He sounds a bit fickle to me. Love, true and unconditional love for one person for life are the standards.
What if he thinks he can live with either one of them forever?
If he shouldn’t marry neither of them, then what should he do for now?
Sorry if this is too blunt, but if this is the case, then he is not ready for marriage. He sounds too immature for marriage. Fortunately this isn’t (or doesn’t have to be) a permanent state.
Back off and pray. He should give himself some time to grow up a bit. I’m not suggesting he is totally immature but in this area he has some growing up to do.
do the girls know about one another? If not, it’s very unfair of him to be seeing two women at the same time, and not being up front with those women. The worst way to enter into a marriage, is to enter into it not being completely truthful to who you’re marrying. If they do know about one another–this sounds like an episode of The Bachelor. I can’t imagine wanting to marry someone who was seeing another woman, at the same time he’s seeing me, PLUS, he’s in love with us both. This sounds like a recipe for disaster, and I agree with others–doesn’t sound like he’s ready for marriage.
If it were my situation, I would question myself whether I truly love any of them. I confirm that it is possible to love two persons at the same time in some way, but I’m not sure it’s what you can call love in the true sense.
In my case, it was decided on the reciprocation I was getting. By this I mean general interest and responsiveness. One of them wasn’t really dying to find time to meet me.I had a similar problem. But I got closer and closer to one of the girls, and now, she is my girlfriend. Prayer was a big helper
As long as it just seeing and talking, perhaps that’s right, but as I see it, having a romantic relationship (where you kiss, hug, own up to each other, write love letters and so on) with two people at the same time is already a problem of itself. I would never consent to such an arrangement. As far as there is no justified impression of a romantic relationship, I would not necessarily see telling as obligatory. The moment people need to know about one’s conflicting feelings is when people rely on one of one’s feelings. And this is precisely because people aren’t meant for polygamy.
he should not even consider marriage until he learns the difference between attraction, infatuation and real genuing life-long sacrificial love. when he does learn this the dilemma will disappear because he will know his vocation and be sure of the one to whom he wishes to give his whole self.