I have had TWO tubal pregnancies. I would like to correct some severe misunderstandings in this forum. Number 1; in a tubal pregnancy, the baby WILL die no matter what is done. It has implanted in an incorrect spot where it cannot receive nourishment even if there was room to grow (which there isn’t. Think of a baby growing inside of a hair as opposed to inside of an expandable womb, and that’s what happens). And eventually, if the baby is left in the tube, the woman’s tube WILL rupture and she WILL hemorrage and bleed to death unless surgery is done, or methotrexate is given. It is NOT currently medically possible to transfer the baby to another site for it to grow. I know, because I begged my doctor to please try both times. Also, the HCG count rises very abnormally (not nearly as fast as it should), and then it steadily drops as the tube begins to rupture and the baby begins to die. And this before any intervention. Number 2: I was hemorraging and losing blood pressure fast whenever I had my first tubal pregnancy back in 1991. All of the surgeries scheduled for the rest of that morning were cancelled so that I could be rushed in from my doctor’s office. I was 20 at the time, and my doctor was concerned about saving my life; I was concerned about saving my baby. I remember begging the doctor to please not hurt my baby; but I also, without fully understanding what it meant, signed papers that any “emergency treatment” that I needed when I was opened for exploration would be given. So, in 1991, I had major abdominal surgery, and the entire tube containing my ectopic baby was removed.
In 2003, I again had a tubal pregnancy. I was sent to the emergency room by my obgyn because an ultrasound did not show a pregnancy where one should be, yet my count was rising. I insisted on waiting to be sure, then, after nearly 3 months, I again had severe pain and knew what it was and returned to the ER. Sonogram tests were run again and HCG had been extremely abnormal. It was definitely another tubal pregnancy. I was given methotrexate, which according to the doctor did not work, and a couple of months later, after daily blood tests and excruciating pain, I had a laparoscopic surgery, during which they found that my tube, which was supposed to be thinner than a hair on your head, was bigger around than a thumb. Let me tell you if you don’t know; the pain of an ectopic pregnancy is excruciating, and I dealt with it for months, not once, but twice. Again, I started bleeding badly, and the entire tube with my baby in it was removed.
Now, I am NOT saying that abortion is right. I am NOT saying that the CC is wrong. And knowing what I know now, I would have left methotrexate out of the equation. At the time it was given to me; I did not know what it was or how it actually worked- or in my case, did not work, since I needed surgery again in the end.
However, I think of my babies every single day of my life, and have even wondered in the past (but no longer) if I was being punished by getting tubal pregnancies to begin with; however, I have accepted that GOD willed that my two children would not live. If he had wanted them to be born, they would have been implanted in the right place, or he would have allowed for a miracle to happen before I started hemorraging and needed life saving intervention. His will is not comprehensible to me. I just pray for the grace to accept it. I still mourn for my lost children every single day-- but I want to make it clear that ectopic pregnancies absolutely DO pose a risk or threat of imminent death to a woman.I know, because I had to endure it not once, but twice. I think it is only for medical doctors to explain what is a life-threatening condition; and I believe that it is up to GOD alone to judge women who are in this position. As for me, I pray every day for baptism by desire for my babies. It would be helpful for women in my position to receive prayers, not condemnation, and not people spreading misinformation about what is or what is not a true medical danger of death. This loss is always with me. I neither chose nor wanted my children to die.