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Hi,

I don’t know maybe this is a strange question, but I was just wondering what everybody thought 🙂

I really needed money for something in particular, and prayed to God and Our Lady for help, and that day a cheque arrived in the mail. 🙂 but later on, it turned out that I couldn’t use it for that intention because someone in my family did not allow me. (it wasn’t anything bad, they just disagreed and forbid me). I didn’t want to disobey because I thought this would break the Commandment of honouring your parents… so I used the money for something else, just to buy some Catholic books. Fortunately, I still found a way that do that first thing without disobeying my family. (this meant not using that money). I know this sounds really mysterious but it’s a really long story to explain, Lol 🙂

My question is… do you think I did the right thing in obeying? I hope I didn’t show ingratitude to God for answering my prayer… I just thought that He would not like it if I disobeyed. It was a tricky sort of decision to make.

Thank you 🙂
 
God created the 4th Comandment with the intention that we follow it. Why would He be displeased with you for doing it? Have you considered that maybe it was a test, since you found the money from another source after all?
 
Are you over the age of 18? Children are obligated to obey their parents; adults are not. For adults, honoring your parents means respecting them and caring for them in their old age. So the answer to your question would depend on how old you are and possibly also if you still live under your parents’ roof.
 
if you are a minor you always to the right thing in obeying your parents in all things that are not sinful. no brainer.
if you are an adult, why do your parents still control your personal finances? if you are dependent on them, then yes they do have some (name removed by moderator)ut but is it really “forbidding” you or were they giving you advice.
 
Assuming you were under 18 and were bound to obey your parents, I wonder why they told you not to spend the money for what you wanted to? Was it about the money, or about something they didn’t want you to have? If they didn’t want you to have it and you found the money a different way, then I don’t see that as obedience. If they had specific plans for that money and didn’t mind you having the thing you got, then you have obeyed. There are times when my kids ask for something I don’t want them to have. They’ll say, “can I have one of these,” and I’ll say, “I’d rather you didn’t get one.” They know we’re tight on money, so then they’ll say, “I’ll use my own money,” which is annoying because it wasn’t about the money.

Alan
 
lol okay I guess this is sort of complicated… maybe I should explain.

I am over 18 and I live at home, but in my family (maybe it’s cultural) there’s no such idea that obedience stops at 18. You’re supposed to obey until you leave home.

The money didn’t come from my parents, it was a cheque in the mail… what happened is I wanted to rent a mailbox for something (related to spiritual things), but didn’t have money, so I prayed for an answer and the cheque came that day. I talked to my dad about it and he was fine with it. But I wanted to talk to my mom as well… when I did, (I wanted to be honest), she forbid me from getting the mailbox cause she didn’t want me to give our address to the company. So then I talked to dad and he said I could use his mailbox, cause he has one somewhere in the US.

So - anyway… it’s kind of complicated… but I didn’t end up spending the money for what I had intended, but I did obey my mom. I was wondering if I did the right thing, or if I somehow showed ingratitude to God for the money. (because it was kind of interesting that I got the cheque… I don’t think it was supposed to come yet). If I had said no to mom though, things wouldn’t have been good and it would have only really stressed her out and wouldn’t have been charitable. (Not to mention that it’s not my house so I can’t just give the address out to anywhere without asking).
 
If you want to be free of your parents’ governance of you life you have to work on being financially independent so you can move out, find a job, continue your education and get on with your own life. If you are financially dependent on your parents, then yes they do have some say in how you spend your money.
 
Sounds OK to me. It seemed you met the intent of what she asked, and if your dad was OK with using his, then unless they disagreed on that I think you did the right thing.

Alan
 
puzzleannie said:
If you want to be free of your parents’ governance of you life you have to work on being financially independent so you can move out, find a job, continue your education and get on with your own life. If you are financially dependent on your parents, then yes they do have some say in how you spend your money.
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it wasn’t so much about the money as it was about the address… the money was a government cheque.

I am working on getting a job and maybe then I’ll get my own place.
 
Monica, you don’t have to worry, even Jesus told St Faustina that He was well pleased about her obedience to her Superior after He had asked her to do something and her Superior forbade her. Let your heart rest.

As for obedience to your parents, I agree, it’s best to obey as long as you’re under your parents’ roof, as long as they don’t lead you into sin. I don’t believe it has anything to do with being independent at this point.
 
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