Accepting others

[Anglewannabe]

In theory, I believe in accepting others. It is a different story to put it into practice in a genuine manner.

If I think about someone I haven’t seen in years, it is a lot easier to accept they have a different view point. However, when I have to deal with some, eg a co-worker, neighbor, member of my parish and I really disagree with something that is going on, it is harder. Of course the first step is to bit ones tongue. But that is only going to get me so far. At some point, I need to really respect this person as they are regardless of what they think and do.

So how to get to that point? A friend once told me that she always says to herself ‘I try to remember this is the person Jesus died for’ Well, true enough, but it still does not bring me to the point where I can honestly say I accept the way he/she is. How to get to that point?

Angie

 

[PelagiathePenit]

In theory, I believe in accepting others. It is a different story to put it into practice in a genuine manner.

If I think about someone I haven’t seen in years, it is a lot easier to accept they have a different view point. However, when I have to deal with some, eg a co-worker, neighbor, member of my parish and I really disagree with something that is going on, it is harder. Of course the first step is to bit ones tongue. But that is only going to get me so far. At some point, I need to really respect this person as they are regardless of what they think and do.

So how to get to that point? A friend once told me that she always says to herself ‘I try to remember this is the person Jesus died for’ Well, true enough, but it still does not bring me to the point where I can honestly say I accept the way he/she is. How to get to that point?

Angie

Dude, don’t trip. I think most people struggle to fully accept people who think very different than them. I guess some do not. It is difficult being a human, isn’t? Try to see things from things their point of view as best as you can. You may hate this answer but pray. Do not beat yourself up. You are struggling work in progress. God bless

 

[Mary_Estelle]

Dude, don’t trip. I think most people struggle to fully accept people who think very different than them. I guess some do not. It is difficult being a human, isn’t? Try to see things from things their point of view as best as you can. You may hate this answer but pray. Do not beat yourself up. You are struggling work in progress. God bless

I have an idea. Stop calling everyone “Dude.” Everyone is not a “Dude.” Many that you respond to are female, not “Dudes.” Even if you are addressing men I find it disrespectful. Just my opinion.

 

[Gertabelle]

In theory, I believe in accepting others. It is a different story to put it into practice in a genuine manner.

If I think about someone I haven’t seen in years, it is a lot easier to accept they have a different view point. However, when I have to deal with some, eg a co-worker, neighbor, member of my parish and I really disagree with something that is going on, it is harder. Of course the first step is to bit ones tongue. But that is only going to get me so far. At some point, I need to really respect this person as they are regardless of what they think and do.

So how to get to that point? A friend once told me that she always says to herself ‘I try to remember this is the person Jesus died for’ Well, true enough, but it still does not bring me to the point where I can honestly say I accept the way he/she is. How to get to that point?

Angie

I’m 48 now, and this is super easy for me at this point. I’ve made such a mess of my life, and as the Psalmist says, “my sins are always before me.” There is no way I can pass judgment on others, knowing how far I fell in the past, knowing what I am capable of when I reject God’s grace.

I think a better way of looking at others is not about “accepting” them.

Think instead of having compassion on them – everyone is struggling with something at times, and many people feel overwhelmed, even hopeless in their situation.

Think instead of serving Christ through them – regardless of what you dislike in a person, they still need to see the love of God in action in their lives. That could be “biting your tongue,” sharing a kind word, offering to help in a concrete way (e.g., hold a door open), etc. Remembering that it is Christ you are serving will keep you humble, because none of us is worthy to serve Christ.

Keep exploring what it means to live Christian Charity. Make it a habit to search, to reflect, to examine your own conscience. You WILL see a growth in virtue if you ask for God’s help and work with His grace. It may be slow or quick, but never give up.

God bless you!

 

[PelagiathePenit]

I have an idea. Stop calling everyone “Dude.” Everyone is not a “Dude.” Many that you respond to are female, not “Dudes.” Even if you are addressing men I find it disrespectful. Just my opinion.

It is Southern California talk. Did not mean to disrespect