I am very much confused. I never said anything about “limbo”, except that I acknowledged that we can disregard it. I have no idea what you wish to say here.
Your original post:
The premise of the theists is that God is good, God is just and God is merciful. Contrast that to the hypothtical possibility that the unbaptized “might” not be admitted to heaven, but condemned to the fires of hell (and no, there is no “third” possibility). How could this hypothesis be reconciled with the alleged attributes of God? It cannot be. It is illogical to the extreme to say that someone who never committed a sin, who is even unable to commit a sin, whose only “fault” is that they are in the “state” of “original sin” will be comdemned for what they are totally innocent of.
Limbo is a hypothesized place where otherwise innocent infants who only had original sin would be deprived of the vision of God, but spared of any other torments. Therefore, you are implicitely saying that you do not think that a just God would deny infants the beatific vision only because of original sin.
The fact of the matter is that the Church does not have revelation about the fate of such infants. While baptism by water is the normative way of removing original sin, there may be non-normative means which God employs to remove original sin from infants. Therefore, your objection to Catholicism is not valid- for we do not know that God damns those who die without normative baptism. Using reason, I conclude that such a course of action is irreconciable with a just God- as you corectly point out- and therefore I reject limbo on account of my own reason. I do not claim to have revelation on the matter, but I can still use my reason. There is nothing heretical about this- we don’t know from the standpoint of revelation whether God removes original sin from infants, but we can conclude that He does fso rom reason. As long as we clarify whether we are speaking from the perspective of reason or revelation, there is no conflict here- and I fail to see how you think this disproves Catholicism
If you say that CC teaches that the fate of the unbaptized is “undecided”, then I do not agree. Here is a short analysis. On one hand, God’s alleged “love”, “justice” and “mercy” cannot be reconciled with the idea that the unbaptized will be doomed to eternal suffering. (Especially in the today’s much more liberal environment.) That is simple logic.
When the CC says that the fate of unbaptized infants is “undecided,” this does not mean that God hasn’t made up His mind or that their verdict has not been passed- rather, it simply means that we do not know from the standpoint of revelation. God also gave us the faculty of reason, and reason tells me that God would not damn infants because of such a technicality. There is no conflict here.
The idea that the unbaptized get a “free pass” circumventing Jesus is would be disastrous to the Catholic Church, ostensibly founded by Jesus himself.
If there is salvation outside the Catholic Church, if it is not necessary to be baptized by the Church, then there is no need for the Church - as far as salvation is concerned. To admit that would be the equivalent for the Church of cutting its own throat. And that cannot be expected. So the Church digs its collective heels into the ground, and maintains that the fate of the unbaptized is a “mystery” (what an overused word!). Many people (especially on these boards) would never dream of contesting the authority of the Church - which is why I received all those quite vitriolic comments.

They don’t want to see a logical analysis contradicting the Church’s authority. Well, that is just too bad - for them, not for me. The ostrich-method cannot be maintained forver.
This is a frequent misunderstanding. It is true that there is only salvation through Jesus (God). Since there is only one being that has the attributes of God (there is a lot of philosophy summarized here), there simply can’t be salvation from by any other means- those means simply do not exist.
So, God is the only means to salvation, because He is the only one there. God founded a Church to be the normative means of proclaiming His will and bringing people to salvation. That’s why we engage in missionary work. God desires everyone to be in the Catholic Church because He instituted it specifically for bringing people to salvation. If a person knowingly regects this Church, understanding her role and mission, this is an outright rejection of God, which does not lead to salvation.
On the other hand, there are those who are not exposed to the Church and those who do not understand the Church. If this ignorance is invincible, such people may still be unknowing members of God’s people if they follow God to the best of their knowledge. Such people may be saved as unknowing members of the Church, even if they have never heard of Catholicism before in their life. This still isn’t the ideal situation- understanding the truth of Catholicism is better because truth is better than falsehood- but God will judge people in light of what they are fairly expected to know and do.
So, there is no salvation outside of the Church- but people are unknowing members of that Church due to ignorance. We still have an obligation to seek out the truth, which will ultimately lead us to Catholicism. This doesn’t mean that Catholicism is not necessary for salvation. Catholicism is the normative means of salvation that God employs, and He wants everyone to be Catholic to have the fullness of truth- but He will still judge people fairly in light of their invincible ignorance.
In the case of babies, they are still saved through the Church because the Church is part of reality- it is God’s action in the world, and babies do not exist in a vacuum outside the world.