Aaaargh! Missed Confession By A Whisker

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Hello everyone,
today I made a supreme effort to get to confession in my lunch break, in a church which only has 25 mins.allowed for it.
I was delayed in traffic,arrived with 15 mins. to spare, a few in line,mass to start at 1p.m.examined my conscience,one person in front of me,5 mins. to go!, out he comes,1 min. left, in I go,out goes the light,“am i too late Father?” “yes, time for Mass”.NOooooooooo!
I was so disappointed I forgot to genuflect on the way out!(must mention that in confession) ah well,back I went to work,anyone else had an experience like that?
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                                                God Bless.
                                                                  Mick.
 
Hello everyone,
today I made a supreme effort to get to confession in my lunch break, in a church which only has 25 mins.allowed for it.
I was delayed in traffic,arrived with 15 mins. to spare, a few in line,mass to start at 1p.m.examined my conscience,one person in front of me,5 mins. to go!, out he comes,1 min. left, in I go,out goes the light,“am i too late Father?” “yes, time for Mass”.NOooooooooo!
I was so disappointed I forgot to genuflect on the way out!(must mention that in confession) ah well,back I went to work,anyone else had an experience like that?

God Bless.
Mick.
Good effort!
 
Ohhhhh, yes. Confessions are held 10-15 minutes before noon Mass at our downtown Cathedral, too. There’s usually a line of 8-10 people. The last 2 or 3 folks never make it. Worse than being left out, I hate to be the last one confessed, especially if it takes a little longer than the previous ones!
 
Hello everyone,
light,“am i too late Father?” “yes, time for Mass”.NOooooooooo!
I was so disappointed I forgot to genuflect on the way out!(must mention that in confession)
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                                                God Bless.
                                                                  Mick.
Why must you mention that in confession? It was a mistake. You said yourself, you forgot.

Or do you mean you wanted to mention you were disappointed (which again, isn’t a sin).
 
Hello paperwight,
I just thought it was a bit disrespectful of me that’s all, I don’t like to offend anyone, especially our Lord,
thanks for your reply,
God Bless,
Mick.
 
Hello paperwight,
I just thought it was a bit disrespectful of me that’s all, I don’t like to offend anyone, especially our Lord,
thanks for your reply,
God Bless,
Mick.
It’s not disrespect if you simply forget, as you said you did - we all forget things when we’ve got something on our minds.

It’s only a sin if there’s a conscious element - if you either deliberately chose not to genuflect, or if you deliberately gave in to your anger and at least half-consciously chose not to think about anything else than being angry.

Next time make an appointment (if you can) to see the priest after your work or something - as far as I’m concerned the sooner it’s done once you decide you need to go the better.
 
YES! Father came out of the confessional, there was me and one other woman. It’s five minutes before mass starts.
Father said ‘Is yours quick?’
And I said ‘Is it ever?’
He nodded. ‘Right. Come early to mass tomorrow. We’ll take care of you then.’ and then he turned to the other woman and she seemed very perky ‘Mine’s quick!’
‘All right, come on in.’
I looked up at her ‘Lucky you’
‘It’s not luck sweetie. I’m just too old to get much sinning done’
😃

Ha!
 
Our priest sets aside 15 minutes before mass to do confessions. He does it that way because some people have to drive thirty miles to attend church. The problem is that he often gets waylaid before he can make it to the confessional. (He serves two parishes.) Consequently, he sometimes only spends 5 minutes listening to confessions. He tries to have confession after mass when that occurs, but people often have commitments after mass.😦

We need to pray for vocations to the priesthood. In America, the Me Generation has not produced much in the way of priests. The guys that did become priests are overworked and lonely. :signofcross:
 
Don’t feel bad Op, so did I. My arrythmia is going wild and it is getting harder to get around. Rats. But I can think about God’s Blood washing souls clean form here!

Peace,

Gail
 
If somone is used to going to confession frequently, there’s the danger that the power of the Penitential Rite at the start of Mass is overlooked.
We are absolved of our venial sins in that way - there is no need to take up the priest’s time in confession.
I am not talking about mortal sins, obviously.

A previous poster mentioned the Me generation. Could it not be argued that expecting an overworked preist to spend time listening to venial sins so that the penitent can ‘feel wonderful’ afterwards is an abuse due to the Me generation?
 
If somone is used to going to confession frequently, there’s the danger that the power of the Penitential Rite at the start of Mass is overlooked.
We are absolved of our venial sins in that way - there is no need to take up the priest’s time in confession.
I am not talking about mortal sins, obviously.

A previous poster mentioned the Me generation. Could it not be argued that expecting an overworked preist to spend time listening to venial sins so that the penitent can ‘feel wonderful’ afterwards is an abuse due to the Me generation?
Popes have been known to go to confession on a weekly basis. Obviously, there is some value to going, otherwise they would not. And I have a hard time believing that the vast majority of Popes were in mortal sin on a weekly basis. While you are right that the Penitential Rite does absolve venial sin, the church encourages the frequent reception of the Sacrament of Penance. Since the church doesn’t feel it’s a waste of time, neither should we.

I wonder if St. Padre Pio felt that people were taking up his time? Confession is one of the primary duties of a priest, and a Sacrament that we have a right to.

Accusing me or any other Catholic of going to confession so that we might “feel wonderful” after confession is simply uncharitable. Catholics go to confession to be closer to God by confessing their sins and ask him for forgiveness. If the church recommends a frequent reception of the Sacrament, it could be that we are just being obedient to the church and that we wish to stay as close to God as possible.

Let’s leave any discussion of possible abuse to the priest and/or spiritual director who knows the penitent.
 
I don’t understand why parishes don’t allow more time for confession.

The Church is trying to get more Catholics to actually become “practicing” Catholics. The sacraments are emphasized, and confession is perhaps the most promoted sacrament, lately. Priests are truly making a concerted effort to get people to go to confession, so they can get back to church and receive the Eucharist.

But I read and hear, all the time, how parishes only offer time for confession once a week, and the window is 30 minutes at the most, like it is at my church. I know one can call and schedule a confession, but it just seems to me that , with all the emphasis on confession and getting people back in the pews, parishes would expand their time alotted to hear confessions. Or, they should at least hear the confessions of everyone who made the effort to go, instead of closing the confessional with people still waiting to be heard.

I just don’t get it. 🤷
 
Confession is one of the primary duties of a priest, and a Sacrament that we have a right to. (end quote)

Indeed yes, but there are many things we have a right to do, but may feel it is more prudent or thoughtful of others not to. It is my right to leave my house lights burning 24/7, but I don’t.

(Quote) Accusing me or any other Catholic of going to confession so that we might “feel wonderful” after confession is simply uncharitable. (end quote).

You are not being ‘accused’ ’ of anything. Read my post again - ‘Could it not be argued’ is what I wrote. Carefully neutral and certainly not personal. Why take it personally?
I could point out, however, the many posts on other threads saying how wonderful, cleansed, made new and fresh people have felt after confession.

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Catholics go to confession to be closer to God by confessing their sins and ask him for forgiveness.

Of course. But what’s the Penitential Rite at the start of Mass for? We don’t need a priest to say the words of Absolution to us personally, in private, for it to be true. Do we need to be made to feel special, not one of the congregation as a whole? Isn’t a shared Absolution good enough for us?
 
Dear Paperwight - you state:"If somone is used to going to confession frequently, there’s the danger that the power of the Penitential Rite at the start of Mass is overlooked.
We are absolved of our venial sins in that way - there is no need to take up the priest’s time in confession.
I am not talking about mortal sins, obviously.

A previous poster mentioned the Me generation. Could it not be argued that expecting an overworked preist to spend time listening to venial sins so that the penitent can ‘feel wonderful’ afterwards is an abuse due to the Me generation?"

Isn’t this kinda minimalistic? I mean if a person didn’t want to go to Confession except when their sins became mortal and followed a pattern of using only the means available in the Mass itself as the way to purify themselves so as to be able to receive Communion, how long would it be before they fell into mortal sin and wouldn’t they be very vulnerable to doing so? Might their thinking tend towards justifying away there little sins and saying “Oh well, the Pentitential rite will take care of this and that.” And you also say poor Father is so overworked he just can’t possiblly listen to all the poor sinners Confess their venial sins and slams the Confessional doors shut until they’ve commited Mortal sin and then they can bother him again…:eek: …Where’s the love in that? Is that the way Jesus wants his flock tended? Oh and let’s not leave out the feeding of the gossips who hang out at Church to keep track of whose going to Confession and who isn’t. Wouldn’t they just love it if the *only sins *that made it to the Confessional were Mortal ones! 😦

Dear Paperwight, thanks for sharing.

How about this. Person goes to Confession and has been working on his faults and sins for a while. The grace of the Sacrament has been helping him along with his own efforts to grow in a sanctifying way. The Mass begins and he is brought to the Lamb of God through the Liturgy in a deeper way than merely being “sinless” for a few moments at the beginning of Mass. His Communion is as God wills not his sins and a minimalistic mindset that keeps him barely sinless not to mention the effect this has on those around him who have to put up with his merely venial, washed away by the pentitential rite, day in and day out…never improving one bit sins. Suppose the person he is constantly venially sinning against is his boss at work and the boss is on the verge of firing him because his business is being disrupted by the venial sin of being late to work so often others can’t do their jobs because they constantly have to make adjustments for the late guy who has minimalized away his personal responsiblity for his sins and thinks every one in his life has to just put up him…BAMM! Guess what? Boss stops his venial sins with a note that says you’re fired! Pack it up and hit the pike! Oh dear? Then what? He gets overwhlemingly despondent because now his whole family is threatened because he justified away his lateness to work every Sunday at the Penitential rite and never acted on any of the promptings of grace that nagged at him each time he showed up on Sunday, (late as usual too, after all it is only a venial sin) He goes to Father for help and Father has absolutely no idea on earth where the guy is coming from because the guy only bothers with Confession once or twice a year so when the guy tries to talk to Father, he gets blown off and told to see sister or something like that and he is so upset because he’s fired and his poor family will be homeless soon…but that’s okay, he and the family can hang on till the mortgage gets behind and then their sins *may become *mortal because they can’t afford their payments anymore, but the usual justifying process that kept them in a minimalistic mindset has now devastated a whole family and perhaps those whose businesses where dependant upon the payments the poor man’s job got them. OH NO! There’s more! The man gets really crazy after tying one on with his buddies at the VFW who are trying to comfort him while this is happening and he gets into his car after a few beers with the boys at the hall, (all venial sins BTW) and crash! right off the cliff into the kudzu. Will the insurance payment to the widow right all those venial sins? NOPE. But the Penitential rite is there to help steady her hands at the next Sundays’ Mass while she clings to her now orphaned children who have no idea how things are going to go from there and all are pretty grief stricken.

Gee, maybe if the poor guy had gone to Confession regularly and Father had heard for the let’s say tenth time the guy confessing being late for work father being moved by grace says something like,“you need to make an effort to get to work on time…” and the poor sinner hearing the Voice of the Sheperd in Father’s voice does exactly that and never losses his job, doesn’t get drunk with the boys and wind up doa after getting his wrecked Ford hauled out of the kudzu by the highway patrol who have to tell the widow and children where daddy’s body is at and could she please come and identify the body…

Nah. Forget about it. Don’t listen to me at all. I’m only a silly stupid nutbag of a widow with too much time on her hands today.

Peace,

Gail

P.S. Paperwight, do you perhaps envy those who are obviously given consolations as their willpower co-operates with the grace of the Sacrament of Confession?
 
If somone is used to going to confession frequently, there’s the danger that the power of the Penitential Rite at the start of Mass is overlooked.
We are absolved of our venial sins in that way - there is no need to take up the priest’s time in confession.
I am not talking about mortal sins, obviously.

A previous poster mentioned the Me generation. Could it not be argued that expecting an overworked preist to spend time listening to venial sins so that the penitent can ‘feel wonderful’ afterwards is an abuse due to the Me generation?
It’s not about ‘feeling wonderful’, I certainly don’t usually feel wonderful after Confession, although I feel that my sins have been forgiven.

It’s about receiving the special graces the sacrament offers (which the Penitential Rite, not being sacramental absolution, doesn’t), which strengthen us against future sin.

It’s about striving to ‘be perfect as your Heavenly Father is perfect’, which means we need all the help we can get!
 
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