A Nun in love?

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Sister-

Do you have permission to be spending this much time on the internet? Or to be seeking advice on very personal matters from lay people who have never met you and may or may not even completely understand your vows? It seems likely that this whole conversation on the internet might not coincide with the wishes of your superiors, and if you have presumed their permission perhaps you were mistaken in having done so.

In religious life your time does not belong to you. That is the nature of obedience.

You need to talk to your confessor. Period. I am not going to dialogue with you- it is really not my place. I just want to call you on to LIVE YOUR RELIGIOUS LIFE- if you are in fact a religious.

God bless you.
 
**Yes I expected participation of the willing surely. Just someone said something quite unsavory to which I replied that I am not pulling anyone into it.

I know I must take some steps, it is surely time for it, not wasting anymore time as I need to make up my mind before the final vows.

I have mentioned several times of his safety. Boy you call or man … no I am not taking him as a son. Oh and he is not representing the devil to me either. I know the one big issue are my duties, my vow, and my current situation. My reputation and responsibility ofcourse are variables too.

You think from a perspective which prevents you perhaps from the concept of what “shouldn’t occur or be”. It is a good concept to carry, but not application internationally all the time.

But then, I never denied that fact that it is time for steps. I will take them. I do not mind your distaste, but in honor is something we all must work hard for. I am here as all of you, sharing a piece of my mind which perhaps you would never have known had not this anonymous medium been present. I come clear hearted, this is the only way I come. The only word’s in whichever way they come, I would love when they come clear hearted.

Thank you.

Sr. Anna.**
 
**^^the above was for catharina.

As for the other poster. Yes I do have access to internet from my laptop (and I have alot of respect from everyone to be able to do things, and I have earned them). I take my time here, and have been in a lot of stress. These are important times for me. It is nice to read all the views and to see how it looks from other eyes.

It is not exactly advice, but yes I want to see how this looks from your eyes. I never consider anyone a lay people though, I never did. I like to learn and respect views. I have a good Fr. helping me with PM’s too. I am not a weak person, but tired and stressed, which is different.

Though soon I am to take a step, a deciding one. I know that the more I delay the more wrong it will be, and all the new comes, the people who know me and love me, everyone really will be more affected. Plus, I don’t want to live in deception. I want one life more than anywhere here you see wants.**
 
Sr_Anna said:
**#puzzleannie: So how is that copy book way of a person in religious vows to be speaking? There is no such particular way. May be if you were in front of me, it would be a particular way. I am here as nothing but a parcel of words. Words which you may read as they are, or just discard. It is upon your will. **
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professed religious are not generally on the loose to form and keep 3-year romantic attachments with men, nor are they especially in their formation years allowed this much internet access

furthermore they take spiritual dilemmas like this to their religious superiors, not to strangers on the internet.
Sr_Anna said:
**^^**Plus, I dont want to live in deception. I want one life more than anywhere here you see wants.
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you just decided this after 3 years of romantic day-dreaming
did your religious superiors get the good news?

My pastor, who is also my employer, has access to all my internet history, so I find it hard to believe you could carry this on without your superiors knowing about it.

I vote “troll”
 
**You imagine too much to my extent, even when I say it is only less than 10% which I ever express. Much less. By the way if you think it is so worthless and not something you can think of anything good or any insight. You may not write, simple? But no, you need to do something painful. Perhaps throw a stone or push a pin.

I have read all the responses. I think I can sum it up. The anger, the discontent, ofcourse the food and the shelter, my sad demise, the devil, even removing Sr. for one feeling that came in me, and so many more things. I understand your discontent, and it was something I could do alot to see. I made a good decision to post here.

Somehow this whole experience in this forum has helped me. Thank you.

I might not come here anymore, leaving you all in your positions peacefully. Tommorow surely, I will take a decision and I will do what ever I must to find one final path.

God bless you all.

Sr. Anna. **
 
Sr_Anna said:
**^^the above was for catharina.

As for the other poster. **Yes I do have access to internet from my laptop (and I have alot of respect from everyone to be able to do things, and I have earned them).****I take my time here, and have been in a lot of stress. These are important times for me. It is nice to read all the views and to see how it looks from other eyes.

It is not exactly advice, but yes I want to see how this looks from your eyes. I never consider anyone a lay people though, I never did. I like to learn and respect views. I have a good Fr. helping me with PM’s too. I am not a weak person, but tired and stressed, which is different.

Though soon I am to take a step, a deciding one. I know that the more I delay the more wrong it will be, and all the new comes, the people who know me and love me, everyone really will be more affected. Plus, I don’t want to live in deception. I want one life more than anywhere here you see wants.
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If you have a laptop you must be the wealthiest “nun” in Poland.
So, Poverty Chastity and Obedience - on the shelf -
while the Church feeds, clothes and houses you?

Preposterous.
 
**This is something I have chosen for myself, and no a laptop don’t make me the wealthiest Nun. It seems you know less of how Nun’s life is … and we can have our backgrounds. But well, you can think.

You ca write, I will read.

No I replied, somehow I just laughed too!

Thank you, God bless you,

Sr. Anna**
 
Sr_Anna said:
**You imagine too much to my extent, even when I say it is only less than 10% which I ever express. Much less. By the way if you think it is so worthless and not something you can think of anything good or any insight. You may not write, simple? But no, you need to do something painful. Perhaps throw a stone or push a pin.

I have read all the responses. I think I can sum it up. The anger, the discontent, ofcourse the food and the shelter, my sad demise, the devil, even removing Sr. for one feeling that came in me, and so many more things. I understand your discontent, and it was something I could do alot to see. I made a good decision to post here.

Somehow this whole experience in this forum has helped me. Thank you.

I might not come here anymore, leaving you all in your positions peacefully. Tommorow surely, I will take a decision and I will do what ever I must to find one final path.

God bless you all.

Sr. Anna. **
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You have fed and hidden this “feeling” for three years.
Yes - definitely ENOUGH.
 
In any condition, let peace be there for all. Let peace be there for me. I keep all my existence stalled till tommorow. In any condition this should be my last post. It was nice posting.

I always keep telling everyone who meet me, to be in composure, and never let anger consume you. I know it might sound odd as I can see the respect flying here … but I say the same here.

I might not come again (I will not), but I pray for all your wellness and Blessings.

Bye
 
Sr Anna,

Here is what I think after reading your post.

You have taken your vows, which means - it’s like you are married to Christ. If you were married to a man and then met another man and decided to get a divorce for that reason, wouldn’t that be adultery? It is the same with the religious life. The vows are permanent. I know this is probably very difficult to hear but it seems to me that these feelings you have for this guy are a temptation. If you recognize them as a temptation, you’ll be able to let them go more easily.

Secondly… since you have taken a vow of obedience, you don’'t have much of a choice regarding telling your superiors. You need to bring this up in Confession. If you feel like you shouldn’t, or couldn’t, etc, that is MOST DEFINITELY a temptation. In all the writings of the Saints…whenever they felt like concealing something from their confessor or superior… it was ALWAYS a very dangerous temptation. Why? Not only because it goes against your vows but also because it puts your soul in danger. You NEED someone to guide you through this. If you put yourself under the guidance of your superior or confessor, and accept their will as God’s own will (which is what you are bound to do, as a religious) - then you will see this situation as a temptation and you’ll be able to accept and do what they will tell you. You will also be able to grow spiritually from this trial - you will grow in humility and love for God, and your obedience will please Him… because you’ll be putting His will above your own.

This is what we are called to do… each one of us… to put God’s will above our own, even if it’s difficult, even if it’s the LAST thing we want to do. We need to learn to rejoice in doing God’s will just because it is His will, even if we don’t like what He is telling us. Just as Jesus said to the Father “Your will be done”, or how Mary said “Let it be done to me according to Thy Word”.

You need to tell this to your confessor and put yourself humbly under his guidance and do whatever you’ll be told. This is your duty as a religious it is also the safest and best thing to do spiritually. If you do otherwise, - try to deal with this on your own, or continue to encourage these feelings of attraction for this guy (which really sound like a dangerous temptation) - you could actually put your soul in peril. I’m not saying this to scare you, but this is what many people have experienced, including the Saints. It’s also based on things Jesus Himself told to some of the Saints.

Remember, it’s like you are married to Him. You have a relationship with Him that is different than a lay person does. Yes I do believe it will hurt Him if you leave to be with another. It is like adultery.

Please consider what I am saying here… I’m only saying this out of concern.

Think about this… do you want to do your own will, or surrender your will and everything you feel you want, in order to do His will. If you choose Jesus now, you will belong to Him in a greater way…because through your choice to remain a nun and give up seeing this man, you’ll be telling Christ - “You mean more to me than anything. I’m willing to give up anything to do what You want”. Would this not please Him? Remember what He has done for you. He died for you in torment on the Cross. He comes to you every day in Communion. He unites Himself with you. He forgives you your sins. Give yourself to Him totally and keep nothing back.

God bless you
 
Monica4316 said:
Sr Anna,

Here is what I think after reading your post.

You have taken your vows, which means - it’s like you are married to Christ. If you were married to a man and then met another man and decided to get a divorce for that reason, wouldn’t that be adultery? It is the same with the religious life. The vows are permanent. I know this is probably very difficult to hear but it seems to me that these feelings you have for this guy are a temptation. If you recognize them as a temptation, you’ll be able to let them go more easily.

Secondly… since you have taken a vow of obedience, you don’'t have much of a choice regarding telling your superiors. You need to bring this up in Confession. If you feel like you shouldn’t, or couldn’t, etc, that is MOST DEFINITELY a temptation. In all the writings of the Saints…whenever they felt like concealing something from their confessor or superior… it was ALWAYS a very dangerous temptation. Why? Not only because it goes against your vows but also because it puts your soul in danger. You NEED someone to guide you through this. If you put yourself under the guidance of your superior or confessor, and accept their will as God’s own will (which is what you are bound to do, as a religious) - then you will see this situation as a temptation and you’ll be able to accept and do what they will tell you. You will also be able to grow spiritually from this trial - you will grow in humility and love for God, and your obedience will please Him… because you’ll be putting His will above your own.

This is what we are called to do… each one of us… to put God’s will above our own, even if it’s difficult, even if it’s the LAST thing we want to do. We need to learn to rejoice in doing God’s will just because it is His will, even if we don’t like what He is telling us. Just as Jesus said to the Father “Your will be done”, or how Mary said “Let it be done to me according to Thy Word”.

You need to tell this to your confessor and put yourself humbly under his guidance and do whatever you’ll be told. This is your duty as a religious it is also the safest and best thing to do spiritually. If you do otherwise, - try to deal with this on your own, or continue to encourage these feelings of attraction for this guy (which really sound like a dangerous temptation) - you could actually put your soul in peril. I’m not saying this to scare you, but this is what many people have experienced, including the Saints. It’s also based on things Jesus Himself told to some of the Saints.

Remember, it’s like you are married to Him. You have a relationship with Him that is different than a lay person does. Yes I do believe it will hurt Him if you leave to be with another.

God bless you
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Actually she is under temporary vows.
She has not made final vows.

Yes. She MUST tell the truth to her confessor.
 
catharina said:
Actually she is under temporary vows.
She has not made final vows.

Yes. She MUST tell the truth to her confessor.
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I’m glad that she is under temporary vows. Sr Anna, I agree that you should tell your Confessor. It is the best course of action. He’ll be able to guide you through this.
 
Sr_Anna said:
**One thing which truely pain me when someone relate him to the Devil (a private message did just now). He is not evil or devil, and neither is he forcing me or asking me anything. **
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Sr Anna,

even if he’s a great person and not evil, remember that the devil often tempts us with what is good to get us away from what is BEST (Christ).

Have you spent time with Jesus, perhaps in Adoration, talking to Him about this? Have you ever mentioned this in Confession and sought guidance?

This is necessary to do for all of us, not only nuns, when we are going through any type of confusion… because it is honestly the safest way.

I’ve gone through so many times when I felt SURE about something - for example, that God doesn’t love me any more and doesn’t want to forgive me - and the only thing that saved me was talking to my priest in Confession. When we do this, we are also being open with God. When we hold something back from our confessor, we are holding it back from God.
 
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