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Pete_1
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Is it wise for a Catholic to date a non Catholic, is it sinfull?
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Blade_and_Blood
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Nah, so long as this person truly loves you, trusts you, and blah blah blah. You get the idea. Just like skin color, it shouldn’t matter what religion someone is. 
Ironically Yours, Blade and Blood
Ironically Yours, Blade and Blood
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Gamera
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If by “date” you mean go out on a date to dinner and a movie, then no problem. But I wouldn’t get involved seriously with anyone (Catholic or not) with whom I couldn’t share my spiritual life.
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Mintaka
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My mom is Catholic. My dad is United Methodist. Their marriage has lasted, but sometimes it’s not terribly easy for them.
Back when they got married, they had to do a lot of special paperwork to get married, and to have a Nuptial Mass. My dad had to promise that he would raise us kids Catholic, no matter what. You can imagine how this thrilled his parents. My dad has been as faithful to his promise as to his wedding vows, but of course a lot of people go back on their promises. He also usually went to church at his church and our parish both, but most people don’t have that kind of pew stamina.
Religious differences come up in all sorts of places. My dad was asked to serve as our parish’s representative to the local Catholic Committee on Scouting. They ended up telling him it didn’t matter (kinda iffy when you think about it), and though he served with great integrity and as if he were Catholic, again you can imagine that stuff could have gone wrong.
I think sometimes that my dad would like to convert (especially when his denomination does something weird), but he doesn’t want to worry his mother. Also, I’ve heard rumors that she made him promise not to convert. Again, you can imagine that this sort of thing hurts my mother, as well as Dad and Grandma.
So I have to support dating between denominations, as it’s responsible for my existence. But marriage takes two very committed people.
Back when they got married, they had to do a lot of special paperwork to get married, and to have a Nuptial Mass. My dad had to promise that he would raise us kids Catholic, no matter what. You can imagine how this thrilled his parents. My dad has been as faithful to his promise as to his wedding vows, but of course a lot of people go back on their promises. He also usually went to church at his church and our parish both, but most people don’t have that kind of pew stamina.
Religious differences come up in all sorts of places. My dad was asked to serve as our parish’s representative to the local Catholic Committee on Scouting. They ended up telling him it didn’t matter (kinda iffy when you think about it), and though he served with great integrity and as if he were Catholic, again you can imagine that stuff could have gone wrong.
I think sometimes that my dad would like to convert (especially when his denomination does something weird), but he doesn’t want to worry his mother. Also, I’ve heard rumors that she made him promise not to convert. Again, you can imagine that this sort of thing hurts my mother, as well as Dad and Grandma.
So I have to support dating between denominations, as it’s responsible for my existence. But marriage takes two very committed people.
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CSJ
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I think Mintaka’s post shows many of the challenges posed by dating a person of a different religion. It may not seem like much of an issue early on in the relationship, but it will certainly become a key issue should the relationship become serious and if both of your are serious about your faith.
It is not a sin, but I would daresay that it is imprudent. Scripture would refer it to being “unequally yoked”…both will pay a price.
It is not a sin, but I would daresay that it is imprudent. Scripture would refer it to being “unequally yoked”…both will pay a price.
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Spots
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If I hadn’t, I would never have met my husband.
He did convert, however.
I think, in a relationship where there is one strong religious person, and one that is “generically christian,” there may not be as many issues, esp as compared to another religion entirely, or say, a strong Baptist vs. a strong Catholic.
It’s something, that should you decide that person is the one for you to marry, which may cause much heart ache, and many, many long conversations.
He did convert, however.
I think, in a relationship where there is one strong religious person, and one that is “generically christian,” there may not be as many issues, esp as compared to another religion entirely, or say, a strong Baptist vs. a strong Catholic.
It’s something, that should you decide that person is the one for you to marry, which may cause much heart ache, and many, many long conversations.
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CentralFLJames
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Not a sin but not a good idea. Why stack the odds against you when they are already so bad. Don’t marry anyone who can’t help you get to heaven.
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Debra_C
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It depends. I have seen marriages of mixed faith/denomination work very well, but many are fraught with problems.
It would be important, I would think, that the two of you share common values and respect each other’s beliefs. If not, you wouldn’t have much to work with no matter how many other interests you might have in common.
It would be important, I would think, that the two of you share common values and respect each other’s beliefs. If not, you wouldn’t have much to work with no matter how many other interests you might have in common.
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grandfather
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Marriages between people of different religions more often than not have a difficulties that others do not. Religion unites people, or separates them. The way we look at the most basic or fundamental issues of life comes from religion, or lack of it. When couples disagree on those basic issues, from within their marriages, there will be discord and that could become enough to destroy the marriage.
I know of many mixed marriages. All of them have to deal with some degree of stress over this issue. I know one family with five sisters. The first two married non-Catholics. The others see the tension and have resolved to not do the same.
If your religion is important to you then you will want it to be important to your children. Having both parents be devout creates an atmosphere in the home that makes children feel they belong to it. They more easily assume the Catholic identity of the family. When they see their parents disagree on something important they are confused.
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puzzleannie
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depends what you mean by dating, and nowdays the range of meanings is so wide I don’t want to presume. If dating means looking for someone for a casual hook up, it is wrong to date at all. If dating means socializing, object mutual enjoyment, no improper activities planned or anticipated, dating anyone is fine. If dating means a planned social means to evaluate members of the opposite sex for possible courtship leading to marriage, it is not wise for a Catholic to date non-Catholics, since marriage to a non-Catholic is fraught with problems. However, neither is sinful, and a Catholic may obtain a dispensation, with good reason, to marry a non-Catholic.
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