Absorbing Evil and Fr. Richard Rohr

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A little background about me and the Newman Center I attended: I left the Church after high school, spent 11 years as an agnostic. Being homeless and hungry, I chose to seek God in my despair, and I found myself re-entering the Church and being confirmed. I did this at a nearby Newman Center, which was alternately welcoming and hostile to me. At the time, it was run by the Dominican order, and while their preaching was not particularly outlandish, there were a lot of liturgical irregularities, including the wholesale change of masculine pronouns to “gender-inclusive language”.

Anyway, the Dominicans were in the habit of inviting speakers and other guests to use the facilities for events, and one time Richard Rohr came to town. I knew nothing about the man and was completely uninterested in his talk, but I had the misfortune to be present while he made it, and thus I was able to form my own conscience regarding his own words and beliefs. I quickly came to the conclusion that his philosophy was repellent to me as a faithful Catholic. He was talking about Jesus curing the sick and about ritual impurity and frankly it rubbed me the wrong way. As I listened, I was inspired to mock him with a Hitler salute from my chair, which thankfully nobody saw. I am quite convinced that this man is spiritually dangerous and should be avoided by anyone who wishes to form their faith in a way that is consonant with orthodox Catholic teachings.

There are plenty of other fish in the sea, why not throw this one back?
 
A little background about me and the Newman Center I attended: I left the Church after high school, spent 11 years as an agnostic. Being homeless and hungry, I chose to seek God in my despair, and I found myself re-entering the Church and being confirmed. I did this at a nearby Newman Center, which was alternately welcoming and hostile to me. At the time, it was run by the Dominican order, and while their preaching was not particularly outlandish, there were a lot of liturgical irregularities, including the wholesale change of masculine pronouns to “gender-inclusive language”.

Anyway, the Dominicans were in the habit of inviting speakers and other guests to use the facilities for events, and one time Richard Rohr came to town. I knew nothing about the man and was completely uninterested in his talk, but I had the misfortune to be present while he made it, and thus I was able to form my own conscience regarding his own words and beliefs. I quickly came to the conclusion that his philosophy was repellent to me as a faithful Catholic. He was talking about Jesus curing the sick and about ritual impurity and frankly it rubbed me the wrong way. As I listened, I was inspired to mock him with a Hitler salute from my chair, which thankfully nobody saw. I am quite convinced that this man is spiritually dangerous and should be avoided by anyone who wishes to form their faith in a way that is consonant with orthodox Catholic teachings.

There are plenty of other fish in the sea, why not throw this one back?
Ellizium,

Thank you for posting this. I have never read any of his books but he was a main speaker at a conference I attended. He walks very close to the edge. I remember him saying that God doesn’t care who you sleep with, God doesn’t care if you go to Mass, God doesn’t care if you follow the Catechism. :eek: And this was to a group of catechists! Our whole table just stared at each other.

Fortunately, when the Bishop gave his closing talk he “corrected” what Father Rohr had said (without naming him).

I do not doubt that he has some good things to say but I am not willing to wade through the muck to get to a few gems. 😦 As you said, there are so many good, faithful, Catholic writers out there - I’ll stick with them.
 
Somehow I thought you hadn’t listened to it. We wouldn’t want to disturb preconceived notions with something as irrelevant as first-hand evidence. 😉
You shouldnt have pushed me into listening to that audio clip: now i think even less of him. Heretic, all right! Our Lord didnt found an institution! All in words which sound so reasonable. To repeat: Satan knows how to “gift wrap” his snares.
First hand evidence, indeed!..convicted by his own words.
So you’re saying God does NOT make the final decision about where I end up? Woo Hoo! I’m FREE! Now I can do anything and still go to heaven! 😛
NO: youd end up with yourSELF :eek: for company, simply because thats what you`d want.
Clarification: He chooses not to force us. He made us this way and loves us the way we are.
But He expects us to improve.
Sorry. I honestly have no clue about Medjugorje, what happened there, or how it relates to Franciscans. I just never was interested in it. So if it is important to this discussion, please suggest a place where I can a good, brief overview.
Sorry, in return! 😊 i tend to take for granted that everyone knows about it.
Its an alleged Supernatural phenomenon which im almost totally convinced is demonic at its heart. Its best to steer totally clear of it. The bishop of the region is convinced its not Supernatural in origin.
I totally believe you on this. 👍
It`s like a paralysis! :confused:
Thank you again for taking the time and effort to banter with me. TTYL. :tiphat:
You`re welcome! 👍
 
First hand evidence, indeed!..convicted by his own words.
LOL. So that backfired, eh? Fair enough. Actually, I didn’t listen to it very much except for focusing in on the “makes me a heretic” part. It wasn’t very good quality recording, so I only picked up what I was actively trying to hear. I know that from time to time I am, well, puzzled by some of the things he says. Sometimes the guy who sent me the CDs in the first place can explain it; sometimes I realize later. So I have no comment on the audio clip other than the “no smoking gun” part. I hold that it was tongue-in-cheek. There are times when he says things that have more shock value than they need to, in order to make the point he eventually made.

Oh well, he has helped me, and believe it or not drawn me closer to the Church. A few months ago I had a really Bad Attitude about the church because of a number of things that were going on, which I’ll spare you from at the moment, and he actually gave me hope that these things were fixable. I’m not talking about going against the church on dogma such as birth control, homosexuality, etc. I’m only mildly interested in those things because I’m happily married and we’re past the age of childbirth (we have six wonderful kids ages 14-25). I’m talking more about structural problems and leadership issues and some of the strategies being used that I think could be handled in a better way – Father Rohr articulated a few of the things that I was concerned about. Maybe if I get up the muster, I can start a new thread to discuss them. As I go on, I become more confident that I can say what I have to say in a way that hopefully is not offensive, nor do I get defensive anymore hardly at all, about things that are personal to me. I may refuse to accept and argument and feel a bit of frustration when it seems the other person hasn’t heard me out before making up their mind. Oh well, as you know by now I like to ramble … next quote, please!
NO: youd end up with yourSELF :eek: for company, simply because thats what you`d want.
OMG. I’ve lived with this SELF for 52 years now; it’s been interesting, but I don’t know if I want it for eternity. :whistle:
But He expects us to improve.
Certainly. Stagnation is just so, well, stagnant.
Sorry, in return! 😊 i tend to take for granted that everyone knows about it.
Don’t be embarrassed. I’ve heard it referred to many times, and probably most posters on CAF have at least some idea what it’s about. I just never cared enough to look into it. For that matter, I’ve never been too interested in apparitions, personal message some people allegedly get from God or Mary or whatever, reflections in store windows that look like Mary. Approved or not, I’ve pretty much ignored those kinds of things.

Some people ignore contemplative prayer, I like it. Many like the Rosary, I really don’t seem to get much out of it. I’m more into the hard-core aspects of the touchy-feely stuff that I believe Jesus worked hard to help us get straightened out. Like being born in the spirit, what does that mean, how do I know if I am and if not, how do I get that way? Or in any given situation, how can I say something with love, when I have reason to believe it will trigger someone else to “raise the shields” or worse. In general, ever since my first encounter with an SD in July 2011, I’ve felt blessed for what that has brought me, but at the same time I feel angry that as a cradle Catholic that has been faithful to the precepts of the church through the years, except a couple years about the time I was at college, and went to eight years of Catholic school, and never heard of the “spiritual journey” or any St. John-of-the-Cross or the Cloud of the Unknowing or actually, mysticism in general. I think all Catholics should be made aware of these things, and it saddens me that people live and die without ever hearing about them. Of course, anybody who comes to these forums can hardly help but hear about them. Again I’m rambling. Lord help me.
It`s like a paralysis! :confused:
Yeah, yet another structural/leadership issue.

It’s been fun. Thank you for caring about my opinion enough to go listen to the clip. I’m sorry it turned out the way it did, but now at least I can retract the insinuations I made about evidence. Please consider them retracted. 🙂

Alan
 
How do you know that your outlook on Christianity and beyond is correct? By trusting Fr. Rohr, youre playing with fire. Every denial of the Churchs teachings on Faith and Morals is an embracing of heresy.
No matter how good it may make you feel, it`s dangerous stuff!

That quote doesn`t mean that everyone who clams to follow our Lord will end up in Heaven. The wolves in sheeps clothing who lead unwary people astray will have an alternative abode. And the people who thumb their noses at the Church and follow the wolves will be there with them.
This is the 21st not the 16th Century…fundamentalism is dangerous territory for all religions today!
 
In general, ever since my first encounter with an SD in July 2011, I’ve felt blessed for what that has brought me, but at the same time I feel angry that as a cradle Catholic that has been faithful to the precepts of the church through the years, except a couple years about the time I was at college, and went to eight years of Catholic school, and never heard of the “spiritual journey” or any St. John-of-the-Cross or the Cloud of the Unknowing or actually, mysticism in general.
Oops. Major correction here. I first saw an SD in July 2001, not 2011. That was honestly the beginning of my actual “spiritual journey” though I was a practicing Catholic for almost all of my 42 years at the time, I had never been taught anything beyond how we were to behave, what we were to think and say, and some words about the love of God but never any actual strategies to seek Divine Union – never even heard of Divine Union until Father Pecht told me about it.

Anyway I clearly have a problem with the way most people are never told (unless they are lucky or go seeking it and find help, among other places, on forums like these or find a good priest who actually has time to talk to them about it and give them suggestions) about how to find Divine Union. It’s right there in the Catechism but I know few Catholics in “real life” who have any knowledge of it or have ever had any advice on how to use it. So yeah, I have problems with the heirarchy of the Church and the way she goes about things but it isn’t that she doesn’t have a heart, or light, but that she hides it under the bushel of Good Behavior contests and worldly concerns over buildings and money. So yeah, anyway maybe this helps see where I’m coming from – I’m not ashamed of Catholic Church and I defend her against verbal attacks even when I might agree with the attacker – especially if the attacker is speaking from a position of ignorance or bias. But I’m a tithing member of her, I participate in the sacraments and do work in the parish, serve on leadership, etc. I think I have some right to my opinions and I don’t just say it’s sunshine and roses when it isn’t.

Oh well I’m getting off-topic a bit but actually I think it applies to some of the disconnects we have that are dividing the Church but don’t really need to.

Thanks again everyone for listening; got to go now and take my kids to school. BTW one goes to Kapaun-Mt. Carmel high school, originally name Father Emil Kapaun Memorial High School or something. Well I have to go so I’ll sign off.

Peace to all, and the more you disagree with me, the more I think Jesus challenges us to learn to get along with each other with love and respect.

Later.
Alan
 
This is the 21st not the 16th Century…fundamentalism is dangerous territory for all religions today!
If your definition of fundamentalism includes the Catholic Church, with her almost two thousand years of Holy Spirit-inspired wisdom and knowledge, led on earth by the successor of Saint Peter, i`m more than happy to be labelled a fundamentalist.

Funny you should mention the 16th Century: that`s the time when Luther, Calvin, Knox and other assorted heretics decided (decreed?) that they knew better than the ancient Church.

The word “liberal” is worrying. You cant pick and choose; and saying that does **NOT** make one a fundamentalist! The Churchs teachings on Faith and Morals are not subject to the zeitgeist!

Alan:
ill get back to you! Youve put a lot of material i`ll have to “sleep” on. 😃
This “inference” has to be answered first.
 
But what do you know about him directly? If you haven’t already, I challenge you to put aside whatever others have told you, listen to what he’s saying, and make up your own mind rather than listening to others.

I’m not telling you Rohr is a heretic or not; I’m asking you to make up your own mind based on solid evidence rather than others’ opinions. I’m telling you that if you don’t want someone to judge you solely on the basis of negative newspaper accounts, then neither should you judge Rohr by the words of other people when their are plenty of his own words you can listen to.

Alan
I think Rohr is a pompous jack***** who needs to be censured in order for him to stop his nonsense.

He makes light of the Holy Mass by making up his own words. I freaked out when he opened Mass with “In the name of God the Father Mother, Jesus our own, and the Spirit creator.” It was like he was making stuff up as he went along. Several of us knelt down for the Consecration and he chastised us and told us to “stand up with our brother Jesus because Jesus makes us equals and not slaves.” I chose to continue to kneel. He made up the words he used for the Eucharistic prayer. He then left the bread and wine (I’m reluctant to call them the Body and Blood of Jesus because I’m not sure they were actually licitly consecrated) on the altar for people to serve themselves. I couldn’t handle it and had to leave at that point. What a nut!

I know there are people who think he is the greatest thing ever. But I don’t think so. I think Jesus Christ is and anyone who would mangle the words of the Mass and show such outright disrespect for Jesus is in serious need of our prayers.
 
I think Rohr is a pompous jack***** who needs to be censured in order for him to stop his nonsense.
Thank you for reading and responding to my post. I respect your opinion because it is based on personal, first-hand experience. I only know him through his “Naked Now” CD’s, some YouTube videos of him, and his daily emails.
I couldn’t handle it and had to leave at that point. What a nut!
I don’t blame you. I would have stayed, but if I could have had a discussion with him afterwards, I’d certainly ask to explain why he took those liberties and what he thinks doing so will accomplish. I don’t know enough about Church teachings to say whether what he did meets the requirements of whatever it is that makes a valid Mass. It is clear that he knows he is hated by some Catholics.
I know there are people who think he is the greatest thing ever. But I don’t think so. I think Jesus Christ is and anyone who would mangle the words of the Mass and show such outright disrespect for Jesus is in serious need of our prayers.
As with any other human being, the pope included, I take what I hear and compare it with what I’ve heard from others, and especially how it compares to the teachings of Jesus and St. Paul, and most especially whether the Two Greatest Commandments are in place.

He says things that are confusing to me and sometimes I have to scratch my head. OTOH, like I said before, his work has done me a lot of good personally. Human beings are all a mixture of good and bad, so again I “pick and choose” to pay attention to what he says that is useful to me. That which isn’t, I don’t worry about but I do get curious sometimes what he means.

Peace and love,
Alan
 
If your definition of fundamentalism includes the Catholic Church, with her almost two thousand years of Holy Spirit-inspired wisdom and knowledge, led on earth by the successor of Saint Peter, i`m more than happy to be labelled a fundamentalist.

Funny you should mention the 16th Century: that`s the time when Luther, Calvin, Knox and other assorted heretics decided (decreed?) that they knew better than the ancient Church.

The word “liberal” is worrying. You cant pick and choose; and saying that does **NOT** make one a fundamentalist! The Churchs teachings on Faith and Morals are not subject to the zeitgeist!

YESYes my friend and then came the Counter-Reformation:D
Alan:
ill get back to you! Youve put a lot of material i`ll have to “sleep” on. 😃
This “inference” has to be answered first.
 
Yes my friend and then came the Counter-Reformation:D
Yep; and the Church cleaned up her act, gave us the Council of Trent, gave us the Catechism of the Council of Trent, standardised the Roman Rite of the Mass, affirmed the truth of her teachings… etc.

All good stuff! 👍
 
The greatest challenge teachers like Rohr face is the maturity and consciousness of their audience. During formative years so many people need the strict rituals and rules that church and religion provide for safety and security. The ego needs to be “right”.

From this early stage of life Rohr invites us to move beyond, into a mature, second half of life spirituality that is non-dualistic, open to Christ in all people and the possibility of Christ even in those we consider highly objectionable - yes even those that are not “Catholic”.

This is the hard road of following Jesus who pointed to the “bottom” as the leaders, not the top. It is by far much easier to stay in the sure footing of religion then to dare to take the bold steps of faith into the “cloud of un-knowing”…trusting completely in God to direct our path. Once you take that step, however, it is also not possible to go back…you will see with new eyes and hear with new ears.
 
The greatest challenge teachers like Rohr face is the maturity and consciousness of their audience. During formative years so many people need the strict rituals and rules that church and religion provide for safety and security. The ego needs to be “right”.

From this early stage of life Rohr invites us to move beyond, into a mature, second half of life spirituality that is non-dualistic, open to Christ in all people and the possibility of Christ even in those we consider highly objectionable - yes even those that are not “Catholic”.
You’re painting a false dichotomy between people who are mature and see Christ in others, and people who believe and follow the teachings of the Church. The two are not mutually exclusive.

The part you have right is that the Richard-Rohr-type-people are “mature” i.e. they are greying and come from a previous generation which contained a lot of people who didn’t have the moral integrity to admit that they had left the church behind.
 
You’re painting a false dichotomy between people who are mature and see Christ in others, and people who believe and follow the teachings of the Church. The two are not mutually exclusive.
1 Cor 13
1 If I speak in human and angelic tongues but do not have love, I am a resounding gong or a clashing cymbal.
2 And if I have the gift of prophecy and comprehend all mysteries and all knowledge; if I have all faith so as to move mountains but do not have love, I am nothing.
3 If I give away everything I own, and if I hand my body over so that I may boast but do not have love, I gain nothing.

8 Love never fails. If there are prophecies, they will be brought to nothing; if tongues, they will cease; if knowledge, it will be brought to nothing.

They may not be mutually exclusive, but neither are they the same thing. Unless you are qualified to judge others’ hearts, that is.

Alan
 
Yep; and the Church cleaned up her act, gave us the Council of Trent, gave us the Catechism of the Council of Trent, standardised the Roman Rite of the Mass, affirmed the truth of her teachings… etc.

All good stuff! 👍
Yes, I agree with you, perhaps its time for Vatican III but, not with the present pope!
I shall not live to see new developments as I shall shortly be 80!.. and I live in the UK where I understand the only growing religion is Islam - I think it is time to go?!
 
]Dear Alan,]
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      Please go to  the Catholic Culture website and do a Search on  "Rohr."  The following two paragraphs copied from Fr. Rohr's website  are taken  from an article  by Diogenes called "I am Richard. Hear me Rohr"  in  the  *Off the Record * section of the Catholic Culture website.
"If you want and need religion, I think the Papacy is rather excellent at providing just that. No one does it better, and it will continue to appeal to a large percentage of humanity, many young people, and then again at the end of life. Individuals need the container to get started; nations and cultures need religion to hold together. Institutional Christianity, and the Papacy in particular, will give you intellectual arguments, enchanting rituals, grand historical sweep, a fine belonging system, and a clear morality to give you pleasing ego boundaries. This will hold you together quite well. It works at deep and good levels. It can create the real beginnings of spiritual desire, as it did for me. But just remember, it can also give you just enough of God to quite effectively inoculate you from any need or search for the real thing. This is the normal pattern, in my experience. “I have no need for inner experience. I have outer assurances”. In fact, I find a rather clear correlation between one’s preoccupation with outer forms and one’s lack of any inner substance.

The question for me is how much of your life do you want to give to maintaining, supporting, and cheering the container, and when do you get on to finding your real life and “giving it away”? Any preoccupation with exalting or maintaining Peter does not seem to be the least part of Jesus’ teaching, but once you replace the contents with the container, Peter becomes your concern, your figurehead, your projection screen, even your vicarious salvation. Peter is fine, but he was never meant to be a substitute for Jesus or the Gospel."
They have a lot of articles about Fr. Rohr. Good readings I find.
 
Yes, I agree with you, perhaps its time for Vatican III*** but, not with the present pope!***
What sorts of reforms would you like to see emerge from Vatican !!!? And why would the present pope have to have left the scene?
Hes still hale and hearty! :D Thats the problem, isn`t it!
 
Dear BluesPicker,

Thank you for the quotes.
This is the normal pattern, in my experience. “I have no need for inner experience. I have outer assurances”. In fact, I find a rather clear correlation between one’s preoccupation with outer forms and one’s lack of any inner substance.
From what I’ve experienced, this could be the most pervasive and dangerous trap that comes across to me from many good Catholics. They say they know they are not worthy, etc. and that it is impossible for them to get into heaven by winning behavior contests and by amassing great deals of knowledge about Church teachings, reciting them, and as far as anybody can tell, outwardly conforming to them. But one who is sufficiently sensitive can see that they are divisive – not just between religions but among Catholics – and arrogant, condescending, etc. toward the same… but when these things are brought up to them they get defensive and/or offensive and demand the person telling them about it explain how well they themselves adhere to Church teachings, and when confronted with Bible passages, they either say I’ve got it wrong or more often ignore it and address other parts of my posts – but never offer what they think it actually means. Probably because what it clearly states is contrary to what they think.

I don’t see them as “bad” Catholics any more than myself, because IMO it’s 90% about how one was brought up and taught, and only occasionally do I encounter people who have been taught how to think, and not what to think. Questioning facts is part of my own beliefs – whether it be religious teachings, physics, math, social issues, or what have you. I ask questions about things that seem incomplete or don’t make sense, because before I say they are right or wrong I want to understand exactly what the other person is telling me. And if they appear wrong, I want to know why it appears to conflict with other authoritative documents. I can take others’ word when it comes to outward appearances. Like if I’m surrounded by police saying, “drop the weapon!” I’m going to immediately drop my butter knife, not say, “oh, you don’t understand. I was just about to make toast. This is no threat to you.” Same way I think when we are told if we do this particular act it will buy our way to heaven and that act will mess it up, that is not free will. Sin isn’t just an act; it is an attitude that may or may not result in an outwardly observable “disobedient” behavior. Father Rohr is very clear that while the outward acts are important, they don’t imply Real Transformation, and I have seen quite a few scriptures to back that up.
The question for me is how much of your life do you want to give to maintaining, supporting, and cheering the container, and when do you get on to finding your real life and “giving it away”? Any preoccupation with exalting or maintaining Peter does not seem to be the least part of Jesus’ teaching, but once you replace the contents with the container, Peter becomes your concern, your figurehead, your projection screen, even your vicarious salvation. Peter is fine, but he was never meant to be a substitute for Jesus or the Gospel."
This is a very difficult topic that even as of a few weeks ago I would not have tried to put into my own words for lack of courage and lack of how to put it in words that would come across as charitable to someone who has fallen prey to this trap. But recent debates on CAF have proven to me that under the exterior, even those I criticize have a good heart. I think it’s like a light. It’s there, but just might be hidden under a bushel. If I wish to follow Jesus, it is up to me to see that light through the bushel – without expecting them to remove the bushel first.

That said, I have mixed thoughts about it. Rohr has said a number of times that the Church needs both “factions,” if you will (my word not his). When I first heard him I thought he would like to see the whole structure brought down, but then I realized that he didn’t feel that way which was a relief because I had come to my own conclusions which is this: like it or not, the “exterior Church” has protected the wisdom of Jesus and carried it through 2000 years. Many gave their lives fighting, or others by refusing to fight, so that we may even have a Bible and other teachings to discuss on this forum today.

The Church would not have lasted this long given the reality of the world, if everyone was actually “like Jesus,” and refused to strike back at enemies who honestly believe they will get a good place in heaven with 72 virgins (as comedian Jeff Dunham asked his dummy Achmed the Dead Terrorist, did anyone say those were female virgins? 😛 ) based on how many Christians they kill, then we would have no Bible and would be completely, instead of partially, enslaved by the most powerful. So I have the utmost honor for those who maintain and fortify the exterior. I’m not a fighter, but my life and my freedoms are protected by those who are. What saddens me is that I believe it is possible to do both; have a strong crust and a good heart in the center, without going against Church teachings. As we discussed in another thread recently, the Church says we are expected to value our own lives above those of an unjust aggressor, and if we deal the aggressor a lethal blow in self-defense, even if we “accidentally” hit him harder than necessary, if the goal is self-defense or the defense of other whose lives are entrusted to our authority, then it is not against the commandment about killing.

If everybody were like me, our ancestors and religious predecessors would have been killed long ago.

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Now, OTOH, what frustrated me is some of these “outward” people come across as harsh, condescending, intolerant, unloving or whatever – but they just don’t see it. I was brought up to believe that when someone makes an observation that I have a problem, even if it is an enemy, that it is a gift I should treasure and carefully consider. Sometimes my enemies are right about me, sometimes not. They are like mirrors. Even though they may be smudgy, they might reveal an opportunity for improvement that I would never have noticed on my own. I think most of us are trained by teachers, parents, and other authorities especially while we are 10 years old and younger, that giving an honest answer can get you into trouble if it isn’t what the authority was expecting to hear. (I have stories about that, but I’ll save them for the moment) So they tend to learn what flies rather than what is right. They are trained to feel pain when corrected (bad grades, public ridicule, or other punishment) rather than feeling lucky for the opportunity.

If I have egg on my face or “arrogant” written across my forehead, I consider it an act of a friend (even if it is an act performed by an enemy – does that make sense?) to tell me about it, so that I may look into and fix it and/or seek advice and guidance.

Once I was found to be passive-aggressive by a test done by a psychologist. I’d heard the term and had some idea what it meant, but not really. He asked me, “how do you react when others treat you poorly?” I answered, “unless they have some leverage over me, I will refrain from doing them any favors, because I don’t want to reward or enforce that type of behavior.” He told me, “that would work if others were as sensitive as you, but most aren’t. They will think you are the one who is the jerk, and treat you even worse.” He was so right, that I made appointments to go to him for eight weeks of “assertiveness training.”

BTW, know that assertiveness is NOT a code word for aggressiveness. It is an appropriate and productive way to respond to others’ actions – whether you find them acceptable or unacceptable to you – under the assumption that “I’m OK, you’re OK.” It gives you a way to address the act, without being negative or manipulative toward the actor.

Enough for now. Thanks again for the quotes. I hope that those who are in agreement with me as well as those against me may now have a slightly better understanding of where I come from on a lot of this, so we may have improved relationships.

Sorry for the length of this, but I didn’t know how to write it more succinctly. My late brother, (who suddenly died a few weeks ago at age 55 :crying: ) used to ignore things that I wrote when they were this lengthy, or he’d read them and summarize them in about one or two sentences. That is a skill I’ve worked on, but as you can see have not yet mastered. 😛 My late great father used to say, “you talk to hear your head rattle.” :rolleyes:

Lord, thank You for this forum and this opportunity to share my thoughts with all of these wonderful people. I pray that we may be sensitive and loving toward one another, so we can work together to strengthen your Church and come closer to you, while also coming closer to the ideals Jesus taught us to strive for. I thank you for my friends, who have made life a joy, and for both my friends and enemies, who have challenged me to become better. I seek the guidance of Your Spirit in all that I say, think, and do. Amen.

Peace and love,
Alan
 
I cannot pray Our, if my faith has no room for others and their needs.
I cannot pray Father, if I do not demonstrate this relationship to God in my daily living.
I cannot pray who art in heaven, if all of my interests and pursuits are in earthly things.
I cannot pray hallowed be thy name, if I am not striving, with God’s help, to be holy.
I cannot pray thy kingdom come, if I am unwilling to accept God’s rule in my life.
I cannot pray thy will be done, if I am unwilling or resentful of having it in my life.
I cannot pray on earth as it is in Heaven, unless I am truly ready to give myself to God’s service here and now.
I cannot pray give us this day our daily bread, without expending honest effort for it, or if I would withhold from my neighbor the bread that I receive.
I cannot pray forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us, if I continue to harbor a grudge against anyone.
I cannot pray lead us not into temptation, if I deliberately choose to remain in a situation where I am likely to be tempted.
I cannot pray deliver from evil, if I am not prepared to fight evil with my life and my prayer.
I cannot pray thine is the kingdom, if I am unwilling to obey the King.
I cannot pray thine is the power and the glory, if I am seeking power for myself and my own glory first.
I cannot pray forever and ever, if I am too anxious about each day’s affairs.
I cannot pray Amen, unless I honestly say, “Cost what it may, this is my prayer.” Anonymous
 
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