A Little Concerned

[Christine_Lee]

I know I’m too young to be concerned about marital issues (I’m 20 and single). I’ve had only two boyfriends when I was 16 & 17 and I’ve been single since. I have always enjoyed dating. But when it comes to the idea of marital sex I freak out. I know that sex is a gift for a married couple. And I haven’t always been this way either. I noticed that my strange phobia came about after my mother’s boyfriend started living with us. He has a very promiscuous history and likes to talk about it a lot. And he loves to make dirty remarks about attractive girls. I can conclude that he’s the cause for my unusual fear, but I sometimes feel concerned about it. A part of me is happy to be extremely chaste, yet another part of me wants to recieve God’s gift in the future should I be privilaged to do so. I’ve been wanting to date again, and hopefully marry in the future. But the idea of consumating a marriage freaks me out.

 

[happymommy]

I know I’m too young to be concerned about marital issues (I’m 20 and single). I’ve had only two boyfriends when I was 16 & 17 and I’ve been single since. I have always enjoyed dating. But when it comes to the idea of marital sex I freak out. I know that sex is a gift for a married couple. And I haven’t always been this way either. I noticed that my strange phobia came about after my mother’s boyfriend started living with us. He has a very promiscuous history and likes to talk about it a lot. And he loves to make dirty remarks about attractive girls. I can conclude that he’s the cause for my unusual fear, but I sometimes feel concerned about it. A part of me is happy to be extremely chaste, yet another part of me wants to recieve God’s gift in the future should I be privilaged to do so. I’ve been wanting to date again, and hopefully marry in the future. But the idea of consumating a marriage freaks me out.

I’m sorry you have to be around someone who acts like that. I pray that you will find a wonderful man who will love and respect you and then you can enjoy everything that marriage has to offer!

 

[Ruthie]

I’m with happymommy.

I think if I were around a man like that as often as you must be, that sex would be the last thing on my mind! I certainly would find the thought of giving myself to him (within the bond of marriage, of course) to be degrading.

And that means you have high standards! That is wonderful.

I suspect that, if marriage is your vocation, when you find “Mr. Right” the problem will go away.

God bless you!

Ruthie

 

[Et_Cetera]

I’m with happymommy.

I think if I were around a man like that as often as you must be, that sex would be the last thing on my mind! I certainly would find the thought of giving myself to him (within the bond of marriage, of course) to be degrading.

And that means you have high standards! That is wonderful.

I suspect that, if marriage is your vocation, when you find “Mr. Right” the problem will go away.

God bless you!

Ruthie

Just remember that not everyone is like the creepster boyfriend. If you get your imagine to work about someone that you find attractive…

 

[Trishie]

I agree with Happymommy and with Ruthie.

I ask Jesus to help you find the kindest and most good young man to share your life with you…and things will resolve themselves for you. You sound lovely and I ask God to take good care of you.