So I have simply been responding to the material given me, but I also admit that I find sexual denial and repression fairly evident in orthodox Christian teaching, and I find the soul-body duality of Christianity a neurotic point of view. And then there is Paul, who doesn’t help in this category. Sexual sin–as an argument for why entire cities were destroyed by God and why souls can burn in hell forever–strikes me as neurotically fixated on fear of the unusual and uncontained. And to suggest that ejaculation without chance of procreation is a sin is just more of that neurotic fixation on controlling deep urges rooted in bodily pleasure.
This Is a Long Response and I Apologize
I think there’s a lot of merit in what you’re saying when it comes to soul-body duality. The proper way to see the body and soul is that they are two aspects of one subject, the individual human person (who is always some particular person, John Smith Jr for example, and not just an instantiation of abstract “humanness.”) A soul without a body is not a whole person (which is why there is a Resurrection of the dead at the end of time.)Both the Gnostic-Manichean view (that the soul is good and the body bad) and the Cartesian view (that the soul is the ghost that runs the fleshy machine) are incorrect and in conflict with Catholicism proper.
However inasmuch as the spiritual part of man transcends (although it also participates in) his physical part, and inasmuch as his spiritual faculties (intellect, free will) are what make him a moral being, the spirit is higher in the ontological order.
Now I think that the Church has always struggled with the Manichean demon, indeed, most of the popular heresies in the history of the Church have been some form of Gnosis or Manicheanism. The Church has ruled against this sort of thing in councils, but defeating an error on paper doesn’t mean you’ve really removed it from people’s hearts. Augustine (who was himself a former Manichean,) was very hostile to sex after his conversion and held (I believe) that concupiscence made sex inherently sinful and that sex was the original sin… positions the Church rejected by the way.
Now if people are body and soul and Creation is good, a number of things follow. 1) The body and its natural functions are good and meaningful and 2) What we do with our bodies is not irrelevant, but may have a spiritual dimension as well. But if we have free will and it is possible for us to choose evil, then it is possible to do evil with our bodies. We cannot say “Well, it’s
just my body” as if the body were a vacuum cleaner that we happen to be operating. One’s body is oneself just as one’s soul is oneself. They can’t be separated except by death. If I discipline my body (by forcing myself to go running or by refusing a tasty snack that I don’t really need) I am also disciplining my spirit (in this case, the will.)
Having established then that what we do with our bodies is, or can be, spiritually, morally important, let’s take a look the sex instinct which you feel we Catholics are unfair to. Rather than write a long essay here in the forum, I’ll include a link to C.S. Lewis discussion of sexual sin, which I think really sums up the issue well.
philosophyforlife.com/mc15.htm
I realize I haven’t responded to everything you said, but I want to establish first that Catholicism is not “anti-sex” as you imagine. It is the misuse of sex which is anti-sex.