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My mother thought this way as well, especially when she was trying to get pregnant with my oldest sister. To be honest I still believe that she thinks this way (at least for her personal life) about never really believing that she would know what to do with a son. Of course, by the time I came around, she already had her two girls and so the sex never really made a difference to her, since she had her girls to play with and identify with. And then she got another girl, which disappointed my father (not that he never loved or never wanted his daughters, just that he was hoping for a son at some point - he was an amazing father and still is) But the fact that my mother stopped having children after me, and my father still never got his desired dream to have another child or more specifically a son, tore on their relationship.
I also kinda think this way in my life, not to the point of abortion or not loving my male children, but for me, when I look in the future and think of those children I may have, I can never picture a son at young ages…I can only really image what they will be like when they come home from college, or tell me about their new job, or when they find a pretty girl they want to marry. I always view future sons as adults already, but future daughters I always picture during their childhood. This is mainly because I was never around young boys (kids in classrooms do not count) and only really had experience with them as already adults, but with females I had two older sisters and a host of female cousins (females outrun this family) Since my nephew was born however this is starting to change, although I now can only see a future son of mine up to the age of two. I think that this way of thinking ha to do with our experiences around male and female children and our interactions seeing them in real life. Since you have no experience really seeing boys growing up (I am assuming here correct if wrong) you may not be able to think that you can have an interest in their upbringing. Or it could be the opposite - such as my mother. She never had any experience with female children having 4 rough and roudy brothers in an era where females were not so encouraged to go out and play sports or get a career in anything really other than female jobs (teaching, nursing, receptionist etc) so she really wanted a girl. I don’t know.
With all the issues you’ve discussed here in this post, I think it’s a possibility you will change your own way of thinking about these life issues.All I know is that your experiences shape how we think constantly and you are liable to change your way of thinking
Best wishes to you.