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No, being affectionate with your children is not sexual. Hugging your grandma is not sexual.the catechism says “sexuality affects all aspects of the person in the unity of his body and soul” when i hug my grandma my sexuality is involved. it’s a bodily expression of my inner feelings.What?
To answer your question, abstaining from sex does not have to mean no kissing, cuddling, or sleeping with your spouse unless one or the other of you really cannot handlie it. In fact I would be really bothered if my husband had such a lack of control that he couldn’t even be near me like that.
She is kind of right. Everything we do in relation to the opposite SEX is sexual–even in reference to our kids or parents. But that doesn’t make it unhealthy or immoral or yucky. Our sexuality is rooted in our maleness and femaleness–not just who we want to have intercourse with. For example, daughters really need a lot of physical affection from their fathers, but not so much from their mothers. That is good, holy, ordered affection. When they don’t get that, they can often turn to guys for disordered, unholy, and evil affection. See how it is all related? It is rooted, as I said, in her femaleness, in her sexuality.What?
To answer your question, abstaining from sex does not have to mean no kissing, cuddling, or sleeping with your spouse unless one or the other of you really cannot handle it. In fact I would be really bothered if my husband had such a lack of control that he couldn’t even be near me like that.
Which is why, by the way, the Church rejects transgendered ideology. You cannot be a girl and yet have male anatomy. That is, literally, a dis-integration of his sexuality.
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To answer your question, abstaining from sex does not have to mean no kissing, cuddling, or sleeping with your spouse unless one or the other of you really cannot handle it. In fact I would be really bothered if my husband had such a lack of control that he couldn’t even be near me like that.
thank you for sharing, helpful information.
I am not sure that this is what the OP means by “sexuality”. She says that when she (a female) hugs her grandma, that is somehow an “expression” of sexuality. I understand that someone’s sexual identity is not simply understood in relation to who we are attracted to, but the OP seems a little misguided about sexuality and how one can be affectionate without it being “sexual”.
bingo my behind. i’m part italian and hispanic, my sexuality is in everything i do. you guys dont get what i’m saying maybe youre robots…
i understand that you can touch your husband without intending to have sex. this sexuality tangent started bc one poster very pretentiously said sexuality and affection are not related. i am saying they are. my sexuality my femaleness comes across in everything i do with my body. affection is bodily expression of my strong emotions even when i touch a stranger on the arm, i am expressing my feelings to them via my sexuality.
Oh honey, I’m a mutt and I understand the difference between affection and sexual. When my little four year old cousin crawls into my lap and kisses me, that is affection. It doesn’t get my juices flowing and it shouldn’t. If hubby comes home and grabs me by the waist, pulls me in, and gives me a passionate kiss; it is ON. That was totally sexual.
i think it’s like poster kelfa said, abstaining is hard. i know how to be chaste when i’m alone, i know how being chaste feels and when im touching someone chastely. it just seems hard, as she said, to keep it that way with husband. maybe for me, in order to keep it chaste i would have to sleep in another bed . i dont know. but thank you for your (name removed by moderator)ut.
i didnt say showing affection always makes anyone aroused. i’m arguing about sematics and i still think you don’t get it, but meh i’m tired. good day.
thank you.
I think every couple is different, and if it turns out that when you’re married you need to sleep in a different bed to keep yourself comfortable, then that’s what you do. Not because it’s wrong to sleep together, but because it’s a distraction and you need sleep. You and your husband will figure out what things to avoid and what things are okay. If you find that it’s hard, you may have to be more careful than some. Your level of self-control can also be a good gauge as to how much you actually really need to practice NFP, too. If you really cannot become pregnant for good reasons, it’s a lot easier to avoid. If your reasons aren’t so important, it can be more difficult.
Always good to know the rules/facts etc so never too early!
This is not in accord with Catholic teaching- it is not that black and white - prudence is required. It appears to be a personal perspective only.
Talk about sarcastic
Sorry, when I hug my son, there isn’t anything sexual about it. When I kissed my mother on her cheek, no sexuality there, either. Mothering isn’t sexual.
Not all affection and touch leads to sexual intimacy.
