A question only for men over 18.. (embarrassing question)

[howareyou1]

Hi
Forgive me for asking this question… it is very embarrassing for me to ask this question.
I’m a single guy and unfortunately, sometimes i watch at pornography… i know that’s a terrible sin… My question is related to how should i confess this sin…
Normally i confess this sin with these words:

• I have committed impure acts with myself 1 time
• i watched an impure video on the internet…

However, i was wondering if pornography also violates the ninth commandment… Sometimes girlfriends or wives appear in such videos…

so when i confess such sin, should i also say that i violated the ninth commandment?

Thank you.

 

[Immacolata]

I’m not over 18 (four years from it), but I believe that by examining your conscience, you should have your answer. Did you covet the girlfriend or wife that appeared in the pornography you watched? If you did, I would imagine you did break the ninth commandment and should confess that as well.

Your terms in confession, however, also pique my curiosity. Are you being deliberately vague because of shame? I’d just like to specify, in case.

God bless, and may you confess as soon as possible and remain on the path of purity.

 

[KLJM12]

Hi
Forgive me for asking this question… it is very embarrassing for me to ask this question.
I’m a single guy and unfortunately, sometimes i watch at pornography… i know that’s a terrible sin… My question is related to how should i confess this sin…
Normally i confess this sin with these words:

• I have committed impure acts with myself 1 time
• i watched an impure video on the internet…

However, i was wondering if pornography also violates the ninth commandment… Sometimes girlfriends or wives appear in such videos…

so when i confess such sin, should i also say that i violated the ninth commandment?

Thank you.

Frater in Christo,

First off, I applaud you for having the courage to utilize the sacrament of penance when you fall into this type of mortal sin, as this sacrament has become “obsolete” in the minds of many Catholics throughout the Church today.

I would not recommend dwelling on this issue. It leads to scrupulosity, which paralyzes us with fear of committing mortal sins in the most innocent of activities throughout the day, as many other traditional Catholic men will tell you.

The fact that one violates the sixth and ninth commandments at the same time during this type of sin is implied and the priest understands that. If he wants more detail, then he will ask. If not, then he considers the confession adequate. The wording that you included is perfectly fine.

Pax Domini

 

[TechMan]

Frater in Christo,

First off, I applaud you for having the courage to utilize the sacrament of penance when you fall into this type of mortal sin, as this sacrament has become “obsolete” in the minds of many Catholics throughout the Church today.

I would not recommend dwelling on this issue. It leads to scrupulosity, which paralyzes us with fear of committing mortal sins in the most innocent of activities throughout the day, as many other traditional Catholic men will tell you.

The fact that one violates the sixth and ninth commandments at the same time during this type of sin is implied and the priest understands that. If he wants more detail, then he will ask. If not, then he considers the confession adequate. The wording that you included is perfectly fine.

Pax Domini

What KLJM12 said! Exactly. You confessed the sin exactly the right way.

The only caveat I would add is that if the particular actions you engaged in change the nature of the offense or added another offense of a different kind. For example, if you watched the porn with another person, thereby leading someone else into sin, that would be a significant piece of information for the priest to know.

However, even if there was such an added sin that you left out because you didn’t realize it should be confessed, then your confession was valid, and even the sin you left out is forgiven, too. And you are free to go to Holy Communion. You should simply try to remember to confess it in your next confession as something you didn’t realize you should have included in your previous confession.

 

[JimR-OCDS]

Hi
Forgive me for asking this question… it is very embarrassing for me to ask this question.
I’m a single guy and unfortunately, sometimes i watch at pornography… i know that’s a terrible sin… My question is related to how should i confess this sin…
Normally i confess this sin with these words:

• I have committed impure acts with myself 1 time
• i watched an impure video on the internet…

However, i was wondering if pornography also violates the ninth commandment… Sometimes girlfriends or wives appear in such videos…

so when i confess such sin, should i also say that i violated the ninth commandment?

Thank you.

Your confession stating as you do, is perfectly fine.

As far as the ninth commandment, you have no idea about who the people are in porn videos, and this would not be a sin against that commandment. Mortal sin requires full knowledge.

That all being said. Stay away from pornography.

The people who produce these videos are they type who exploit people, children included. They have no conscience about the people they hurt through their exploitation.

Clicking on their websites merely provides them with incentives to keep producing and enticing people to view and purchase their evil products.

Also, the people who act in these videos, are often in a situation where it’s not always what they’d do freely if given other choices. Even if they do act out of free will, they are committing sin to satisfy others lust.

Stay away.

Turn to the Blessed Mother, who is the person of purity who will help you over come the temptation.

Trust me, if you stay vigilant, it gets easier to avoid as you get older.

Jim