About catholic-muslim marriages. please help?

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is it true that if a catholic woman intends to marry a muslim, her fiancee is not to required to sign any contract for the dispensation?

in the case of my sister, she and her fiancee are getting along amazingly. we are all cradle catholics in the family, but im still so amazed at how he treats her. her treats her with great respect and they love each other very much; im sure it is true love. my sister cannot imagine not being married to him. our parents are also supportive of him because he is a God-fearing man and can truly be trusted with their daughter.
however, they both do not want to get married like any other couple who did not get a dispensation from the church because her fiancee insists that she should not be disobeying any rules of her faith.

what are the details and requirements for getting a dispensation?
what if they decide to not have children so there is no conflict(btw, is it a sin to not want kids? because my sister has not wanted children eversince she was a teenager, same with her fiancee)?
let’s say my sister signs a contract promising that if ever she had children, she would do everything in her power to raise them as catholic, would she then gain recognition for her marriage?

also, my sister said she read that the contract says the couple can’t emigrate to the muslim’s native country. does this means she cannot, or does it mean she cannot be forced? what happens if she is forced?

finally, i was asked by a muslim, if a catholic is granted permission to marry a muslim, after promising she would remain catholic, what happens when she decides to convert? is she simply considered an infidel?

i hope our questions will be answered…
iv asked questions in this site before but they haven’t been answered… please help

may God bless you. 🙂
 
My SIL married a muslim man and lives in the Middle East now. I don’t know if she received a dispensation or not, but I can say for certainty that she has secretly had her children receive all the sacraments while on vacation to her home city. And her husband is what I would say a “cafeteria” muslim, but she still will not tell her husband what she had done (the oldest child is 23) and thus, not only has she lied to her husband, but has taught her children to do the same (and now they all have terrible relationships with their dad, who, from having met him, is a pretty nice guy and has never stated anything closely crude toward Catholicism).

Avoiding children without grave reasons is a “no-no” to our faith. And using contraceptions is a grave sin. I think that your sister should really evaluate and pray regarding this relationship.
 
thank you so much for replying 🙂

in understand how everyone is so negative on this whole issue 😛

but is it so impossible for them to succeed? imagine, even our parents approve of him because of what a wonderful person he is.
and this is not the type of relationship full of deceit and lies… he’s not against the religion at all…
we just want her to be happy and we know they deserve to be together.

also, i don’t understand the term “cafeteria muslim” 😛
care to explain?

btw, what are considered “grave” reasons?
 
but is it so impossible for them to succeed?
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Impossible no, unlikely yes.

Take off the rose colored glasses. I don’t see how this is gonna work in the long run.
 
jewel_77 said:
thank you so much for replying 🙂

in understand how everyone is so negative on this whole issue 😛

but is it so impossible for them to succeed? imagine, even our parents approve of him because of what a wonderful person he is.
and this is not the type of relationship full of deceit and lies… he’s not against the religion at all…
we just want her to be happy and we know they deserve to be together.

also, i don’t understand the term “cafeteria muslim” 😛
care to explain?

btw, what are considered “grave” reasons?
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“cafeteria muslim” I would say is what your sister’s fiancee is, he’s marrying outside his faith, and if they have children, allowed her to raise them Catholic, that too would be against his faith, hence, he’s picking and choosing what he will and will not follow according to the teachings of his faith.

As for “grave” reasons to avoid children, “because I don’t want them” is NOT a grave reason according to the Catholic faith.

Oh, and my Muslim BIL is tolerant of the Catholic faith, however, when it comes to their children, they too are obliged to raise them in the Muslim faith (thus a conflict of interest to even receive a dispensation since they too must promise to raise their children in what is ultimately an opposing faith).
 
Because of Muslim beliefs about the nature of relationships between men and women, men’s behavior toward women often seems courteous and genteel in the courtship stage. And that often dramatically changes once the marriage becomes official. Because, then, by most Muslim authorities, she is his property, and so are the children, and she has basically no rights. Especially as a Christian infidel.

I recommend you and she both read Not Without My Daughter by Betty Mahmoody. She is an American woman who married a seemingly wonderful, Americanized Muslim man, and found herself trapped in Iran owned by an abusive maniac. The U.S. State Department could not help her, and the religious and civil authorities in Iran would not help her. She and her daughter had to hire “underground railroad” types to get out, in the winter, over the mountains into Turkey. They nearly died. But Betty felt she had to make that choice, because she was certain her husband would eventually kill her, and possibly their daughter too.

If my daughter seriously wanted to marry a Muslim man, well, call me intolerant, but I would do everything, including facing the federal penalties for kidnapping, to stop her.
 
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