Here’s my humble take on this:
- In the Gospels of Matthew, Mark and Luke there is no mention of the three Mary’s or John at the foot of the cross. It is only in the Gospel of John he says that this is mentioned. He states that it seems like **the author of John was doing a clean-up act ** for this discrepancy in the other gospels by adding the three Mary’s and John at the foot of the cross.
The young man then said that the
reason for so many discrepancies is that none of the apostles/disciples of Christ were witnesses to the crucifixion and that it is only in Matthew and Mark that the women were mentioned
looking at the crucifixion from afar.
Then he went on to say that Christians will often try to reconcile this by saying that the women, the Mary’s and John were at first looking from a distance and simply moved forward to the foot of the cross.
If you’ll look at the Gospels, John describes Jesus as being still alive when the women are near His cross - but when the Synoptics talk about the women standing from a distance, Jesus is spoken of as already being dead.
Now from the sixth hour there was darkness over all the land until the ninth hour. And about the ninth hour Jesus cried out with a loud voice, saying, “
Eli, Eli, lema sabachtani?” (that is, ‘
My God, my God, why have you abandoned me?’) But some of those who stood there, when they heard it, said, “
This man is calling for Elijah!” And immediately one of them ran and took a sponge, filled it with sour wine and put it on a reed staff, and gave it to Him to drink. But the rest said, “
Leave Him alone! let us see if Elijah will come to save Him.” [Another took a spear and pierced Him in the side, and water and blood flowed out.*]
And Jesus cried out again with a loud voice, and gave up His spirit.
…When the centurion and those with him who were guarding Jesus saw the earthquake and what took place, they were extremely terrified and said, “
Truly this was Son of God!”
And many women were also there, watching from a distance; they had followed Jesus from Galilee and ministered to Him. Among them were Mary the Magdalene, Mary the mother of James and Joseph, and the mother of the sons of Zebedee.
- Early and important MSS (א B C L Γ pc) have this sentence at the end of this verse. This comment finds such a strong parallel in John 19:34 that it was undoubtedly lifted from the Fourth Gospel by early, well-meaning scribes and inserted into Matthew 27:49. Consequently, even though the support for the shorter reading (A D W Θ Ë1,13 33 Ï lat sy sa bo) is not nearly as impressive, internal considerations on its behalf are compelling.
-Matthew 27:45-50, 54-56
And when the sixth hour had come, there was darkness over the whole land until the ninth hour. And at the ninth hour Jesus cried out with a loud voice, saying, “
Eloi, Eloi, lama sabachtani?” (which means, ‘
My God, my God, why have you abandoned me?’)
And some of those who stood by, when they heard it, said, “
Look, He is calling for Elijah!” Then someone ran, filled a sponge with sour wine, put it on a reed stick, and gave it to Him to drink, saying, “
Leave Him alone! Let us see if Elijah will come to take Him down!”
But Jesus cried out with a loud voice and breathed His last - and the veil of the temple was torn in two from top to bottom.
Now when the centurion (who stood in front of Him) saw the way He breathed his last, he said, “
Truly this man was Son of God!”
There were also women, watching from a distance, among whom were Mary the Magdalene, and Mary the mother of James the Younger and of Joses, and Salome; who, when He was in Galilee, also followed Him and ministered to Him, and many other women who came up with Him to Jerusalem.
-Mark 15:32-41
And it was about the sixth hour, and darkness came over the whole land until the ninth hour. The sun was obscured, and the veil of the temple was torn in two. And Jesus, calling out with a loud voice, said, “
Father, ‘into your hands I entrust my spirit!’”
Having said this, He breathed His last.
Now when the centurion saw what had happened, he praised God and said, “
Certainly this man was innocent!” And the whole crowd that had assembled for this spectacle, seeing what had taken place, beat their breasts and returned.
And all those who knew Him stood at a distance, and the women who followed Him from Galilee saw these things.
-Luke 23:44-49
Now standing beside the cross of Jesus were His mother, and the sister of His mother, Mary of Clopas, and Mary the Magdalene.* When Jesus therefore saw His mother, and the disciple whom He loved standing by, He said to his mother, “
Woman, behold, your son!” Then He said to the disciple, “
Behold, your mother!” And from that very hour that disciple took her to his own. After this Jesus, knowing that all things were now consummated, said (in order to consummate the Scripture), “
I thirst!” A jar full of sour wine was there, so they put a sponge soaked in sour wine on hyssop and brought it to His mouth. Therefore when He had received the sour wine, Jesus said, “
Consummated!”
And He bowed His head and gave over the spirit.
*The Greek here is ambiguous as to whether there were three or four women; whether Mary of Clopas is the same person as “His mother’s sister”. It is impossible to be certain, but when John’s account is compared to the synoptics it is easier to reconcile the accounts if four women were present than if there were only three. It also seems that if there were four women present, this would have been seen by the author to be in juxtaposition to the four soldiers present who performed the crucifixion.
-John 19:25-30