Abortion question

[Ella]

I wondered if anyone had some stats as to how many unplanned pregnancies the average U.S. man fathers during his lifetime.

I get annoyed at men who accuse women who have an unplanned pregnancy of ‘not using birth control’. It seems they have a serious case of denial of the fact that birth control often fails, and that none but abstinence is %100 failsafe. It made me wonder if there was some residual guilt involved in these guys. It made me wonder how many unplanned pregnancies they participated in, only to blame their sexual partners.

 

[JohnDamian]

I would say that is almost certainly the case that the “unplanned pregnancy” resulted from sexual intercorse, which is most cases is mutually consentual. The “this” or “that” from the arguments about contraception and “responsibility” are irrelevant; the baby is conceived because of the intercourse.

I would find it hard to see that the (responsible) man could blame a woman for her pregnancy, I would find that very hard.

Nonetheless, unwanted children (born and unborn) and abortions are among the many “casualties” associated with people objectifying themselves and others for sexual gratification alone - a good reason for keeping sex to procreation, marraige and unity.

In most cases, it is the blind lust present in the consenting partners, coupled with a lack of consideration and willpower for their other that causes “problems” like this to occur. People become consumed by their own desires and irresspective of the victims and abuses, they proceed to gratify themselves - another sad testemant to the self-first ideology of our times.

We can only pray for them, their unborn children and offer them support and love as and when we can.

 

[tjm190]

I wondered if anyone had some stats as to how many unplanned pregnancies the average U.S. man fathers during his lifetime.

I get annoyed at men who accuse women who have an unplanned pregnancy of ‘not using birth control’. It seems they have a serious case of denial of the fact that birth control often fails, and that none but abstinence is %100 failsafe. It made me wonder if there was some residual guilt involved in these guys. It made me wonder how many unplanned pregnancies they participated in, only to blame their sexual partners.

Although this doesn’t take into account women sleeping with foreign men and men sleeping with foreign women- the CDC says that 16 out of every 10000 women will have an abortion every year. So if we assume that the average woman is sexually active/fertile for 25 years, we get 25*16=400 out of 1000=.4
I make about a dozen simplifying assumptions in that calculation but I don’t think that statistic exists.

 

[manualman]

I wondered if anyone had some stats as to how many unplanned pregnancies the average U.S. man fathers during his lifetime.

I get annoyed at men who accuse women who have an unplanned pregnancy of ‘not using birth control’. It seems they have a serious case of denial of the fact that birth control often fails, and that none but abstinence is %100 failsafe. It made me wonder if there was some residual guilt involved in these guys. It made me wonder how many unplanned pregnancies they participated in, only to blame their sexual partners.

There are seriously men who say that!?! I bet you could kill him for that and get no more than manslaughter in any court of law.

What ignorant oaf is unaware that pregnancy can’t result unless his sperm gets inside her somehow. And just how did that happen, hmmm?

But abortion truly is more of a convenience for unscrupulous men than unscrupulous women. For such men, it is a magic “get out of responsibility free” card. That’s why they attempt to blame the woman for the “failure” of contraception. It is a coercion towards abortion. It’s how she can “make it up to them.” Some men really are pigs. Learn the signs and avoid them. You can’t change 'em.

 

[vera_dicere]

I doubt you could get acceptable statistics even if you tried, because chances are a lot of men in these situations might deny that they caused a pregnancy.

I know a lot of women and girls who’ve gotten pregnant out of wedlock and over half the guys replied with “its not mine”. When it clearly was. You’d defintely get this senario playing out when the guy doing the impregnating was married to someone else.

Then of course you have situations where the guy might not even know about the pregnancy. I met a chap who found out from a cousin’s friend - who was the flat mate of a girl he’d slept with, that the girl got pregnant and had an abortion, all without telling him. Even when he confronted her about it she denied even being pregnant.

 

[portarica]

I would say that is almost certainly the case that the “unplanned pregnancy” resulted from sexual intercorse, which is most cases is mutually consentual. The “this” or “that” from the arguments about contraception and “responsibility” are irrelevant; the baby is conceived because of the intercourse.

I would find it hard to see that the (responsible) man could blame a woman for her pregnancy, I would find that very hard.

Nonetheless, unwanted children (born and unborn) and abortions are among the many “casualties” associated with people objectifying themselves and others for sexual gratification alone - a good reason for keeping sex to procreation, marraige and unity.

In most cases, it is the blind lust present in the consenting partners, coupled with a lack of consideration and willpower for their other that causes “problems” like this to occur. People become consumed by their own desires and irresspective of the victims and abuses, they proceed to gratify themselves - another sad testemant to the self-first ideology of our times.

We can only pray for them, their unborn children and offer them support and love as and when we can.

While most sexual encounters involve mutual consent. The numbers for date rape and other forms of coerced sexual abuse are way up there, especially among the young.

Peace