somewhere? And I realize that no protection is 100% full proof other than abstinence. So I fully understand that something can go wrong and a person can still contract something or get a women pregnant from a one night stand. But I’m very troubled by my friends situation.
So if anyone can provide some insight on this issue and also Catholic Church Teachings on the matter.
Thanks you all.
God Bless You All,
Nelson
Here’s the situation that’s come up this past weekened. A close friend of mine, which is like a brother to me, confided some disturbing things to me. Mind you my friend is not a Catholic, he used to be in the same religion I was in prior to starting on my journey of being a Catholic. After the church we were a part of practically fell apart, he became one of those members who just let himself go back into the world and has had no regard for God and doing righteousness. We don’t see one another as often as we used so I know that the majority of enfluences around him are of the negative nature.
He told me that he met a women the week before and that they went out a few days later. Aparently, this was all based on lust because they ended up sleeping together on that last date. My friend knows it wrong to be sleeping around, and I’ve explained to him the matter of having sex outside of marriage. But, quite honestly his weakeness are much more stronger than his strengths. He told how he keeps doing the same thing over and over.
As I understand it he told me that the women called him recently and tells him that she was diagnosed with climitia. She told to him that he should go get checked out. He went and I think he’s in the clear. Talk about dogging a bullet. But I told him, “what if it would have been AIDS or something else that could kill you or something you wouldn’t be able to get rid off?” Obviously, he didn’t have anything to say. I told him you have to stop committing fornication, if you keep it up your bound to run out of luck.
I started including him in my prayers, I really wish he can find the True Christ and his True teaching. I’ve told him that I’ve been learning and practicing the Catholic faith. It shocked him since in the religion we used to belong to, we held the Catholic Church in utter disdain. And probably before we joined the religion, we had hatred for the Church. But I began to tell him how I’ve been looking at the Catholic chuch with an open mind and with unbiased eyes. And many things I thought I knew about the church were wrong and that whatever it is I began to learn didn’t seem outrageuos or unreasonable.
He basically said that usually me and him are on the same page when it comes to these things, but that on this one he couldn’t say the same and that its something he has to look at closely. To which I said, well that’s what you should do, but do it with an open mind and with no prejudice. I pray the LORD opens the door of faith for him.
Nonetheless, because of this situation involving my friend I began to think on somethings. And what I wanted to know is if a person is in the midst of fonication, as is my friend (sleeping around), as Catholics we know he is in the midst of mortal sin. Would I be wrong in telling him that if he’s not going to repent of these sins, he should use a condom to try and prevent as best as possible from contracting a disease or even impregnating some women he has a one night stand with?
I didn’t tell him nothing of the kind, but it just made me think. I know the use of condoms within marriage is wrong, I know sex outside of marriage is wrong. But should we be telling people who are overcome by sin or have no desire to serve God, not to use condoms when we know that their having sex with multiple parnter?
I don’t know. Neither do I want to encourage illict conduct by telling someone, “well if your going to have sex outside of marriage, then at least use a condom.” I can just see people interpreting that to mean it’s ok to have sex outside of marriage, with multiple partners, etc.
But then again their already in the midst of mortal sin, so would it be sound advice to tell them, “well then you better use a condom.”? Is this instead just adding sin upon sin? Is it a case of two wrongs don’t make a right? Or is it possibly perseving someone’s life by not contracting something with the hopes that there’ll be a conversion down the road somewhere? And I realize that no protection is 100% full proof other than abstinence. So I fully understand that something can go wrong and a person can still contract something or get a women pregnant from a one night stand. But I’m very troubled by my friends situation.
So if anyone can provide some insight on this issue and also Catholic Church Teachings on the matter.
Thanks you all.
God Bless You All,
Nelson
