Acceptable for people to date others of the same sex?

[deogratias]

Dating in what sense of the word? What would be the motives for dating at age 15?

If it is just companionship at age 15 that seems fine (someone to go to the movies with, the game, the dance) but any romantic involvement at age 15 could be big trouble and any physical contact that would result in arousal definitely taboo. I know this is difficult in todays secular world with so much peer pressure but it is not impossible to limit social situations to group activities with special friendships and still not “date”.

 

[ThyKingdomCome]

Obviously, you’re trying to evangelize her on the points of sexual morality. May God give you courage and wisdom.

I was at a point in my life once where I felt connected to the Church, but disagreed with her on many of the “hot topics,” and was getting influenced to look into other spiritualities and was making friends who were leading me in the WRONG direction. Two things happened to bring me back to a position of full love and obedience of the Church.

1. I was challenged to love the church, before I was convinced of all of her arguments. I was taught why the Church can speak authoritatively on any issue, not just these issues, and how Jesus speaks to us definitively through the magisterium. Once I accepted that, I was willing to grudgingly accept her teachings even though I didn’t understand them. For some people, rather than convincing them NOT to do something (like be in an inappropriate same-sex relationship), it is more fruitful to give them something TO DO - like really understand and accept the love of Christ and the guidance of His Church.
2. This may be the most important: I stayed connected to the Church throughout my time of questioning/dissent/rebellion. I had friends who could not have convinced me of any doctrine, but who were loving and accepting people who welcomed me into their circle. They invited me to prayer group, retreats, dinner at the diner, etc. I wanted to be around them because they were such loving people who liked me! Because of that connection, I eventually went with them on the retreat where someone else convinced me of the other stuff (see #1).

So I say, whatever your friend does, keep the connection. Stay loving. Keep being a friend. Keep inviting her into the fold even as she strays and even if you can’t convince her of anything. Maybe you’ll lead her to someone who will be able to do that. Someday she may look back at this time and marvel that God kept you in her life while he patiently waited for the right time to convert her heart.

God Bless,
TKC

 

[Faithful_2_Rome]

People need to stop coming at religion from an aspect of “God wants me to happy, and since doing “xyz” will make me happy, that must mean God thinks its okay”

Instead…people need to be asking what they can do to make GOD HAPPY… in doing THAT, they will discover THEIR (true) happiness… though not without any crosses to bear.

This may sound trite…but she needs to be shown every pertinet passage in the New Testament, which shows acts of homosexuality are NOT what God intends for someones “happiness”

 

[carol_marie]

I agree! God does not want us to be happy, he wants us to be obedient. Big difference. And it is only thru our obedience that we will ever be truly happy. <>< CM