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budgie2
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Hi,
My friend who is in a similar condition as you is also a paediatric nurse so she obviously wanted to take care of children and is a sad situation for her. I pray that you will find the right path for you. Organisations like Life and the priests will take things at your own pace fingers crossed so if you don’t feel ready for anything like a service then it will be when you feel ready. Other things I can think of is going into a Church and light a candle for the baby you lost. I did this with my friends and a candle is to remember a dead person. Or to wear an angel badge or angel pendant as I think all babies that are lost in the womb become angels and are in heaven. This is what me and my friend did and I also had a miscarriage so I know what it feels like to lose a baby.
My friend decided to write her thoughts down and this helped her and this is what Life advised. She also wanted to publish it but I don’t think she did. So you could keep a journal on your spiritual progress. Wear a crucifix or cross to remember that Jesus died for you and Jesus loves you and your baby and the rest of your family. My friend also decided to sponsor a child in the Third World. This took her time to get over the abortion and she spent about year having counselling once or twice a month. Some women decide to name their baby when they come to terms with the fact that it is a baby that they have lost. I find listening to religious music helpful, especially Taize when I’m feeling a bit spiritually down. My friend also bought some prayer books and read prayers aswell as self help books.
Anything that helps.
My friend who is in a similar condition as you is also a paediatric nurse so she obviously wanted to take care of children and is a sad situation for her. I pray that you will find the right path for you. Organisations like Life and the priests will take things at your own pace fingers crossed so if you don’t feel ready for anything like a service then it will be when you feel ready. Other things I can think of is going into a Church and light a candle for the baby you lost. I did this with my friends and a candle is to remember a dead person. Or to wear an angel badge or angel pendant as I think all babies that are lost in the womb become angels and are in heaven. This is what me and my friend did and I also had a miscarriage so I know what it feels like to lose a baby.
My friend decided to write her thoughts down and this helped her and this is what Life advised. She also wanted to publish it but I don’t think she did. So you could keep a journal on your spiritual progress. Wear a crucifix or cross to remember that Jesus died for you and Jesus loves you and your baby and the rest of your family. My friend also decided to sponsor a child in the Third World. This took her time to get over the abortion and she spent about year having counselling once or twice a month. Some women decide to name their baby when they come to terms with the fact that it is a baby that they have lost. I find listening to religious music helpful, especially Taize when I’m feeling a bit spiritually down. My friend also bought some prayer books and read prayers aswell as self help books.
Anything that helps.
I do not think that I am struggling as much as your poor friend was/is, but I had my ‘termination’ over 2 years ago now so the worst has passed, I still wonder to this day what my child would have looked like and what she’d be doing now. I kept a diary in the early days of how I felt/ how I was but stopped doing that nearly a year ago, it upsets me to re-read some of the entries that I wrote, she always had a name though, right from the very first entry. I shall light a candle for her. Thank you.
Please don’t cry!