A Priest talks about the effects of hearing Confessions on him

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FR. MIKE SCHMITZ : "I was once riding in a shuttle-bus with a number of older folks on the way from an airport. They noticed that I was a priest and started asking questions about it.

“Do you do all of the priest stuff?”
“Yep.”

“Even the Confession thing?”

“Yeah. All the time.”

One older lady gasped, “Well, I think that that would be the worst.
It would be so depressing; hearing all about people’s sins.”

I told them that it was the exact opposite. There is almost no greater place to be than with someone when they are coming back to God.

I said, “It would depressing if I had to watch someone leave God; I get to be with them when they come back to Him.” The Confessional is a place where people let God’s love win. The Confessional is the most joyful, humbling, and inspiring place in the world.

What do I see during Confession?

I think there are three things.
First, I see the costly mercy of God in action.
I get to regularly come face to face with the overwhelming, life-transforming power of God’s love.
I get to see God’s love up-close and it reminds me of how good God is.

Not many folks get to see the way in which God’s sacrifice on the Cross is constantly breaking into people’s lives and melting the hardest hearts.
Jesus consoles those who are grieving their sins . . . and strengthens those who find themselves wanting to give up on God or on life.

As a priest, I get to see this thing happen every day.
I see a saint in the making.

The second thing I see is a person who is still trying – a saint in the making.
I don’t care if this is the person’s third confession this week; if they are seeking the Sacrament of Reconciliation, it means that they are trying.
That’s all that I care about.
This thought is worth considering: going to Confession is a sign that you haven’t given up on Jesus.

This is one of the reasons why pride is so deadly.
I have talked with people who tell me that they don’t want to go to Confession to their priest because their priest really likes them and “thinks that they are a good kid.”

I have two things to say to this.
  1. He will not be disappointed! What your priest will see is a person who is trying! I dare you to find a saint who didn’t need God’s mercy! (Even Mary needed God’s mercy; she received the mercy of God in a dramatic and powerful way at her conception.
    Boom. Lawyered.)
  2. So what if the priest is disappointed? We try to be so impressive with so much of our lives.
    Confession is a place where we don’t get to be impressive.
    Confession is a place where the desire to impress goes to die.
    Think about it: all other sins have the potential to cause us to race to the confessional, but pride is the one that causes us to hide from the God who could heal us.
**Do I remember your sins? No!
**
So often, people will ask if I remember people’s sin from Confession.
As a priest, I rarely, if ever, remember sins from the confessional.
That might seem impossible, but the truth is, sins aren’t all that impressive.
They aren’t like memorable sunsets or meteor showers or super-intriguing movies… they are more like the garbage.

And if sins are like garbage, then the priest is like God’s garbage-man. If you ask a garbage-man about the grossest thing he’s ever had to haul to the dump, maaaaaaybe he could remember it. But the fact is, once you get used to taking out the trash, it ceases to be noteworthy, it ceases to stand out.

Honestly, once you realize that the Sacrament of Reconciliation is less about the sin and more about Christ’s death and resurrection having victory in a person’s life, the sins lose all of their luster, and Jesus’ victory takes center stage.

In Confession, we meet the life-transforming, costly love of God… freely given to us every time we ask for it. We meet Jesus who reminds us, “You are worth dying for… even in your sins, you are worth dying for.”

Whenever someone comes to Confession, I see a person who is deeply loved by God and who is telling God that they love Him back.
That’s it, and that’s all."

aleteia.org/2015/03/04/inside-the-confessional-what-is-it-like-for-a-priest/
 
What perfect timing! Yesterday was Reconciliation Monday and I went having said “Bless me Father, for I have sinned. It’s been 2 days since my last confession.” :eek: I was there once again and wondered what my pastor thought of me!

Thank you for a post so inspiring and reinforcing to NEVER GIVE UP! The Sacrament of Confession is there because God wants us to always rely on His mercy to pick us up time and time again.

Peace.

+JMJ+
 
Beautiful, thanks for posting this, some things I needed to hear right now
 
I hope all priests feel this way.

It always bothers me when I go to Confession because you don’t give a comprehensive report on your life. It’s just, “time to spit out all the bad stuff”. I often have the urge to tell the priest how wonderful the faith has been in transforming me, and how much more full of joy I am in spite of the introduction of various struggles, but I don’t know if it’s an appropriate setting.
 
You are all welcome. This is something I have thought about for a while but reluctant to ask my Priest. Especially the question on “how depressing to hear all the sins”. I suppose the effect would differ for each Priest but interesting to read one perspective. 🙂
 
Thanks for the post. I just went to confession last Sunday and I always thought about if my priest looks at me differently after hearing my sins. This article gives me peace and explains perfectly the Sacrament of Confession.
 
Good article. Our priest hears confession every day before each Mass and sometimes after Mass. We do not use the face to face method as we are fortunate enough to have the “old fashion” boxes with screen.

Pride is, indeed, one of the worst sins. Its the one I stumble over almost weekly. I’ve taken to reciting the Litany of Humility as often as I can to try to keep me focused.
 
I hope all priests feel this way.
God bless this priest, but no. Not all priests feel this way, at least, not entirely. There are priests who will scold you for not trying hard enough. They are rare, but they do exist. A minority will even withhold absolution.
It always bothers me when I go to Confession because you don’t give a comprehensive report on your life. It’s just, “time to spit out all the bad stuff”. I often have the urge to tell the priest how wonderful the faith has been in transforming me, and how much more full of joy I am in spite of the introduction of various struggles, but I don’t know if it’s an appropriate setting.
Do not tell anything else. Confession is not a time to share how wonderful your joys are. It is indeed “time to spit out the bad stuff” and by bad stuff, sins. Not your worries, not your job, not how happy your are in your faith. Say your sins, and say you’re sorry. Be absolved and be on your way. Especially if there is a line behind you. Think of the other sinners, some of whom may be in mortal sin, desperately seeking absolution.

A comprehensive report on your life is for spiritual direction or a general confession, which should be done carefully and only by appointment.
 
Some fine words! Thanks for sharing 🙂

“The priest is not a priest for himself, he is a priest for you.”
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