A "healthy" way to express anger?

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Hi brothers and sisters in Christ ?

I decide to follow God’s Will and with his help and to put in order my spiritual life , i confess , i assist mass and participate of the communion buy but I’ve been struggling with a incredible huge amount of anger , frustration and pain. So much anger that need to express and redirect those feeling in someway. So what I do is i took my guitar and i play it very hard (sometime my fingers hurt) , and i try to play and listen very “strong songs” trying to channel all of this feelings and find moments of peace.

But i don’t know if that is a bad thing ? I am sinning ? If that so what i should do ? Please note that i do pray , Divine Mercy at 3 o’clock , And pray before sleep and on the morning. But it seems to be enough.
 
I’m glad that you assist in Mass and you pray. That’s something! Remember, anger is not impious in itself. Sin resulting from anger is, though, just by nature of it being sinful. Jesus Himself, being a man who understands our emotions and plights (Hebrews 4:5) was also angry (examples: Matthew 21:12-13; Mark 3:5; Mark 11:15-18; John 2:13-22; John 2:17).

Anger is fine as long as it does not lead to sin. Ephesians 4:26 says, “Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger…” (read the context for better understanding of what St. Paul means).

If you think you pray enough, if this is chronic anger, you may want to see a therapist or talk to your spiritual director.

God bless!
 
So long as we live in this world, we cannot remain without trial and temptation: as Job says, “Man’s life on earth is a warfare.” We must therefore be on guard against temptations, and watchful in prayer, that the Devil find no means of deceiving us; for he never rests, but prowls around seeking whom he may devour. No one is so perfect and holy that he is never tempted, and we can never be secure from temptation.

Although temptations are so troublesome and grievous, yet they are often profitable to us, for by them we are humbled, cleansed, and instructed. All the Saints endured many trials and temptations, and profited by them; but those who could not resist temptations became reprobate, and fell away. There is no Order so holy, nor place so secluded, where there are no troubles and temptations.

No man can be entirely free from temptation so long as he lives; for the source of temptation lies within our own nature, since we are born with an inclination towards evil. When one temptation or trial draws to a close, another takes its place; and we shall always have something to fight, for man has lost the blessing of original happiness. Many try to escape temptations, only to encounter them more fiercely, for no one can win victory by flight alone; it is only by patience and true humility that we can grow stronger than all our foes.

The man who only avoids the outward occasions of evil, but fails to uproot it in himself, will gain little advantage. Indeed, temptations will return upon him the sooner, and he will find himself in a worse state than before. Little by little and by patient endurance you will overcome them by God’s help, better than by your own violence and importunity. Seek regular advice in temptation, and never deal harshly with those who are tempted, but give them such encouragement as you would value yourself.

The beginning of all evil temptation is an unstable mind and lack of trust in God. Just as a ship without a helm is driven to and fro by the waves, so a careless man, who abandons his proper course, is tempted in countless ways. Fire tempers steel, and temptation the just man. We often do not know what we can bear, but temptation reveals our true nature. We need especially to be on our guard at the very onset of temptation, for then the Enemy may be more easily overcome, if he is not allowed to enter the gates of the mind: he must be repulsed at the threshold, as soon as he knocks. Thus the poet Ovid writes, “Resist at the beginning; the remedy may come too late.” For first there comes into the mind an evil thought: next, a vivid picture: then delight, and urge to evil, and finally consent. In this way the Enemy gradually gains complete mastery, when he is not resisted at first. And the longer a slothful man delays resistance, the weaker he becomes, and the stronger his enemy grows against him.

Some people undergo their heaviest temptations at the beginning of their conversion; some towards the end of their course; others are greatly troubled all their lives; while there are some whose temptations are but light. This is in accordance with the wisdom and justice of God’s ordinance, who weighs the condition and merits of every man, and disposes all things for the salvation of those whom He chooses.

We must not despair, therefore, when we are tempted, but earnestly pray God to grant us his help in every need. For, as Saint Paul says, “With the temptation, God will provide a way to overcome it, that we may be able to bear it.” So, let us humble ourselves under the hand of God, in every trial and trouble, for He will save and raise up the humble in Spirit. In all these trials, our progress is tested; in them great merit may be secured, and our virtue become evident. It is no great matter if we are devout and fervent when we have no troubles; but if we show patience in adversity, we can make great progress in virtue. Some are spared severe temptations, but are overcome in the lesser ones of every day, in order that they may be humble, and learn not to trust in themselves, but to recognize their frailty.
-The Imitation of Christ, Book 1, Chapter 13
 
Hi brothers and sisters in Christ ?

I decide to follow God’s Will and with his help and to put in order my spiritual life , i confess , i assist mass and participate of the communion buy but I’ve been struggling with a incredible huge amount of anger , frustration and pain. So much anger that need to express and redirect those feeling in someway. So what I do is i took my guitar and i play it very hard (sometime my fingers hurt) , and i try to play and listen very “strong songs” trying to channel all of this feelings and find moments of peace.

But i don’t know if that is a bad thing ? I am sinning ? If that so what i should do ? Please note that i do pray , Divine Mercy at 3 o’clock , And pray before sleep and on the morning. But it seems to be enough.
My biggest recommendation aside from prayer, Confession, etc., is running!
 
May I add, try to forgive God, the people who hurt you or yourself. (whatever applies).
 
My biggest recommendation aside from prayer, Confession, etc., is running!
You know it is not a bad suggestion , maybe i’ll start to go to Gym , jokes aside this mortification could help me to repair my sins and give me as added value a slim body and and 6 packs. I doubt i could be angry to anyone after 1h of cardio

Blessing brother
 
Sometimes anger is caused by underlying emotions–the anger sort of “covers up” the real root of the problem. It might be fear, sadness, a feeling of injustice or a debt owed (this person did ______, but should have done ________), a reaction to feeling “attacked,” etc.

If that is the case, it generally helps to uncover what emotion/issue is hiding under the anger, and deal with that issue. Not to say that it won’t hurt (because often, it will), but it’s like opening a wound to drain the infection out so that it can properly heal. Some people need a counselor to help them discover what emotions are underlying the anger, and that’s okay, because our minds can be really good at hiding those things (even under layers) to protect us from that pain.

If playing those songs actually helps rid you of the anger, and doesn’t encourage it to continue, I don’t see that it’s a bad thing (as long as you’re not harming yourself). However, if the anger is not actually gone when you play the songs like that, but just “set aside” or temporarily satisfied, then it’s not going to help in the long run–and may make things worse. Anger, if not dealt with, can build up over time, making it harder and harder to keep from over-reacting or “blowing up” over unrelated or even petty issues.

Will pray for you. :gopray2:
 
Hi brothers and sisters in Christ ?

I decide to follow God’s Will and with his help and to put in order my spiritual life , i confess , i assist mass and participate of the communion buy but I’ve been struggling with a incredible huge amount of anger , frustration and pain. So much anger that need to express and redirect those feeling in someway. So what I do is i took my guitar and i play it very hard (sometime my fingers hurt) , and i try to play and listen very “strong songs” trying to channel all of this feelings and find moments of peace.

But i don’t know if that is a bad thing ? I am sinning ? If that so what i should do ? Please note that i do pray , Divine Mercy at 3 o’clock , And pray before sleep and on the morning. But it seems to be enough.
Read the book “Unbound” by Neal Lozano,

And “The Miracle Ship” by Brian O’ Hare,

Both also available as downloadable ebooks, after you download the kindle app onto your laptop or smartphone, and login and buy the ebooks on amazon.com

Both those books.include catholic prayers and steps to help open up to God’s healing and deliverance upon anything such as that in your life.

Ever hear the saying:
“The only way to keep your temper, is not to lose it.”

Practice being happy and peaceful and be positive and believe 100%, “I will do the best I can and leave the rest in the hands of God, who will look after this situation.and any people in that situation.”

Read Matthew Kelly’s book “Rediscover Catholicism”
He wrote, “Change your thought patterns, change your life.”
Your.thoughts result in actions often.
Practice forgiving, patient, understanding, joyful, loving thoughts. Anything difficult just hand it over to God in faith.
 
My biggest recommendation aside from prayer, Confession, etc., is running!
You neat me to it!Hard physical exercise is a great anger reliever. I used to mow the lawn with an old fashioned push me mower when I got angry.
 
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