A sad situation with an in law

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has anyone have good links so that I can learn about how to relate to a domineering sister in law?This is new to me and confusing as my husband will discuss issues with her rather than share them,work them out with me.I love her but she has created a dependency on her that I don’t see as healthy ,and rather than just calmly talk about decisions becomes angry and cuts off communication with me.My own siblings and I never yell,swear or shut one another off so it’s kind of stunned me .
My husband threatened our marriage if she didn’t get her way on an issue , which stunned me and made me realise how controlling she is.
 
It sounds like your issue isn’t your SIL, but your relationship with your husband. Maybe you could speak to a priest or counselor?
 
Allegra said:
It sounds like your issue isn’t your SIL, but your relationship with your husband. Maybe you could speak to a priest or counselor?
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A man is suppose to leave and cleave. Why on earth would a man discuss marital issues with his sister instead of his wife :confused:

I suggest asking your husband to not discuss certain things with his sister. Which I realize may backfire and motivate him even more to tell all
 
Greenfields said:
Hi,
has anyone have good links so that I can learn about how to relate to a domineering sister in law?This is new to me and confusing as my husband will discuss issues with her rather than share them,work them out with me.I love her but she has created a dependency on her that I don’t see as healthy ,and rather than just calmly talk about decisions becomes angry and cuts off communication with me.My own siblings and I never yell,swear or shut one another off so it’s kind of stunned me .
My husband threatened our marriage if she didn’t get her way on an issue , which stunned me and made me realise how controlling she is.
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Something’s off here.

A sister that could threaten her brother’s marriage?

That’s a red flag.

I’d suggest counseling for the tools to deal with a domeneering personality. And tools that might help your marriage.
Your husbands relationship with the sis sounds off.
 
Maybe just go ahead and look up Retrouvaille.retrouvaille.org/

Keep this on file.

Marriage counseling with a therapist your parish priest recommends is a good start.

Something is not quite right when family of origin has too much to say over a spouse. I’m wondering did they grow up with addictions/abuse? (Something to think about.)

St. Rita is a good patron saint to have in your corner too right now.

*Holy Patroness of those in need,
Saint Rita,
so humble, pure and patient,
whose pleadings with thy Divine Spouse are irresistible,
obtain for me from thy Crucified Christ my request (mention it here).
Be kind to me, for the greater glory of God,
and I promise to honor thee and to sing thy praises forever.

Oh glorious St. Rita,
who did miraculously participate
in the sorrowful Passion of our Lord Jesus Christ,
obtain for me the grace to suffer with resignation the troubles of this life,
and protect me in all my needs.
Amen*

found the above prayer here: ourcatholicprayers.com/the-prayer-to-st-rita.html
 
Thank you so much for your replies.It is kind of hard not being able to disclose the whole situation because of privacy reasons and it’s probably good for me to stand back, let heads cool and look at it kind of clinically .Sister in law is having an extra hard time at present and can act impulsively ,maybe life feels out of control for her at present.I haven’t known her for that long but I do know I need to kindly stand my ground with her and let my husband have confidence in his own decisions .
Yes!Counciling would be great for me and my husband .
Thanks for prayers too. 🙂
 
You need to FIRMLY stand your ground with both of them. Counseling is a great idea; if he won’t go with you, then go by yourself. It will all work out. :flowers:
 
Allegra said:
It sounds like your issue isn’t your SIL, but your relationship with your husband. Maybe you could speak to a priest or counselor?
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This. Talk to someone - like your priest.

God Bless you.
 
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