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Hi Celestielle,

Here are the lyrics to a beautiful song about this, if you’d like to listen to it, you can hear it here:

youtube.com/watch?v=Tqqj35r8aUc

Everything To Me by Mark Schultz

I must have felt your tears
When they took me from your arms
I’m sure I must have heard you say goodbye
Lonely and afraid, had you made a big mistake?
Could an ocean even hold the tears you cried?

But you had dreams for me
You wanted the best for me
And you made the only choice you could that night

You gave life to me
A brand new world to see
Like playing baseball in the yard with dad at night
Mom reading Goodnight Moon
And praying in my room
So if you worry if your choice was right
You gave me up but you gave everything to me

And if I saw you on the street
Would you know that it was me
And would your eyes be blue or green like mine?
Would we share a warm embrace
Would you know me in your heart
Or would you smile and let me walk on by?

Knowing you had dreams for me
You wanted the best for me
And I hope that you’d be proud of who I am

You gave life to me
A chance to find my dreams
And a chance to fall in love
You should have seen her shining face
On our wedding day
Oh is this the dream you had in mind?
When you gave me up
You gave everything to me

And when I see you there
Watching from heaven’s gates
Into your arms
I’m gonna run
And when you look in my eyes
You can see my whole life
See who I was
And who I’ve become

Here is Mark telling the story behind the song (he wrote this song for his birth mom who gave him up to be adopted by a loving family):

👍 youtube.com/watch?v=Z61zdZJ9uZc 👍
 
i wish you the best - I am off to bed - you may want to start making a to-do list and a schedule- maybe one thing a day - like calling the number tommorrow, one thing a day and it won’t seem so overwhelming. Good night.
 
ok well i guess as long as they arent allowed to to tell anybody i can try to find a dr in the phone book tomorrow to make an appt. it will be horrible :\ but i can just close my eyes and pretend to be somewhere else i guess. ive probably already waited to long to go to a dr already
 
celestielle said:
yeah i guess i will have to :\ they arent allowed to contact anybody about it right? like they cant call anybody and say “did you realize so and so came in today for a preg test”?
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:hug1: The doctor is really no big deal, don’t be scared. I am pregnant with my second child right now. While I am not in Canada prenatal care is not that different. First, there will be no needles this first time probably, they usually test pregnancies by urine sample. Eventually they will draw lots of blood to check for problems that could come up (It was discovered that I no longer carried the immunity to ruebella when I was pregnant with my first).

They might do a dating ultrasound, to see how far along you are, and yes they will do a pelvic exam. Since they will manually confirm your pregnancy by checking the uterus from the inside, and check for serious conditions, (like STDs, urinary tract infection, or other infections which would be harmful to you and your baby). Please don’t be nervous about the pelvic exam, even if you were not pregnant you should be getting these once a year once you become sexually active, they are there so you can remain healthy.

Please take advantage of all the resources people have given you here. When children are harmed it is never right, but it is not parents fault just for letting their child live. Killing is never the answer to prevent a potential suffering. We are humans and we will all suffer some in this life, but that is no reason to prevent some people from living at all.
 
ty jilly. i decided im just going to stop thinking about it and go do it and i wont think about what will happen. and then after it is done i can think about it all i want and it wont even matter because its already over with. hopefully there is not a long wait and i can get in right away
 
I’ll be praying for you. You are brave. Ask your angel and your baby’s angel to watch over you both as you go to the doctor.
 
celestielle said:
ok well i guess as long as they arent allowed to to tell anybody i can try to find a dr in the phone book tomorrow to make an appt. it will be horrible :\ but i can just close my eyes and pretend to be somewhere else i guess. ive probably already waited to long to go to a dr already
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Call the group Brother JR gave you - they can help you get set up with this - you don’t need to go through this alone.
 
bhall0689 said:
wags finger You all’s are postin’ in a TROLL thread . . .
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Or we are posting in the thread of a very scared young girl who is 12 or 13 for all you know. Better to be safe than sorry when lives are at stake - and please remember your sense of charity.
 
celestielle said:
wow, that is really rude…
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Please don’t worry about it - we are here for you especially those of us that are in different time zones, work late, or just plain can’t sleep. Personally, I think a person would have to be really sick to make something like this up - and if someone was that sick - then they would still need the help. Regardless I don’t think that is you and I don’t think many other people do either - I just think you are young and scared and asking for help - and asking for help is sometimes the hardest thing to do.
 
joandarc2008 said:
Call the group Brother JR gave you - they can help you get set up with this - you don’t need to go through this alone.
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yeah he gave me a few numbers to call… i am not sure if i need to though, and i dont know how i feel about involving a bunch of strangers my personal issues, i am sure you know what i mean. i already know what they will say anyway, they will say DONT DO IT lol.
 
celestielle said:
yeah he gave me a few numbers to call… i am not sure if i need to though, and i dont know how i feel about involving a bunch of strangers my personal issues, i am sure you know what i mean. i already know what they will say anyway, they will say DONT DO IT lol.
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Its not just that -
  1. They are religious men and/or women depending on which order when THEY say it is a secret it is a secret
  2. They have resources money wise, counseling wise, etc that other places don’t
  3. Even something like telling the father and getting him involved is something that Brother JR’s order is very involved in - they have classes, etc that help the fathers cope with the whole pregnancy to raising or pregnancy to adoption as well as the mothers
Chrildren don’t get brought into the world on an island - besides I know one of your fears about adoption was what happens if the parents are bad. In the US we have something called open adoption where the parents get updates and pictures as the child grows up. These are all things that can be worked out through an organization that is willing to work with you. Or if you make the decision to raise your child they can help you with that too as far as preparing you with what you are going to need to know, trying to find work, planning things out, etc.
 
joandarc2008 said:
Its not just that -
  1. They are religious men and/or women depending on which order when THEY say it is a secret it is a secret
  2. They have resources money wise, counseling wise, etc that other places don’t
  3. Even something like telling the father and getting him involved is something that Brother JR’s order is very involved in - they have classes, etc that help the fathers cope with the whole pregnancy to raising or pregnancy to adoption as well as the mothers
Chrildren don’t get brought into the world on an island - besides I know one of your fears about adoption was what happens if the parents are bad. In the US we have something called open adoption where the parents get updates and pictures as the child grows up. These are all things that can be worked out through an organization that is willing to work with you. Or if you make the decision to raise your child they can help you with that too as far as preparing you with what you are going to need to know, trying to find work, planning things out, etc.
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well i guess i just think i should talk to ppl in my life before going to them… i dont think i will get an abortion that was a stupid idea anyway. i was just feeling freaked out cuz of keeping everything secret and it just came into my head and i wanted to look into it. but now that ive talked to some nice people the freaked out feelings has gone and im not thinking about it anymore. ppl have said they have gone through this too, that makes everything feel a bit more normal and like it doesnt have to be a scary huge ordeal and im just over reacting.
 
celestielle said:
i dont know if i could give a baby up for adoption :\ that would be so much worse cuz you would be attached by that point. and also, ending the preg early before its even a real baby means nobody even has to know about it

whats in the video aggie? is it a gory bloody kind of video? D: i cant stomach those
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Hey Celestielle 🙂

As Catholics we are called to love, respect and cherish life. From the moment of conception, your baby is a human. It starts growing and forming itself. By the time the baby is only 21 days old - so thats 3 weeks old, most women don’t even know they are pregnant that early - it’s heart begins to beat. The baby is living and is a real baby even tho we may not be able to see it as a full human being.

My mum was given the opportunity to have an abortion when she was pregnant with me, for she was only 19 when she had me. She decided not to and now she looks at that point in her life as the greatest blessing. A lot of people were saying to her that her life would be over and she wouldn’t be able to do anything…she could have easily swayed and changed, but instead she said to them, yes my life as I now know it is over, but my life is only just beginning in a new direction. One of mums friends at work was in a very similar position, and she aborted her baby…her baby could now be an 18 year old like myself. Mum came into work one day and was telling her about how she heard my heartbeat, the woman broke down crying over the realisation of what she had done, and what she now lives without. I cannot imagine how painful it must be for her

Honestly, I thank mum every day for that choice she made! I also thank God for giving me life.

You are blessed to have your faith, take this time to pray and discern as it honestly is a massive thing to comprehend and understand.

I’ll be praying for you and I hope you make the best descision for yourself and your baby 🙂
God Bless!
❤️ live4life_
 
I quickly read through your posts on this forum, but I don’t have time to read it all.

I had an abortion when I was 23. To this day, I know how old my child would be, what he/she would most likely be doing, when he/she would have been born, etc. If I could turn back the clock, I would have had the baby and done my best to finish my university education. It was a mistake to kill my first child and I was very traumatized afterwards.

btw…I’m in Canada too. Abortions here are free, but they carry a huge debt of guilt and sadness afterwards for years.

During and after the abortion, I was numb. I didn’t allow myself to think about it. Regardless, it followed me everywhere I went for 13 years. I finally confessed it to a priest, but it still didnt’ take away the pain and guilt.

The two times I was pregnant, I cried during the first trimester A LOT b/c of the memory of killing my first child. I begged for forgiveness each time and prayed to my child saying I was sorry.

From someone who has had an abortion, it won’t go away. It will haunt you and will take years before you finally forgive yourself.

God has given you this baby. He wants either YOU to care for this baby or He has plans for another family to adopt this baby. Either way, God has brought life into this world and He wants this life to flourish.
 
celestielle said:
well i guess i just think i should talk to ppl in my life before going to them… i dont think i will get an abortion that was a stupid idea anyway. i was just feeling freaked out cuz of keeping everything secret and it just came into my head and i wanted to look into it. but now that ive talked to some nice people the freaked out feelings has gone and im not thinking about it anymore. ppl have said they have gone through this too, that makes everything feel a bit more normal and like it doesnt have to be a scary huge ordeal and im just over reacting.
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yeah it is REALLY scary to have an unplanned pregnancy. All of a sudden, your finances and ability to parent are on the forefront of your mind 24/7.

It’s very scary, but you’re not alone.

Pray to Bl. Mother Theresa. She saved many unborn babies. Pray for her intercession and ask Our Lady to watch over you during this time. In one of Mary’s apparitions, she was pregnant…I think it was Our Lady of Guadalupe (someone correct me if I’m wrong).
 
Hi celestielle,

You’ve got a lot of people praying for you, and even if you’re not religious, it does help 😉

Just wanted to say that although I am not in the same exact position as you, I recently found I am pregnant too. I can understand the scared feelings because I went through that too.

But trust me, the dr. appointments and all that are not bad at all.

You’ll get through it, and then there will come a day when you really love your baby and it will all be okay 🙂
 
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