Abortion Story

[FlatAffect]

I work on a crisis pregnancy hotline and that is a very common attitude for women who have abortions. We are trained there that of the three options (abortion, adoption or keeping baby) woman view adoption as the worst alternative. It is worse than an abortion because in the woman’s mind abandonment is more evil than aborting. “I could never give my baby away!” They actually self-delude themselves. They believe it is selfless to never have the baby in the first place. Obviously, I don’t agree with any of this, but this conclusion was drawn from a psychological study of attitudes woman have towards abortion.

 

[MIZER]

. We are trained there that of the three options (abortion, adoption or keeping baby) woman view adoption as the worst alternative. It is worse than an abortion because in the woman’s mind abandonment is more evil than aborting. “I could never give my baby away!” They actually self-delude themselves. They believe it is selfless to never have the baby in the first place. Obviously, I don’t agree with any of this, but this conclusion was drawn from a psychological study of attitudes woman have towards abortion.

That’s amazing. What are you trained to say to women who have the mindset that adoption is the worst possible choice? It must be difficult on the phone when they could just hang up on you if you say the wrong thing.

 

[ArdenB]

This is why I loved the movie Juno so much. Women need to realize that adoption is a great option for everyone involved. There is so much misinformation about it based on 1950s stereotypes. Most girls don’t know that there are thousands of couples to choose from, and it’s not about dumping your child off on complete strangers you’ve never met.

 

[Verisimilitude]

I think it’s unwise to directly confront someone about their particular abortion. All you will do is make her defensive. Once that happens, they won’t be open to reason or even charity.

Participate in pro-life activities. The message will reach her eventually if she is open to it.

I don’t know if it is unwise particularly in the public situation described. If I just overheard it I might not, but if I was included in the group discussion purposely I most likely would have voiced an objection.

 

[NYQuestioning83]

Why are we Americans so shocked by this story about abortion? Human life on planet Earth seems awfully cheap. Probably 50,000 people today will die of hunger and thirst in the expanding deserts of the world’s poorest nations----sometimes I wonder if God really cares about those people. Or, if we really in America can care for them since American power rests not on our “spreading of freedom and democracy” to the rest of the world but on American intelligence, paramilitaries, and corporations going into other countries to overthrow democratic governments and enforce the expropriation of their resources into the hands of greedy American government officials and business interests.

 

[marymol]

if abortion , like all other sins , is an act of not trusting in God, as the ultimate source of our existence and whose will sustains everything of us , then the events in the sitution mentioned by O.P are easily seen…

There is the selfcenterdness to only see things in the human , worldly way which is mostly of the enemy …

And hence the cheapening of sex as only an avenue of pleasure and not sacred…

When God, in His Mecry choose to send His eternal soul to such a situation, it could help the parents to get out of the selfcenterdness and realise what true love and mercy is - seeing each person with the God given dignity and potential …

Seems, when such teens who made mistakes turn to His ways , somehow , there is the flow of grace …those parents seem to mature up …become more disciplined …

Where as , with wrong choices , it furthur undermine their basic identity as a child of God , in whom they can trust, even when it is tough and thus to be able to see His mercy at many levels …

So, it is no wonder that they would not trust a stranger to care for the child …

There is the element of presumption - that God does not care about our lives being holy - otherwise , there would not have been the premarital sex…

The lies of these self centered fears can be used , by sharing how such a choice would damage themselves at many levels ; there is plenty of info on this topic on the internet .

Problems in relationships, depression, eating disorders (and all related problems - diabetes, high blood pressure , joint problems ) ,addictions cancers , heart attacks…who knows if even such modern plagues like attention defict, autism and such are related to such massive psychic wounds …

Good thing more persons , esp. at the political level are recognisig these truths and turning away from their misguided earlier efforts to protect women !
May God abundanly bless efforts of such groups as the Priests for Life !

 

[Amolibri]

I’ve heard of this kind of attitude many times. It’s the “better to kill it then give it away” phillosophy. I’ve heard young girls actually say that aborting the child was taking responsibility for their actions. As if they never heard of adoption being the responsible thing to do.

This also comes of the attitude that children are our “possessions”. Nothing could be further from the truth. We are responsible for giving them life, the best life we can…and if that means giving them up, then that is our obligation.

 

[MIZER]

Posted by NYQestioning83:

Or, if we really in America can care for them since American power rests not on our “spreading of freedom and democracy” to the rest of the world but on American intelligence, paramilitaries, and corporations going into other countries to overthrow democratic governments and enforce the expropriation of their resources into the hands of greedy American government officials and business interests.

Hello? What are you talking about?

 

[Amolibri]

Posted by NYQestioning83:
Or, if we really in America can care for them since American power rests not on our “spreading of freedom and democracy” to the rest of the world but on American intelligence, paramilitaries, and corporations going into other countries to overthrow democratic governments and enforce the expropriation of their resources into the hands of greedy American government officials and business interests.

Hello? What are you talking about?

Not something we read much in the “mainstream media” now, is it?

 

[hasikelee]

I’ve found that expressing extreme and properly social sorrow has the most effect.

For example, a shocked look, wide eyes, “Oh! I’m so sorry to hear you lost your baby” and a big hug all done smoothly and quickly, much as one would expect if the person had said, “My mom passed away last night.”

Those who suffer from aborting their child live in a very different world. Following the social norms of “our world” jolts them back to reality, so to say.