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whatevergirl
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I am a bit down today.
I’m hopeful that I can hear some replies from some of you dads out there–particularly those who are above 45, and had children, maybe not planned with your wives, or perhaps, you wives wanted more children, and you were fearful of having more at that age. In speaking about opening ourselves up to life, my husband has flip flopped some of his thoughts on the matter…Running from …whatever God wills, to I don’t want anymore kids. We are not planning to enlarge our family. We have two kids 11 and 15, but we are turning back to using NFP, as a form of natural birth control, but if we get pregnant, then that would be God’s will, I feel that way. I think my husband feels that way, but he said last night, after the kids went to bed…*I can’t see us having more kids…I am nearly 50. I don’t know if it is selfish to be up in years when our kids are teenagers. *(I’m 39 tomorrow)
I work fulltime, and make a great living–I don’t know if he wonders if I’d quit, if a baby came into our family, how would we manage? He makes a good living, but it costs a lot to live in Florida…even a modest home in a safe neighborhood, can cost $200k. Ours is appraised at $300k, although there are foreclosures popping up everywhere…we may just end up landing one. Or we may be able to talk down the Owner of our home, to a more realistic price, since no homes are going in our area for $300k, because of the real estate crash. But, that’s neither here nor there, but my husband probably has all of this swirling around in his mind. He also is in the process of transition, having moved here but 6 months ago, he is in between jobs as they say.
The bottom line is…we are going to be open to life, and my husband agrees with the method. We are on the same page, with that part of it–but if we were to have a baby, he doesn’t seem as ‘happy go lucky’ about it as me. It would change our lives drastically, no doubt, but I told him, I’m not worrying about life, anymore. He said…why didn’t we have more kids when we were younger? I don’t know the answer to that. I don’t regret having two children…But, the possibity of getting pregnant is there, if we are following a natural method.
If you can help me understand a man’s perspective on this, I’d appreciate it. Feel free–men or women to reply, I am hopeful though of hearing from some 45+ men who had kids later in life, and who struggled with the idea of it at first. Insight into my husband flip flopping, would be helpful.
As Price Pritchett would say…‘Problems are the natural offspring of change.’
This is a big change for us.
I’m hopeful that I can hear some replies from some of you dads out there–particularly those who are above 45, and had children, maybe not planned with your wives, or perhaps, you wives wanted more children, and you were fearful of having more at that age. In speaking about opening ourselves up to life, my husband has flip flopped some of his thoughts on the matter…Running from …whatever God wills, to I don’t want anymore kids. We are not planning to enlarge our family. We have two kids 11 and 15, but we are turning back to using NFP, as a form of natural birth control, but if we get pregnant, then that would be God’s will, I feel that way. I think my husband feels that way, but he said last night, after the kids went to bed…*I can’t see us having more kids…I am nearly 50. I don’t know if it is selfish to be up in years when our kids are teenagers. *(I’m 39 tomorrow)
I work fulltime, and make a great living–I don’t know if he wonders if I’d quit, if a baby came into our family, how would we manage? He makes a good living, but it costs a lot to live in Florida…even a modest home in a safe neighborhood, can cost $200k. Ours is appraised at $300k, although there are foreclosures popping up everywhere…we may just end up landing one. Or we may be able to talk down the Owner of our home, to a more realistic price, since no homes are going in our area for $300k, because of the real estate crash. But, that’s neither here nor there, but my husband probably has all of this swirling around in his mind. He also is in the process of transition, having moved here but 6 months ago, he is in between jobs as they say.
The bottom line is…we are going to be open to life, and my husband agrees with the method. We are on the same page, with that part of it–but if we were to have a baby, he doesn’t seem as ‘happy go lucky’ about it as me. It would change our lives drastically, no doubt, but I told him, I’m not worrying about life, anymore. He said…why didn’t we have more kids when we were younger? I don’t know the answer to that. I don’t regret having two children…But, the possibity of getting pregnant is there, if we are following a natural method.
If you can help me understand a man’s perspective on this, I’d appreciate it. Feel free–men or women to reply, I am hopeful though of hearing from some 45+ men who had kids later in life, and who struggled with the idea of it at first. Insight into my husband flip flopping, would be helpful.
As Price Pritchett would say…‘Problems are the natural offspring of change.’
This is a big change for us.
I’ll pray for you both in your journey!
She says in her book…“When you stop caring about what happens, that is when your will is really aligned with God’s.” Now, she isn’t saying to just throw caution to the wind, and not think things through…but I relate it to if my husband and I were to have a baby now…she is meaning to not question it-just go with it.