DaMaMaXiMuS:
Greetings and Peace unto you All,
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Nonetheless, because of this situation involving my friend I began to think on somethings. And what I wanted to know is if a person is in the midst of fonication, as is my friend (sleeping around), as Catholics we know he is in the midst of mortal sin. Would I be wrong in telling him that if he’s not going to repent of these sins, he should use a condom to try and prevent as best as possible from contracting a disease or even impregnating some women he has a one night stand with?
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Thanks you all.
God Bless You All,
Nelson
Dear Nelson,
Greetings and Pax Tecum,
I am short on time here, but wanted to add a bit here. I say no, definitely do not recommend a condom if you are hoping to lessen his sin, and yours.
I can’t find it right now, but I am pretty sure that it was Augustine said that fornication is less a sin than masturbation because at least a child (the natural outcome of natural sexual activity) is a possibility. Sex outside marriage, is fornication, add a condom, it becomes fornication/mutual masturbation. And de facto Onanism. SO, now, his one sin would turn into three. And you just might take one on yourself.
The Church has also taught, in the CCC I am almost positive, that doing an objectively sinful thing to mitigate a situation is never correct as the end does not justify the means. Like lying to ease someone’s feelings is not of, even though it might seem it.
It is a tough thing to come to in Catholic culture in this day and age that things like a child being born from these activities is not “awful”. For example, I will confess to all of you here, that my first-born son was conceived outside of wedlock. His mother and I never would have considered abortion, and were married, have been for 5 years, now have 3 children, and are very happy, Catholic, and obviously, not practicing contraception!! HAHA!.
Of course, it is better that he stops. NOW. But, I submit that adding sin on top of sin is not the answer.
Also, it is my experience that fear of the wrong is a much weaker deterrent than Love of the Right. If a Clymidia scare didn’t stop him, nothing will on that side. Only I think love for God, and Fear of Him, and devotion of Our Blessed Mother will bring him from this.
Let us Pray:
- IN the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Amen,
Dear Father, please watch over your son, and bring him to full contrition. Show him Lord, if it be within your Will, without penalty to him or others, the error of his ways, and the deep offense they cause you. Lord give him your grace that he so desperately needs to have a deep change of heart, and guide his knowledge to convict his passions to higher food, the strengthen his will toward the true desire of His heart: you Beloved Son, Jesus.
Holy Mary, queen of Heaven, purify your son. Lead him into the arms of your Beloved Son, and give him the graces of your Immaculate Purity. Teach him dear mother that the more he loved you, and your Son, the more he will hate sin. Pray for him we beg you.
Saint Philomina, please pray for Nelson’s friend, help him to seek out your example of purity, and God-centered love.
Saint Dominic, you who once said that you would rather die than commit a mortal sin, please Holy Father, pray for Nelson’s friend that he might find the same type of commitment.
Saint Peter, please pray for Nelson’s friend, shepherd him, and bring him into full communion with the Church built upon your Blessed Vocation, and a deep love for its guidance.
And also, dear Saints, pray for Nelson, and his continued devotion to Our Lord, and His church; and Lord, reward his devotion and fidelity, enliven his efforts with your grace, and may his works in your grace bear fruit in eternity with you.
Together we pray:
Hail Mary, full of grace.
Our Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
+In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit.
Amen
In Cordibus Iesu et Mariae,
Jon
