When Adam was asked if he had partaken of the forbidden fruit, we can observe his response: “The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat.” (Genesis 3:12)
After being told not to eat or he would die, he ate when Eve gave him the fruit. Now he is blaming Eve for his actions.
Eve was not only a gift to Adam from God, but with this supernal, crowning gift of the creation came the commandments and understanding that they:
1–“Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it…” (Genesis 1:28)
2–“have dominion” (meaning stewardship to help the earth flourish)
4–Eve was to be “an help meet for him.” God said that it “is not good that the man should be alone.” (Genesis 2:18)
The triune God of Christianity (Father, Son, Holy Spirit) made man. “Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”(Genesis1:27-29)
We don’t know why he made them male and female until Genesis 2:18. It turns out it is not good for the man to be alone and he needs a helper, God made woman. No “crowning gift of creation.” The Bible says “helper.” So God made man and woman to be fruitful, multiply, and have dominion over other creatures. Because they are standing in the Garden of Eden when God gave these commands, they could have carried them out in the garden.
3–“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24) This is far more than a physical “cleaving” and becoming “one flesh”. It is to gain a spiritual and communicative oneness also that brings joy to both partners, whereby they enhance each others’ abilities and unique gifts.
After God made all the creatures of the earth trying to find a helper for Adam, he made woman. Man was pleased because she was human (Genesis 2:23). One man and one woman is how marriage is described (Genesis 2:24). Jesus references this when he talks about how there is no divorce. (Matthew 19:3-9). We also know that a man is free to marry if his wife dies (Mark 12:18-25). I don’t see anything about “spiritual and communicative oneness.” I see Christian marriage which lasts all the days of their life; at death it ends.
Any notion that Adam was “choosing Eve over God” is simply not reading Genesis with any level of understanding, at all. How many ways did God need to say that Eve was to be with Adam and Adam was to be with Eve, for their mutual blessing?
God said man should not be along and he should be married to a (singular) woman for the rest of their lives together. Woman didn’t have a name until after they had sinned, and in some versions of the Bible; man didn’t either.
Gen 2:17 Man (not woman) was commanded not to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil or he would die.
Gen 3:4 The serpent tells woman if she eats from the tree she will be like God. She eats the fruit, gives some to man and he eats it.
Gen 3:12-13 Man blames woman, and woman blames the serpent.
God told Adam he listened to his wife and not God. Gen 3:17 (And to Adam he said, "Because you have listened to the voice of your wife and have eaten of the tree of which I commanded you, ‘You shall not eat of it,’ cursed is the ground because of you; in pain you shall eat of it all the days of your life) Paul calls this the sin of Adam (1 Cor 15:21-23, Roman 5:12-19). Gen 3:17-19 clearly shows Adam to be is a worse situation that he was before. God said the sin of Adam was the fact that Adam chose to listen to his wife and chose not to listen to God. It is very clear in the text.
Adam had a choice dilemma. He had indeed received the commandment not to partake of the forbidden fruit or he would die, but one observes that his decision was that the commandments from God relating to his being a support and a companion to Eve, and she to him, was regarded by Adam as the more important commandments to keep. This is evident from his decision not to be selfish and remain in the garden of Eden while Eve would die and be sent away from the garden of Eden. He said “gavest to be with me” as he told God why he partook of the forbidden fruit. If one reads the words, the words have deep meaning about his reasoning and his choice.
Yes, Adam was given a command not to eat the fruit of the tree of knowledge. Eve was made by God to be a helper to Adam not the other way around. After Eve ate the fruit, she would die. After she died, Adam would be free to take a wife, so God could make another helper for man to be fruitful and multiply, etc. in the Garden of Eden. Adam was not in a dilemma; he chose Eve over God (Genesis 3:17)
There are so many ramifications with the kinds of questions such as: “Is Adam’s choice to stay with Eve something God would reward? Didn’t Jesus make it clear that if you chose family over him, you were not worthy of him?” and “is he choosing Eve over God?”
Is this the “asked lots of questions, it is all so confusing gambit” I see frequently in Mormon apologetics? God did not reward Adam for eating the fruit. Yes, Adam chose Eve over God (Genesis 3:17) Christ preferred celibacy but never demanded it; remember God made a helper for man.